Sexually frustrated

Anyone out there sexually frustrated?

For those who have not had sex yet.. DO NOT FEEL BAD IF YOU HAVENT (I was worried about posting this because I promise your day will come if you just stick to it, you can PM me on that topic)



I've been single now for a loooonnngg 6 years, I had one night stand maybe 7 months ago and it was terrible .. I'm 29 and it seems like I cant even remember the last time I had real physical connection with a women... somebody I really liked and I was turned on by. It's been a long time but I know it completely changes my mind set and I so crave that.

I got to say to be completely honest if I didnt have faith I would find someone to share an emotional and physical touch again, I truely think i would have killed myself by now.

Its not that I want to die.. I just want my life to work so bad it hurts.

I know what you mean. I'm 19 and have never been on a date. I look around at people around me and there's just that same horrible ache of fear and shame that makes you want to step in front of a train; and that false sense that nobody understands.
erm, I guess I mean to say that I understand that pain.

i know what you mean but im 28 and have never even been in a relationship or on a real date. it is definitely starting to catch up to me though.

I'm sexually frustrated too. I try to keep it out of mind; sometimes it my motivation to keep doing the daily routine. Seeing other people around my age (20) in relationships makes me feel like crap. I'm trying to hang out with "friends of friends" and network in hopes of meeting someone.

Every time I have had sex (which is infrequently) I have had difficulty figuring out good positions and penetrating whilst wearing a condom which has always been a disappointment for both of us. The physical side can't do it for me, I don't know if I need my mind stimulated further or if I need close intimacy with someone but I would describe it as very frustrating.

Partly though, I would say i've been in a sexual malaise since I grew up young with an internet connection in my room and access to pornography. I've been completely desensitized and burnt out on fantasising about vanilla sex, after developing a taste for fetishist acts and BDSM which I wasn't old enough to comprehend the ambiguous nature of fully. It left me feeling rather unsure about myself sexually, and i've only recently started coming to terms with understanding myself in this manner and realising how many people out there have their own little peculiarities I can relate to.

I completely love and respect women, problem is when it comes to having vanilla sex and i'm not fully erect because she can't stimulate me I always feel bad. I love the intimacy of being close, but when it comes to pleasuring her I can only do it through foreplay.

I'm 30. I've only barely had a sexual relationship with my ex-girlfriend (cause she was cheating on me). I haven't been in a relationship since I broke up with her a good four or five years ago and I don't do one night stands...it's just not me.

I hope to kill my sexuality altogether (At least that's the goal). If successful, I hope I could spend my life just working till I die.

I last had sex in 2004. The first few years were the hardest. The original problem was the losing the physical aspect, but now it's more about the emotional stuff. Sex is one of the few things that works for me with the Alexithymia. For whatever reason, those wires connect during that, and I suddenly manage to process everything. Meh. I often wish I'd never had sex in the first place. Then, I wouldn't know what I was missing... but then, I'd have never given birth to my best friend and had the honor of her calling me, "Mom".

Well I have the opposite problem actually. I have never had problems locating sexual partners. Older ladies showing me the ropes in high school, strippers and women of questionable morals while in the Army, grunge and goth gals in the late 80's & early 90's - until I met my first wife. I was celibate for a while after she was gone but now play the field once again - though I am much more picky now (as you get older guys you will set the bar higher). I have trouble connecting beyond the friends with bennies thing, just can't seem to form the deeper emotional bonds now.

Going without 'it' can be immensly frustrating especially in this society where it is constantly used to tap into our emotions and our egos..
Meaningless sex is easy if you know where to look..but it's a health risk and can cause physical and psychological damage..
Not having been in a truely loving healthy 'relationship' I do not know what I am missing out on but my conscience tells me that this is what I should strive for and being with someone is not just about having sex..
We are not animals and sex should be an expression of love..

But yes it does get frustraiting especially when you think that everyone is having fun except you...grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

nope can't say i have ever felt sexually frustrated ever. think it is more of a guy thing.

stella said:

nope can't say i have ever felt sexually frustrated ever. think it is more of a guy thing.

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I agree.

SophiaGrace said:

stella said:

nope can't say i have ever felt sexually frustrated ever. think it is more of a guy thing.

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I agree.

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related to testosterone levels maybe?

stella said:

SophiaGrace said:

stella said:

nope can't say i have ever felt sexually frustrated ever. think it is more of a guy thing.

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I agree.

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related to testosterone levels maybe?

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no idea. o_o

I feel like I missed the bus when it comes to sex.
A lot of people my age already know their likes/ dislikes, comfortable with sex etc.

While I...
H@s no skillZ!!1111 D:

I used to desire for a genuine, healthy relationship to explore my sexuality.
I say "used to" because I've given up.

It's frustrating because I am not interested in casual sex, and yet, that is all I'm offered.

Yes.
Because I would REALLY LOVE to lose my virginity on a drunken night in the backseat of some guy's car; only to end up pregnant and abandoned.

Or perhaps have awkward/ clumsy/ surprising sex due to lack of communication because...with one-night stands; the intent is just "WHAM, BAM, THANK YOU MAM".

Sometimes I wish I could separate my emotions from what my body feels, but I can't.
At times I've thought...ehhh, why not I just go f*** around?
But I can't bring myself to do so.

Most people don't take care of their sexual health; when I mention STDs, they all cringe. Not a single sexually active person that I know, regularly sees their doctors or has their partner tested. It's a "Ignorance is bliss" mentality especially with people in my age group.

Either way, I should just stop living amongst people and take pills to kill my sex-drive.
I feel like I've failed at being a sexual being and I might as well stop giving myself false hope and pursue my hobbies to keep me occupied.

Um...

I like art. ^-^

SophiaGrace said:

stella said:

nope can't say i have ever felt sexually frustrated ever. think it is more of a guy thing.

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I agree.

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How old are you gals? You might feel differently later. Or maybe I'm just weird.

I've been celibate ever since I moved back to my hometown and I feel like I'm going crazy. I hate it. Six months isn't a long time at all...I think it has more to do with no prospects for sex in the future more than lack of sex in the past. No way I'm going to boff what few guys I'm actually exposed to here in the middle of nowhere. I KNOW no sex is better than bad sex, but my libido doesn't care for my discrimination.

This notion of it being a guy thing makes me feel manly!

Is it wrong to have never had sex but never felt frustrated?

Of course not. We are all wired different, some people have a higher drive than others. I sometimes wish I didn't have a sex drive. I can imagine all the drama I could have avoided in my life had I simply kept my pants on...

I suppose it depends on the definition of frustrated. If by frustrated you mean cockblocked by fate, the fabric of time and space, and the very universe itself, then yes, by the flowing beard of Zeus I feel such a frustration rattling in my very bones!

...one bone in particular.

suckaG said:

I suppose it depends on the definition of frustrated. If by frustrated you mean cockblocked by fate, the fabric of time and space, and the very universe itself, then yes, by the flowing beard of Zeus I feel such a frustration rattling in my very bones!

...one bone in particular.

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lulz