valerie
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Dear all,
just want to share my thought and ask for opinions.
I ended a long relationship with a girl back in 2007 which gave me gigantic blow to my personal mental health. I was so attached to previous relationship that making me living in hell so that I tried to detach from it in a same time.
During the painful process, I felt lonely and solitary in the same time since most of my friends were married and had their own agenda. Loneliness grew to sexual frustration. However I chose not to succumb to my own peril by being a negative person thus I did networking, exercising, and practicing my hobbies.
I realized that there are two things that causing my sexual crisis. First was my attachment to an image of previous relationship, which was so strong making me hard to attract to a female gender. Second was my preoccupation to my work that required long hours of work. Currently I'm setting up a business that hogging time, money, and energy. Because of the setup, I don't have source of income thus getting a girl would be (from my view) inappropriate and burdensome.
Prostitution is not the right answer for my problem since I'm a very conservative (maybe prudish) person aside from the risk of getting an infection. Although I like sex a lot, I try to avoid it as much as I can.
Masturbation can be a quick fix to my problem but it isn't really a solution since it doesn't really kill the frustration, let alone loneliness.
I try to practice celibacy (just for this transition period before I get this business working) like Roman Catholics priest do, but there is very little guide of hows (this is probably related to the scandals but I don't want to get into that). My strategy is during this period I can concentrate on my business without rule out networking with other people and do some social work. I suppose that after I got source of income, things will get better.
Funny things happened, once I thought that doing some welfare work would release some of my frustration and anger, as turned out that it was the other way around. Social work is hard and need some sacrifice although there is some good feel too. I feel I can't discontinue this action because if I did, I would lose some connections to the outside world, also this practice is strengthening my social skill.
Anybody wants to share ideas how to channel sexual desire without involving prostitution, casual sex, or masturbation? Any practical ideas on how Catholics Priest do it? Just want to share...
Regards,
Valerie
just want to share my thought and ask for opinions.
I ended a long relationship with a girl back in 2007 which gave me gigantic blow to my personal mental health. I was so attached to previous relationship that making me living in hell so that I tried to detach from it in a same time.
During the painful process, I felt lonely and solitary in the same time since most of my friends were married and had their own agenda. Loneliness grew to sexual frustration. However I chose not to succumb to my own peril by being a negative person thus I did networking, exercising, and practicing my hobbies.
I realized that there are two things that causing my sexual crisis. First was my attachment to an image of previous relationship, which was so strong making me hard to attract to a female gender. Second was my preoccupation to my work that required long hours of work. Currently I'm setting up a business that hogging time, money, and energy. Because of the setup, I don't have source of income thus getting a girl would be (from my view) inappropriate and burdensome.
Prostitution is not the right answer for my problem since I'm a very conservative (maybe prudish) person aside from the risk of getting an infection. Although I like sex a lot, I try to avoid it as much as I can.
Masturbation can be a quick fix to my problem but it isn't really a solution since it doesn't really kill the frustration, let alone loneliness.
I try to practice celibacy (just for this transition period before I get this business working) like Roman Catholics priest do, but there is very little guide of hows (this is probably related to the scandals but I don't want to get into that). My strategy is during this period I can concentrate on my business without rule out networking with other people and do some social work. I suppose that after I got source of income, things will get better.
Funny things happened, once I thought that doing some welfare work would release some of my frustration and anger, as turned out that it was the other way around. Social work is hard and need some sacrifice although there is some good feel too. I feel I can't discontinue this action because if I did, I would lose some connections to the outside world, also this practice is strengthening my social skill.
Anybody wants to share ideas how to channel sexual desire without involving prostitution, casual sex, or masturbation? Any practical ideas on how Catholics Priest do it? Just want to share...
Regards,
Valerie