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Hey.
I'm new here. Brought by the huge amount of loneliness of my freshman year in college. So here's my situation: I didn't think it would be so hard to be away from my friends and family (especially my family) but it was very hard first semester. I thought second semester would start out better. I actually only started 2nd semester today but since I got back yesterday I've been holding back tears. I've just been filled with this large amount of sadness. And I've never felt like this before.
I haven't been able to make any friends since I came here. I came here knowing 3 people (1 from high school, 1 form church AND high school and 1 from church) One of them I hung out with alot in high school but we never had as much in common as me and my other friends. I'm always making the effort to hang out with them and I'm tired of trying so hard. I will admit - I haven't been good about getting involved. I plan on trying a bit more this semester.
The academics here are great and I like the campus. The people for the most part seem alright. But it wasn't my first choice. I always wanted to go to a city school - I was very oppossed to the college-centric town type campus. My first choice was a city school but it was very expensive. The school I'm at now gave me a large sum of money. And so here I am. I went to visit my very good friend who is studying at my first choice school and I wanted to go there so badly.
I plan on giving myself the rest of the semester and first semester of sophomore year to see if I can make friends and whether or not that'll change how I feel. I don't wanna leave b/c I wanna feel happy here and I don't wanna feel like I made a mistake. I also would feel very guilty about the amount of money it could cause my parents. We're not exactly rolling in the dough. But I feel so unhappy here 90% of the time. And its an unhappiness and helplessness I've never felt before. I know college isn't about making friends. But I don't think it's about being super depressed either.
So I was just wondering if there were any college students out there going thru something similar. Or if there were any transfer students that acutally transferred for similar reasons or just had advice. It's all very welcome at this time.
Thanks so much for reading this LONG post. :shy:
I'm new here. Brought by the huge amount of loneliness of my freshman year in college. So here's my situation: I didn't think it would be so hard to be away from my friends and family (especially my family) but it was very hard first semester. I thought second semester would start out better. I actually only started 2nd semester today but since I got back yesterday I've been holding back tears. I've just been filled with this large amount of sadness. And I've never felt like this before.
I haven't been able to make any friends since I came here. I came here knowing 3 people (1 from high school, 1 form church AND high school and 1 from church) One of them I hung out with alot in high school but we never had as much in common as me and my other friends. I'm always making the effort to hang out with them and I'm tired of trying so hard. I will admit - I haven't been good about getting involved. I plan on trying a bit more this semester.
The academics here are great and I like the campus. The people for the most part seem alright. But it wasn't my first choice. I always wanted to go to a city school - I was very oppossed to the college-centric town type campus. My first choice was a city school but it was very expensive. The school I'm at now gave me a large sum of money. And so here I am. I went to visit my very good friend who is studying at my first choice school and I wanted to go there so badly.
I plan on giving myself the rest of the semester and first semester of sophomore year to see if I can make friends and whether or not that'll change how I feel. I don't wanna leave b/c I wanna feel happy here and I don't wanna feel like I made a mistake. I also would feel very guilty about the amount of money it could cause my parents. We're not exactly rolling in the dough. But I feel so unhappy here 90% of the time. And its an unhappiness and helplessness I've never felt before. I know college isn't about making friends. But I don't think it's about being super depressed either.
So I was just wondering if there were any college students out there going thru something similar. Or if there were any transfer students that acutally transferred for similar reasons or just had advice. It's all very welcome at this time.
Thanks so much for reading this LONG post. :shy: