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You know, I often hear how awful getting older is, but I have always been excited about getting older, moving on, a higher existence, I love being young don't get me wrong, but I also want to love the process of ageing, I plan my 30th birthday already, and i'm no where near 30.

I have a romantic view of turning 45 with 19 years of marriage under my belt, teenage children and husband who thinks i'm ... Beyonce lol

I guess life is funny, I want to watch someone take over, go on their first date and ask me, if I approve of
this "no good" they brought home.

I know I know real life isn't like that, but I just hope it's something like that...
 

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I suppose it just entirely depends on how you age. Like someone with a lot of health problems as they age or arthritis or whatever is not going to like getting older as much as someone who is extremely healthy and has no problems, ya know?

I don't really mind getting older so much. I have a few issues, but honestly, they all started before I was "old" lol
 

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48 and it's growing on me. 😉

Age is a weird thing. I often still think of people that I've known, as sweaty 20 somethings, that we once were. However, we're now 40's or 50 somethings.

When I was younger, stupid, and living life tuned to 11, I was still somehow the Dad in most social groups. Whereas more recently, I think that I have become old enough not to care about being childish.

Age seems most noticeable when talking about interests, desires, and things we hold dear. My universe is 30 years old, if not slightly older.

My recently reacquainted lady friend became a grandmother over the weekend. It is bizarre to think of her in that way. And yet, if I were ever blessed with grandchildren, I am so entirely ready for the role of grandad, despite having many crazy things that I still want to do with life.

I think it was David Bowie, although I could be wrong. Anyway, the saying goes: As we get older, we become the person that we should have always been.

Me, my saying: Do things whilst you can, as tomorrow is not guaranteed.
 

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I suppose it just entirely depends on how you age. Like someone with a lot of health problems as they age or arthritis or whatever is not going to like getting older as much as someone who is extremely healthy and has no problems, ya know?

I don't really mind getting older so much. I have a few issues, but honestly, they all started before I was "old" lol
Yeah, I am hoping to age like my mum with no health issues and still able to dance and blah blah

But do you sometimes imagine how it will be, to be a grandmother? Like baking cookies for your grandkids lolz Idk.. I know it's just rose tinted glasses but I honestly think it could be such an experience
 

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48 and it's growing on me. 😉

Age is a weird thing. I often still think of people that I've known, as sweaty 20 somethings, that we once were. However, we're now 40's or 50 somethings.

When I was younger, stupid, and living life tuned to 11, I was still somehow the Dad in most social groups. Whereas more recently, I think that I have become old enough not to care about being childish.

Age seems most noticeable when talking about interests, desires, and things we hold dear. My universe is 30 years old, if not slightly older.

My recently reacquainted lady friend became a grandmother over the weekend. It is bizarre to think of her in that way. And yet, if I were ever blessed with grandchildren, I am so entirely ready for the role of grandad, despite having many crazy things that I still want to do with life.

I think it was David Bowie, although I could be wrong. Anyway, the saying goes: As we get older, we become the person that we should have always been.

Me, my saying: Do things whilst you can, as tomorrow is not guaranteed.
Oooh I like this!

Honestly I wish I rushed my life a little bit, had a baby at a ridiculous age and had a shot gun wedding just so I could have experienced these things with my dad. However... I live in hope that he's still watching...

I think its amazing, you are a parent, ready to accept the baton to become a grandparent, your parents role passed to you and your previous role passed on. It's such an interesting concept. It's so beautiful.
 

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Yeah, I am hoping to age like my mum with no health issues and still able to dance and blah blah

But do you sometimes imagine how it will be, to be a grandmother? Like baking cookies for your grandkids lolz Idk.. I know it's just rose tinted glasses but I honestly think it could be such an experience

As a parent, let's not go rushing my kids to have babies. lol But no, I don't think about baking cookies for my grandkids, because I bake cookies now.
 

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Oooh I like this!

Honestly I wish I rushed my life a little bit, had a baby at a ridiculous age and had a shot gun wedding just so I could have experienced these things with my dad. However... I live in hope that he's still watching...

I think its amazing, you are a parent, ready to accept the baton to become a grandparent, your parents role passed to you and your previous role passed on. It's such an interesting concept. It's so beautiful.
you mentioned in one of your posts, a rise tinted view. I wonder whether this is what I have, or even whether I am being selfish. Somehow, it just feels right. Like, I should now be passing on the wonders of life, love, and lard, ok not lard. No lard. Anyway, I really enjoyed my role as Dad, and despite my daughter's health issues, I think she's become a wonderful human being. I'd love to see what kind of human she would create and mould.
 

