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I've always been considered somewhat of an odd/goofy kid since as far back as I can remember, but that wasn't hardly ever a bad thing before a certain age. When I was 8, we moved and it was then I started having trouble fitting in, I guess you could say. The neighborhood kids were kind of rednecky, and I got picked on a bit. At school I had like two close friends who I stuck with, and my parents did not like my best friend because he was a bad influence, so my dad did everything he could to sabotage the friendship. I didnt hate sports, I always played them, but I never got all macho and competitive about it, and I wasnt that good.
I've always been considered "entertaining" by most of my peers, or "weird in a cool way". I was diagnosed with ADD. When I was 12, I started hanging out with different kids than my best friend I made when I was 8. So he started being mean to me. The puberty years were right around the corner. At the end of 7th grade, the first girl I liked found out, and she was a ***** about it. Then 8th grade was worse, as the kids started seeing bad movies and hooking up, and they started to be ******** to me. This is when my really angry thinking began. At the end of 8th grade, this kid poked me in the ******* and told me I was a ***** who would get no ladies. My dad found out and him and another parent got the kid expelled, except he was friends with one of the teacher's sons, so she made sure the entire school found out about it, and all the parents at all the Catholic elementary schools found out too. They blew it out of proportion, and the rumor was that the kid had "fingered me up the ******* in the locker room"
At the beginning of high school, all the jock, cheerleader, "cool kids" called me the ass-rape kid, and asked me constantly about it. I didnt even know these people. Worse, the girl I liked in middle school and some friends spread rumors I had a "list of girls". All these girls came up to me flirting asking "what number am I on your list". Flattered by their attention, I made up random numbers. Then I realized they were all making fun of me, so I said I'd kill myself, I guess trying to get pity. They went to the Dean and reported me saying I "had a rape list".
Everyone thought I was a school buffoon, but people were nice to me because I "entertained them". But I didnt really have any friends, my friends that I was in marching band with were jealous that the jocks gave me so much attention, even though it was mockery. My dad knew this was depressing me, but he said bullshit like "you have no right to be depressed, you're a white private school kid, all the 'cool' people will grow up to be street-sweepers, and you'll have a good job." By my sophomore year, I began to pack on a good group of friends, but when school dances came around, I realized that I was "incel", because it was always hard to find a girl to go with.
I was skinny as hell in High School and had a big nose and really dark features, I was in the band and on the cross-country team, so I certainly could not have been considered attractive by High School standards. (even though some of the band and cross-country kids did get hook ups) There was one girl in HS school who for sophomore, junior, and senior year would lead me on and friendzone me, again and again, I was so in love with her. But by the end of my junior year, I was considered a relatively popular kid, throwing parties, everyone wanted me to make an appearance at their parties, etc... Junior year I started publishing a fake newsletter making fun of all the kids at school and I became very popular as a result. (it was just a small school, only 1200 people)
So then the summer between junior and senior year, me and the friendzone girl spent so much of our time together. She made me feel so attractive and confident, and she gave me signs she liked me, but I could never make myself kiss her. Everyone at school respected me as a unique individual, thought I was hilarious, even though I was still goofy and awkward (and wasn't a badass, cause I didnt drink or smoke weed). Then I found out this girl had been dating an effeminate friend of mine behind my back all this time. I kept lying to myself, saying it wasnt true, because they would never PDA (and had been asexual best friends the year before). I started falling to pieces.
I realized a couple things. I had always wanted to be a macho man, and I realized one thing that was so "funny" about me was the fact that I was this skinny Catholic school band kid who never drank, so there was nothing "macho" about me, but I always walked and acted cocky. And I realized people thought I was funny, but I had no sex appeal to a girl, and guys didnt really take me seriously as "a guy" either. Not like I was effeminate, just quirky. I realized most teachers and adults thought I was this immature spaz kid too. To make things worse, the fact that I went to a Catholic school made adults say things like that I was "sheltered" and "knew nothing of the real world" or "would get messed up every day in THE REAL WORLD". I started thinking about myself as this pussy, and I got really really depressed. I didnt realize until I got fired from my first real job the summer I turned 18 that no employer would take me seriously either.
So that's when I kind of snapped. I told the friendzoning girl that I never wanted to see her again. I didnt want to be this skinny, bumbling, quirky, awkward, goofy Forrest Gump kid anymore. I wanted to be a man, I wanted to be taken seriously by employers, and I wanted to be seen as sexy by girls. I started weightlifting after high school. I started college at a very small Catholic college (same size as my High School).
I thought that the "cool kid" bullshit, and the "jock vs. nerd" bullshit ended at high school, and that pretty girls would give guys who weren't "jocks" a chance. Boy was I wrong as fresia. I had never drank before I was 18 so I got teased for that. I moved on a hall full of cocky, macho, partier guys who pretended to be my friend and picked on me. I was as intimidated as fresia all the time. Sometimes I would try to be like them (it never worked). So eventually I shut my mouth and started to withdraw. (there's more to the story which I can post later on)
I have alot of friends now, but am still extremely intimidated by girls I find attractive. I have sacrificed the popularity I had for being "quirky" in High School because I want people to take me seriously. I dont expect girls to find sex appeal in quirkyness. I am somewhat distrusting, withdrawn and skeptical of people until I feel like people look at me like a real adult man with a dick.
