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orangecat

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I did this and found I've been fetishized, is that a word?, Coincidently by East Asian women several times.

Trichophilia, also known as a hair fetish, is when someone feels sexually aroused by or attracted to human hair. This can be any type of human hair, such as chest hair, armpit hair, or pubic hair.

Apparently
East Asian men have little to no body hair and I have a very hairy chest.
ohh now that makes a lot of sense now about what you said in the other thread, about the bodies in woods or swamp...
you're a werewolf! I was thinking you're a vampire.

werewolf fetish is a thing.
 

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@orangecat
Most people require physical attraction before they're prepared to go further and appreciate someone as a person in the romantic sense. If those initial preferences for race, height, eye colour, etc are strong then it could easily seem that way. ( I have that preference for Asian women that gets condemned everywhere... literally thousands of young 20 something Asian women around where I work. I'm a creepy white male stereotype..)
I guess it comes down to whether the individual is seen as interchangeable.

Of course you actually have to be dating i.e. dateable before really figuring out whether you're 'objectifying' someone based off of x trait.
I'm getting really sick of your presence here. Did you read the entire post I wrote or are you just cherry picking things which confirms your beliefs?
Because you have that tendency to do that. You're the one calling yourself creepy and my example wasn't directed towards you. Also stop editing your post so much. Your original one seems like it was meant to antagonize.

edit: adding you to ignore and i suggest you do the same and leave me alone
 

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From what I understand it's consider a fetish if you like someone solely because they a plus size and not the whole person.
I'm just going to use the asian fetish as an example since normally it's directed towards East Asians. Let's assume Guy A in the example is just some non Asian dude.

Girl: So, what do you actually like about me?
Guy A: I like that you are Asian
Girl: ok...no really, what do you like about me as a person?
Guy A: I don't know, I just really, really like Japanese girls!
Girl: I'm Vietnamese!

On the flip side of this however, it can be like the comic Finished shared especially in the second panel.

Maddening isn't it?

If you want to read up on things, educate yourself and get some other perspective that's fine. But there's also no point to overthink things and I guess it's fine to have some preferences like how you said you like white dudes with blue eyes. I mean I get the appeal, they're like Vikings or Chris Hemsworth in Thor lol. But I hope ultimately you pick someone because they're a good person and would treat you right not solely because of the eye colour. I hope my ramblings made some sense!
Yeah… you knowwwww I think thats sensible but I often fall for the jerk with the amazing eyes… whats a girl to do Orange Cat… I blame my mother … I cant accept responsibility 🤣
 

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A fetish is where the individual cannot have sex withouth the 'fetish' being present... so for example a guy with a 'panythoes' fetish literally cannot 'raise himself' to have sex unless pantyhoes/tights are involved.
Many people think they have a fetish when in fact they have a 'kink' so using the above example, a guy may have a kink for nylons/tight etc and they really get him going, but ultimately it is not 'essential' for him to be aroused... this would be a kink, and not a fetish.
 

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A fetish is where the individual cannot have sex withouth the 'fetish' being present... so for example a guy with a 'panythoes' fetish literally cannot 'raise himself' to have sex unless pantyhoes/tights are involved.
Many people think they have a fetish when in fact they have a 'kink' so using the above example, a guy may have a kink for nylons/tight etc and they really get him going, but ultimately it is not 'essential' for him to be aroused... this would be a kink, and not a fetish.
Wow. I have a LOT of kinks.
 

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Is it a fetish, if you like a flabby belly? like you like the rolls?

I don't know. But the more I think about it, the more I think I do. I guess I used to not encourage myself to think that way because of the conditioning we get, but when I just let myself like what I like without any outside influences, or trying to make myself think one way or another, I find that I'm naturally into it.

The more I think about it, the more I feel like my main fantasy is getting slowly seduced by a hot big girl/bbw. I like the curves and round features and bounciness/softness/squishiness/cuddliness and warmth, and I guess the size difference between me and them, is my kink rather than a fetish. I would not at all mind being with a woman who is bigger than me or weighs more than me. And I like the confidence of a big girl that knows she's hot and doesn't care what society thinks about it. Come to think of it, that's a turn-on for me as well.

But that's not the only body type I like, it's not like it's that or nothing. I like any type from thick/curvy with a little fluff, to big. And nothing does any good without a mind/personality that I find interesting, makes me feel good to be around them, a person that makes me care about them/feel for them. That stuff is essential for anything more than just physical interest, and without it I'm sure the novelty of just physical stuff would wear off soon enough.
 

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A fetish is where the individual cannot have sex withouth the 'fetish' being present... so for example a guy with a 'panythoes' fetish literally cannot 'raise himself' to have sex unless pantyhoes/tights are involved.
Many people think they have a fetish when in fact they have a 'kink' so using the above example, a guy may have a kink for nylons/tight etc and they really get him going, but ultimately it is not 'essential' for him to be aroused... this would be a kink, and not a fetish.
Very good information--because most or many people think fetishes and kinkiness are the same when they are actually different. Thanks for the clarification.
 

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