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"In severe circumstances, people toy with someone else's memories to make them feel like they are going crazy. It's called gaslighting." I think, or I'm almost sure I am gaslighted. I started to question my memories. I am on shaky ground. If you have experienced gaslighting, please share!
 

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"In severe circumstances, people toy with someone else's memories to make them feel like they are going crazy. It's called gaslighting." I think, or I'm almost sure I am gaslighted. I started to question my memories. I am on shaky ground. If you have experienced gaslighting, please share!
I'm sorry this is the first time I have ever heard of this,that's terrible,I'm so sorry you went through this.
 

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ah is that what it was called I didn't know there was a name for it... I'm sorry you had to go through that well I won't go into complete detail but yes this happened alot to me in my past by someone who was supposed to be my guardian and my parent... my mother (real mother) I have a mental condition there are time gaps in my childhood, teen, and young adult life where there are huge gaps of repressed emotional (physical, mental, psychological abuse.) My mother would manipulate my memories of these times when I was younger, she would make up events and memories to cover the fact of what she was doing to me she would make up stories about my father and my grandmother to make me feel they abandoned me and that I was so lucky she wanted me. She would also tell me that I was ugly, worthless, and would never amount to anything (I know that these things are not related to the topic but it messed with my psyche.) But I didn't know there was a name to it yea thanks for posting I would have never known otherwise I learned something new today.
 
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That sucks! They are your memories! Don't let others screw with them.

I have found that my memories and other's memories don't seem to match up very well. However, I have so few interactions with other people that I believe that I remember things accurately. I really make an attempt to do so too. I think about things from my side and from their side. Most people only see things from their side and it really skews their memories.
 

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I am no longer on shaky ground. What happened was this. My fix-it man replaced my water heater. We decided to watch a movie. He claimed I rented The rise of Gru. (new minion movie). A day later, Upon questioning myself, I realized I would never have done this! Why? Because the last memories I have of my deceased dog Snoopy, and I were when we dressed up for Halloween as Scarlet Overkill and a Minion. We won our veterinarian costume contest. I become sad whenever I see anything minion-related. Ergo, Never would I have rented this movie! I finally confronted him, and his new answer was one of my dogs must have stepped on the button. I was the victim of a fix-man trying to gaslight me! My mind is right again!
 

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I am no longer on shaky ground. What happened was this. My fix-it man replaced my water heater. We decided to watch a movie. He claimed I rented The rise of Gru. (new minion movie). A day later, Upon questioning myself, I realized I would never have done this! Why? Because the last memories I have of my deceased dog Snoopy, and I were when we dressed up for Halloween as Scarlet Overkill and a Minion. We won our veterinarian costume contest. I become sad whenever I see anything minion-related. Ergo, Never would I have rented this movie! I finally confronted him, and his new answer was one of my dogs must have stepped on the button. I was the victim of a fix-man trying to gaslight me! My mind is right again!
I don't think this would be considered gaslighting.
Sounds more like a mistaken assumption to me. If it was on the TV and it's new, it's natural to assume that you rented it.
 

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I have some awful gaslighting stories from various people. My ex husband was a master at it still tries on with our older children, but they are more immune to him because of the distanced he created in his own doing. A carer for my father tried to on a couple of occasions, nobody believed me until she was arrested for something she commited against an employee. Then a so called friend has tried it a number of times. Each time these people tried it, I was at my most vulnerable.
It sounds like you're ok now, I'm glad.
 

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I don't think this would be considered gaslighting.
Sounds more like a mistaken assumption to me. If it was on the TV and it's new, it's natural to assume that you rented it.
Hi Callie, In the past, the Fixit man has added things to my To-do list and tried copying my handwriting. There have been other instances, but I won't go into them. The movie I wrote about, The rise of Dru cost $19.99. I would never spend that much on a rental. The essential fact is viewing anything, even commercials with Minions, makes me incredibly sad. So today, my head is clear, and I know I did not press the rent button. Thanks for replying to my post.
Sincerely, Lady Grey
 

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Hi Callie, In the past, the Fixit man has added things to my To-do list and tried copying my handwriting. There have been other instances, but I won't go into them. The movie I wrote about, The rise of Dru cost $19.99. I would never spend that much on a rental. The essential fact is viewing anything, even commercials with Minions, makes me incredibly sad. So today, my head is clear, and I know I did not press the rent button. Thanks for replying to my post.
Sincerely, Lady Grey
I'm not saying what he did was right, I'm just saying it's not gaslighting. As for the adding things, that's kind of typical for that type of work, depending on who it is and where you live. If they think they can take advantage, they tend to try. But, without knowing the entire story, I can't say much about that, perhaps the things needed done. The handwriting is actually criminal.
My question is why are you watching movies with the fix it guy if he's done these things in the past?

The term gaslighting is seriously overused and not usually used correctly. Honestly, the same with ghosting. I can't stand either one of the terms, TBH. But, to answer the title of the thread, yes, I have been. I was in a long term abusive relationship with an alcoholic, so yes, I know exactly how and what it is. I don't call myself a victim though. Being a victim comes with victim mentality and I won't do that to myself.
 
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