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As I've said elsewhere, I've become happier with age. A lot of the pressures and nonsense have slipped away and I find myself caring less about senseless things that used to matter and being far more content. I see now that some of the self-imposed misery I had when younger came from the lack of perspective that I feel that I have now. I wouldn't mind being physically younger again, but I would trade nothing to be mentally younger again. When I look back on my younger values and aspirations, they now feel like a potential prison, just gateways to more misery. I've outgrown a lot of that. So, if your life turns out this way, then you have good reason to age fantasize. But don't rush things. Choose wisely and try to imagine the potential outcomes and implications of decisions twenty years into the future. Of course you can't see the future, but at least thinking about it can provide some guidance and perspective.
 

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I'm 33, I'll be 34 in June.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong here, but basically the way that aging works is:

Usually 1 of 2 things happens:

Situation 1:
A person hits The Wall, life stops being as easy as the body starts to decay while bills and inflation continue to rise. Unable to keep up, a person becomes more emotionally flustered at quicker rates as they realize their hopes and dreams will never be achieved the way that they want them to be.

Situation 2:
A person hits The Wall, life stops being as easy as the body starts to decay while bills and inflation continue to rise. Unable to keep up, a person becomes somewhat apathetic because much to their dismay, they've still got to get up and go to work in the morning despite not really having the effort or energy to do so entirely regardless of the acknowledgment that they will likely never achieve their hopes and dreams in the way that they want them to be.


So the only real difference, is the management of the output. The input remains the same.
 
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When I was younger I decided that when someone turns 40 they are old. I deduced that from researching all kinds of different things on the Internet. I teased many older people about their age. I got called kid alot. So, we all had a good laugh. Then I turned 40 and realized I was old now too. I didn't like the changes that were going on with my body. But, now that in my 50's, I wish my body was 40 again. I'm sure I will continue to wish I was younger instead of just realizing I'm the best that I'll ever be right now so I should just enjoy what I can before I no longer have a choice.
 

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Age doesn't feel that bad at all.
More experience and wisdom, I know myself better and what I want. I know what I don't want too!
I think you find yourself more with age.
This! Exactly this. I'm much happier on the cusp of 50 than I ever was as a twenty-something. Nowadays, I'm just happy being 'me' and I've gotten over (or just don't give a fuck) about how others perceive me and worrying about always pleasing people. Take me as I am. . . or don't.

MissBehave is a wise woman - it's very true that you find yourself more as you age. :)
 

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I'm 33, I'll be 34 in June.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong here, but basically the way that aging works is:

Usually 1 of 2 things happens:

Situation 1:
A person hits The Wall, life stops being as easy as the body starts to decay while bills and inflation continue to rise. Unable to keep up, a person becomes more emotionally flustered at quicker rates as they realize their hopes and dreams will never be achieved the way that they want them to be.

Situation 2:
A person hits The Wall, life stops being as easy as the body starts to decay while bills and inflation continue to rise. Unable to keep up, a person becomes somewhat apathetic because much to their dismay, they've still got to get up and go to work in the morning despite not really having the effort or energy to do so entirely regardless of the acknowledgment that they will likely never achieve their hopes and dreams in the way that they want them to be.


So the only real difference, is the management of the output. The input remains the same.

Oh no sounds sad, I deffo do not want a future like that, I know so many elders, and none are like that, even my mums not like that lol She has enjoyed everything about ageing a part from the fear and paranoia of getting wrinkles. I was like.. pretty sure theres worst to come mum lol but I do look forward to the experience, to the exit as much as the journey, if that makes sense...
 

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When I was younger I decided that when someone turns 40 they are old. I deduced that from researching all kinds of different things on the Internet. I teased many older people about their age. I got called kid alot. So, we all had a good laugh. Then I turned 40 and realized I was old now too. I didn't like the changes that were going on with my body. But, now that in my 50's, I wish my body was 40 again. I'm sure I will continue to wish I was younger instead of just realizing I'm the best that I'll ever be right now so I should just enjoy what I can before I no longer have a choice.

Don't you look at yourself and think wow, I've been here for over half of 100 years, I lived through this... I experienced that... I met her... I loved her... Idk.. I know im a rosey rosey girl, but there must be a side to ageing that feels like the summary... that feels like magic.
 
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Don't you look at yourself and think wow, I've been here for over half of 100 years, I lived through this... I experienced that... I met her... I loved her... Idk.. I know im a rosey rosey girl, but there must be a side to ageing that feels like the summary... that feels like magic.

Well, I've accomplished alot. I've also been able to do a lot of things most will never get to do. I made enough money that I was able to quit working when I got OLD, at age 40, Ha! ha!, by living frugally. But, looking at the past just doesn't measure up to the now or even the future. I've experience that, done, what now, what's next? But, nothing is as exciting, thrilling, or enjoyable as it used to be. It's just doing something, which is bland and boring.
 
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