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Luna
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#1. So often, I hear about the wife complaining how the husband has become dull and predictable over time - though an excellent partner - but how she craves and wants to cheat with the new colleague.
#2. So often, I hear about how the man who is married to a loving, giving partner, but still misses the ex that verbally and mentally abused him.
Switch the sexes around, and nothing is changed.
Why?
Why do people feel like this?
I understand that there are many factors and reasons involved, but a part of me...I guess you could say, is disappointed.
Disappointed that no matter how much love and kindness you can show to a person, they may never feel the same in return. They will stay with you in their physical form (out of convenience/ comfort, for the children etc.), but their heart is elsewhere.
It bothers me.
Bothers me that these two situations that I have brought up, are real.
Why?
I can't understand.
How the people, who are blessed with a loving partner, cannot treasure it.
How that they find the partner - who has worked with them through endless hardship - dull, boring, predictable over time. What do they expect?
After spending much time with another person, that mystery gradually fades.
Should it not be understood that the superficial craving for "mystery" disappears, and a deeper bond is created?
I understand that you can't control how you feel, but yet...I can't.
So lucky are these two people that I mention...blessed to have partners that love them deeply. They know it, and everyone else among them.
But yet, they can so easily trash what would be another's treasure...
#2. So often, I hear about how the man who is married to a loving, giving partner, but still misses the ex that verbally and mentally abused him.
Switch the sexes around, and nothing is changed.
Why?
Why do people feel like this?
I understand that there are many factors and reasons involved, but a part of me...I guess you could say, is disappointed.
Disappointed that no matter how much love and kindness you can show to a person, they may never feel the same in return. They will stay with you in their physical form (out of convenience/ comfort, for the children etc.), but their heart is elsewhere.
It bothers me.
Bothers me that these two situations that I have brought up, are real.
Why?
I can't understand.
How the people, who are blessed with a loving partner, cannot treasure it.
How that they find the partner - who has worked with them through endless hardship - dull, boring, predictable over time. What do they expect?
After spending much time with another person, that mystery gradually fades.
Should it not be understood that the superficial craving for "mystery" disappears, and a deeper bond is created?
I understand that you can't control how you feel, but yet...I can't.
So lucky are these two people that I mention...blessed to have partners that love them deeply. They know it, and everyone else among them.
But yet, they can so easily trash what would be another's treasure...