I had a few girlfriends. None of them found me attractive and even told me so. Most of their friends told them that I'm not attractive. Obviously I did my best to make up the lack of looks in other areas. Those areas they liked and usually appreciated. I had two say that nobody ever treated them so nice and with such respect. But, none grew to appreciate my looks. One did say I didn't look that bad after she was already in love with me. So, there was that. But, IMO, people can and do overlook people that are not attractive. I'm not sure how they do it though. I tried and couldn't.