I just feel like I have not smiled in the longest time, but being a 20-year old virgin makes me feel dirty and disgusting. I fear people being able to tell by looking at me. I can spot a quirky, nerdy virgin young adult by his dress-sense, build, voice, and gait, and I am scared as fresia of people comparing me to them.
I just want to smile again. I'm sick of being angry, but I don't know what to do.
I've always been considered "entertaining" by most of my peers, or "weird in a cool way". I was diagnosed with ADD. When I was 12, I started hanging out with different kids than my best friend I made when I was 8. So he started being mean to me. The puberty years were right around the corner. At the end of 7th grade, the first girl I liked found out, and she was a ***** about it. Then 8th grade was worse, as the kids started seeing bad movies and hooking up, and they started to be ******** to me. This is when my really angry thinking began. At the end of 8th grade, this kid poked me in the ******* and told me I was a ***** who would get no ladies. My dad found out and him and another parent got the kid expelled, except he was friends with one of the teacher's sons, so she made sure the entire school found out about it, and all the parents at all the Catholic elementary schools found out too. They blew it out of proportion, and the rumor was that the kid had "fingered me up the ******* in the locker room"
At the beginning of high school, all the jock, cheerleader, "cool kids" called me the ass-rape kid, and asked me constantly about it. I didnt even know these people. Worse, the girl I liked in middle school and some friends spread rumors I had a "list of girls". All these girls came up to me flirting asking "what number am I on your list". Flattered by their attention, I made up random numbers. Then I realized they were all making fun of me, so I said I'd kill myself, I guess trying to get pity. They went to the Dean and reported me saying I "had a rape list".
Everyone thought I was a school buffoon, but people were nice to me because I "entertained them". But I didnt really have any friends, my friends that I was in marching band with were jealous that the jocks gave me so much attention, even though it was mockery. My dad knew this was depressing me, but he said bullshit like "you have no right to be depressed, you're a white private school kid, all the 'cool' people will grow up to be street-sweepers, and you'll have a good job." By my sophomore year, I began to pack on a good group of friends, but when school dances came around, I realized that I was "incel", because it was always hard to find a girl to go with.
I was skinny as hell in High School and had a big nose and really dark features, I was in the band and on the cross-country team, so I certainly could not have been considered attractive by High School standards. (even though some of the band and cross-country kids did get hook ups) There was one girl in HS school who for sophomore, junior, and senior year would lead me on and friendzone me, again and again, I was so in love with her. But by the end of my junior year, I was considered a relatively popular kid, throwing parties, everyone wanted me to make an appearance at their parties, etc... Junior year I started publishing a fake newsletter making fun of all the kids at school and I became very popular as a result. (it was just a small school, only 1200 people)
So then the summer between junior and senior year, me and the friendzone girl spent so much of our time together. She made me feel so attractive and confident, and she gave me signs she liked me, but I could never make myself kiss her. Everyone at school respected me as a unique individual, thought I was hilarious, even though I was still goofy and awkward (and wasn't a badass, cause I didnt drink or smoke weed). Then I found out this girl had been dating an effeminate friend of mine behind my back all this time. I kept lying to myself, saying it wasnt true, because they would never PDA (and had been asexual best friends the year before). I started falling to pieces.
I realized a couple things. I had always wanted to be a macho man, and I realized one thing that was so "funny" about me was the fact that I was this skinny Catholic school band kid who never drank, so there was nothing "macho" about me, but I always walked and acted cocky. And I realized people thought I was funny, but I had no sex appeal to a girl, and guys didnt really take me seriously as "a guy" either. Not like I was effeminate, just quirky. I realized most teachers and adults thought I was this immature spaz kid too. To make things worse, the fact that I went to a Catholic school made adults say things like that I was "sheltered" and "knew nothing of the real world" or "would get messed up every day in THE REAL WORLD". I started thinking about myself as this pussy, and I got really really depressed. I didnt realize until I got fired from my first real job the summer I turned 18 that no employer would take me seriously either.
So that's when I kind of snapped. I told the friendzoning girl that I never wanted to see her again. I didnt want to be this skinny, bumbling, quirky, awkward, goofy Forrest Gump kid anymore. I wanted to be a man, I wanted to be taken seriously by employers, and I wanted to be seen as sexy by girls. I started weightlifting after high school. I started college at a very small Catholic college (same size as my High School).
I thought that the "cool kid" bullshit, and the "jock vs. nerd" bullshit ended at high school, and that pretty girls would give guys who weren't "jocks" a chance. Boy was I wrong as fresia. I had never drank before I was 18 so I got teased for that. I moved on a hall full of cocky, macho, partier guys who pretended to be my friend and picked on me. I was as intimidated as fresia all the time. Sometimes I would try to be like them (it never worked). So eventually I shut my mouth and started to withdraw. (there's more to the story which I can post later on)
I have alot of friends now, but am still extremely intimidated by girls I find attractive. I have sacrificed the popularity I had for being "quirky" in High School because I want people to take me seriously. I dont expect girls to find sex appeal in quirkyness. I am somewhat distrusting, withdrawn and skeptical of people until I feel like people look at me like a real adult man with a dick.
I just feel like I have not smiled in the longest time, but being a 20-year old virgin makes me feel dirty and disgusting. I fear people being able to tell by looking at me. I can spot a quirky, nerdy virgin young adult by his dress-sense, build, voice, and gait, and I am scared as fresia of people comparing me to them.
I just want to smile again. I'm sick of being angry, but I don't know what to do.