I'd like to share this with all of you. I randomly found this. The publishing date is 2002, so this is relatively recent and modern advice. Here it is:
Title: STOP GETTING DUMPED!: All you need to know to make men fall in love with you
Author: Lisa Daily (never heard of her, and she offers no credentials of any kind)
The book is, obviously, geared toward single women. Here is the advice she offers:
NEVER call a man
NEVER offer a man your phone number unless he asks you
NEVER return a man's phone calls
NEVER ask a man for a date
NEVER get the bill
ALWAYS be the dream girl
And on the cover it says "Marry the man of your dreams in 3 years or your money back!"
In other words ladies, be lazy, and put all of the pressure on the man to initiate everything. I have no idea what the last bit of advice means.
Personally, as a man, if a woman did what Ms. Daily is advising (i.e. showing absolutely no interest), I'd dump her, or I would not have enough confidence to even ask her out. If a woman asked me out without provocation from me, I'd be pleasantly surprised, I'd find it refreshing, and I'd be intrigued and want to pursue her as well. Also, since this is 2010, and most women have jobs, I don't think it's entirely forbidden for women to pay, or at the very least for both the woman and the man to split the bill (actually, at the moment more women have jobs than men, so perhaps it's time for a reversal of the old system, ha ha).
The authoress claims that if a woman asks a man out on a date, she will freak him out, and she suggests that women who do so are promiscuous, and men will expect to get sex from them right away. She claims that men need to be the pursuers, and women need to always be coy and feign disinterest.
Also, the little "Marry your man in 3 years or your money back" thing makes it sound like Ms. Daily is a saleswoman who is peddling this book to desperate women who see marriage as their only definition of self-worth.
Basically, Ms. Daily is reinforcing stereotypes and negative views of assertive female sexuality. I would expect this sort of stuff in a book from the 1950s perhaps, but 2002? Jesus Christ. I hope women aren't reading this crap, and if they are, I hope they aren't taking it seriously.
Title: STOP GETTING DUMPED!: All you need to know to make men fall in love with you
Author: Lisa Daily (never heard of her, and she offers no credentials of any kind)
The book is, obviously, geared toward single women. Here is the advice she offers:
NEVER call a man
NEVER offer a man your phone number unless he asks you
NEVER return a man's phone calls
NEVER ask a man for a date
NEVER get the bill
ALWAYS be the dream girl
And on the cover it says "Marry the man of your dreams in 3 years or your money back!"
In other words ladies, be lazy, and put all of the pressure on the man to initiate everything. I have no idea what the last bit of advice means.
Personally, as a man, if a woman did what Ms. Daily is advising (i.e. showing absolutely no interest), I'd dump her, or I would not have enough confidence to even ask her out. If a woman asked me out without provocation from me, I'd be pleasantly surprised, I'd find it refreshing, and I'd be intrigued and want to pursue her as well. Also, since this is 2010, and most women have jobs, I don't think it's entirely forbidden for women to pay, or at the very least for both the woman and the man to split the bill (actually, at the moment more women have jobs than men, so perhaps it's time for a reversal of the old system, ha ha).
The authoress claims that if a woman asks a man out on a date, she will freak him out, and she suggests that women who do so are promiscuous, and men will expect to get sex from them right away. She claims that men need to be the pursuers, and women need to always be coy and feign disinterest.
Also, the little "Marry your man in 3 years or your money back" thing makes it sound like Ms. Daily is a saleswoman who is peddling this book to desperate women who see marriage as their only definition of self-worth.
Basically, Ms. Daily is reinforcing stereotypes and negative views of assertive female sexuality. I would expect this sort of stuff in a book from the 1950s perhaps, but 2002? Jesus Christ. I hope women aren't reading this crap, and if they are, I hope they aren't taking it seriously.