Ok, a bit of an off the wall concept but I’m wondering what people think.
With regard to loneliness, a concept that is difficult to explain but might be best illustrated by an example..
I spend a fair amount of my time outdoors and very often I feel real inspiration by the natural world and the environment. It can be anything, and not just the obvious.
In the spring it can be the rustle of the new green leaves on the trees in the spring breeze, the scudding of rain clouds across the sky in the autumn or even the freezing wind and snow in the winter. The sight, sounds and smells can inspire me and make me feel part of it.
I often wished that there could be someone next to me who could feel the same feeling at the same moment, inspired by the same thing. A complete antidote to loneliness.
I’ve never found that person. Having been in long term relationships and married over the last 20 years, all the experiences ‘done’ jointly but never truly shared in this way.
After much thought it occurs to me that in fact, experiences like this ARE inherently lonely because no other person can experience any particular feeling of another EXACTLY at any given moment, no matter how ‘empathic’ or a soul-mate they are.
Essentially we are all alone, to experience the world around us and interpret it in our own way- and we simply meet where we touch, in effect.
What say others?
With regard to loneliness, a concept that is difficult to explain but might be best illustrated by an example..
I spend a fair amount of my time outdoors and very often I feel real inspiration by the natural world and the environment. It can be anything, and not just the obvious.
In the spring it can be the rustle of the new green leaves on the trees in the spring breeze, the scudding of rain clouds across the sky in the autumn or even the freezing wind and snow in the winter. The sight, sounds and smells can inspire me and make me feel part of it.
I often wished that there could be someone next to me who could feel the same feeling at the same moment, inspired by the same thing. A complete antidote to loneliness.
I’ve never found that person. Having been in long term relationships and married over the last 20 years, all the experiences ‘done’ jointly but never truly shared in this way.
After much thought it occurs to me that in fact, experiences like this ARE inherently lonely because no other person can experience any particular feeling of another EXACTLY at any given moment, no matter how ‘empathic’ or a soul-mate they are.
Essentially we are all alone, to experience the world around us and interpret it in our own way- and we simply meet where we touch, in effect.
What say others?