I'm starting to see loneliness as a vicious circle or a cycle.
I know enough about myself to understand that I am not set up for a wide circle of friends or constant interaction with people. It exhausts me and when I get exhausted I get even worse at it.
So to my point: One of the main factors which holds me back from becoming more social, eg having more friends and closer friends, is the fact that I am coming from zero social life. To explain what I mean,
I always find it very difficult to get to know new people really well, in part because I run out of information to share about myself pretty rapidly. Eg, I have little to no personal life to talk about, so when interacting with a new person or group of people I inevitably come across guarded and cold. That usually signals the end of any developing relationships.
I don't want to sound like I'm trying to justify my loneliness, just to say that I am starting to learn that as I get older and in my opinion much more stable and capable of having good relationships, that my past as a loner is potentially holding me back from having relationships moving forward...
I know enough about myself to understand that I am not set up for a wide circle of friends or constant interaction with people. It exhausts me and when I get exhausted I get even worse at it.
So to my point: One of the main factors which holds me back from becoming more social, eg having more friends and closer friends, is the fact that I am coming from zero social life. To explain what I mean,
I always find it very difficult to get to know new people really well, in part because I run out of information to share about myself pretty rapidly. Eg, I have little to no personal life to talk about, so when interacting with a new person or group of people I inevitably come across guarded and cold. That usually signals the end of any developing relationships.
I don't want to sound like I'm trying to justify my loneliness, just to say that I am starting to learn that as I get older and in my opinion much more stable and capable of having good relationships, that my past as a loner is potentially holding me back from having relationships moving forward...