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I'm taking a break from another forum I post on, geared towards a loveshy/incel nature, because it has merely become a filled with 30-something fat angry virgins who live in their parent's basement. They are nasty as hell, and have basically told me to give up on women and personal development.
One guy on the forum said that whenever a guy (who is not a sexy, jacked, bad-boy type) talks to a woman, the woman feels the same way someone would feel when a smelly dirty hobo asks you for money. Is that actually true?
I want to be a positive thinker, but I have too much negative thinking. I have to admit, I am angry as hell all of the time and I don't even know why. I feel so ******* incompetant. I'm doing everything in my ******* power to improve (martial arts class, weightlifting, Guardian Angels) but I'm still scared to death of talking to women.
I feel like most good-looking women see me as worthless because I'm not a fraternity guy, or dont have enough of a wangster/skater punk look to me (backwards hat, diamong earings, tattoos, walks cocky, talks honeysuckle) I know most of the girls on this forum probably think I'm saying this to get a reaction, but I'm not. This is honestly how I feel, and I feel like I have lost immediately when compared to those guys. Honestly, what woman would chose someone who could bench 150 if she could have a guy who could bench 250?
This isn't just about women. I feel intimidated all the time. I feel like people look at me like a monkey. I think Americans and kids my age (college) are nasty and mean-spirited as a general rule. I do have alot of friends from my church, but because they're not "cool-looking" like the people I described in the paragraph above, I feel like people look down on me when they see me with them. I know anyone who is "attractive" (male or female) has a right to be a dick to me whenever they want (and I have observed this from brief encounters, like asking for directions and such)
I know everyone here is gonna say "stop focusing on a girl" but I'm going to be 21 in five months. I can only get so much older without being branded a piece of honeysuckle by females, and my parents are going to start thinking I'm as queer as a three ******* dollar bill. My thinking can't afford to get anymore messed.
I am trying really hard to get rid of this thinking, so I am going to take a break from the other forum. Everyone here seems alot more mature and that they have alot more going on. I was at an event with my church last night, and there were actually alot of good-looking girls there, and believe it or not, they interacted with slightly nerdy guys. There were even some really confident nerds. And everyone was just happy. I wish I could have that happiness. I'm so sick of feeling angry and incompetent and powerless and disgusting. But I honestly, and I'm not saying this to offend, can't look at a good-looking girl without assuming that she's a nasty or mean-spirited person, even though I have had experiences that prove otherwise.
Hopefully if I make myself stay away from that other ******* forum for a week I will feel better.
One guy on the forum said that whenever a guy (who is not a sexy, jacked, bad-boy type) talks to a woman, the woman feels the same way someone would feel when a smelly dirty hobo asks you for money. Is that actually true?
I want to be a positive thinker, but I have too much negative thinking. I have to admit, I am angry as hell all of the time and I don't even know why. I feel so ******* incompetant. I'm doing everything in my ******* power to improve (martial arts class, weightlifting, Guardian Angels) but I'm still scared to death of talking to women.
I feel like most good-looking women see me as worthless because I'm not a fraternity guy, or dont have enough of a wangster/skater punk look to me (backwards hat, diamong earings, tattoos, walks cocky, talks honeysuckle) I know most of the girls on this forum probably think I'm saying this to get a reaction, but I'm not. This is honestly how I feel, and I feel like I have lost immediately when compared to those guys. Honestly, what woman would chose someone who could bench 150 if she could have a guy who could bench 250?
This isn't just about women. I feel intimidated all the time. I feel like people look at me like a monkey. I think Americans and kids my age (college) are nasty and mean-spirited as a general rule. I do have alot of friends from my church, but because they're not "cool-looking" like the people I described in the paragraph above, I feel like people look down on me when they see me with them. I know anyone who is "attractive" (male or female) has a right to be a dick to me whenever they want (and I have observed this from brief encounters, like asking for directions and such)
I know everyone here is gonna say "stop focusing on a girl" but I'm going to be 21 in five months. I can only get so much older without being branded a piece of honeysuckle by females, and my parents are going to start thinking I'm as queer as a three ******* dollar bill. My thinking can't afford to get anymore messed.
I am trying really hard to get rid of this thinking, so I am going to take a break from the other forum. Everyone here seems alot more mature and that they have alot more going on. I was at an event with my church last night, and there were actually alot of good-looking girls there, and believe it or not, they interacted with slightly nerdy guys. There were even some really confident nerds. And everyone was just happy. I wish I could have that happiness. I'm so sick of feeling angry and incompetent and powerless and disgusting. But I honestly, and I'm not saying this to offend, can't look at a good-looking girl without assuming that she's a nasty or mean-spirited person, even though I have had experiences that prove otherwise.
Hopefully if I make myself stay away from that other ******* forum for a week I will feel better.
