I work away from home and I am surrounded by competitive people, it is a strange atmosphere. These people are constantly trying to get one-upmanship, taking the piss out of people, belittling them in front of others and stuff like this, I know someone who suffers from this regularly and it is boring to watch, but it seems common.
The only reason I can really think of is it makes them feel good about themselves. I much prefer to be friendly to people and have a laugh, banter is ok, but character assassination makes me feel sick. In general most people are not honest and never share their feelings or thoughts as they are scared they will become the butt of jokes themselves, this is sad.
Everyone has insecurities and I have mine, but when I go out I like to chill and have a good time, good conversation, some jokes, be nice to people and I never ridicule someone else. Why can't most people be like this, sometimes when I go out it's like being back in school, people actually bullying others, I didn't like seeing it when I was a kid and I don't like it now. Nights out now are hard work, I find myself leaving early and turning down invites as I prefer my own company to this.
I should also mention that the main people that act like this can't take it in return and things get messy, really it is like being in school.
One last thing is they are so nosey as well, I can't understand why people care so much about what others are doing? Maybe I sound antisocial but I am not
Has anyone else experienced this in their adult life or have any thoughts.
The only reason I can really think of is it makes them feel good about themselves. I much prefer to be friendly to people and have a laugh, banter is ok, but character assassination makes me feel sick. In general most people are not honest and never share their feelings or thoughts as they are scared they will become the butt of jokes themselves, this is sad.
Everyone has insecurities and I have mine, but when I go out I like to chill and have a good time, good conversation, some jokes, be nice to people and I never ridicule someone else. Why can't most people be like this, sometimes when I go out it's like being back in school, people actually bullying others, I didn't like seeing it when I was a kid and I don't like it now. Nights out now are hard work, I find myself leaving early and turning down invites as I prefer my own company to this.
I should also mention that the main people that act like this can't take it in return and things get messy, really it is like being in school.
One last thing is they are so nosey as well, I can't understand why people care so much about what others are doing? Maybe I sound antisocial but I am not
Has anyone else experienced this in their adult life or have any thoughts.