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How often do you think normal people have sex, as in not pornstars/sex workers?

I lost my virginity at 28 and i think i've only been with a dozen women with a condom, and two without, and only one of them made me get off.

So basically i've had only one sexual contact where i wasn't wearing a condom and she got me off. One. and I'm 32 right now.

Pornstars and sex workers don't count cuz it's what they do for a living.

I know when i was in middle school thats when we all started showing interest in sex, and sometimes you would hear rumors like "oh that girl is a slut" but really? You believe that? At such a young age and just cuz they look hot?

I think normal people get good sex very rarely than people realize.

thoughts?

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forgot to mention: every woman i've been with was a sex worker, 😂😂😂
 
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How often do you think normal people have sex, as in not pornstars/sex workers?

I lost my virginity at 28 and i think i've only been with a dozen women with a condom, and two without, and only one of them made me get off.

So basically i've had only one sexual contact where i wasn't wearing a condom and she got me off. One. and I'm 32 right now.

Pornstars and sex workers don't count cuz it's what they do for a living.

I know when i was in middle school thats when we all started showing interest in sex, and sometimes you would hear rumors like "oh that girl is a slut" but really? You believe that? At such a young age and just cuz they look hot?

I think normal people get good sex very rarely than people realize.

thoughts?

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forgot to mention: every woman i've been with was a sex worker, 😂😂😂

I don't know, probably a moderate amount.

But I did want to say that I really don't think what you're doing is a good idea.

Don't forget that STDs are still very much a real thing, that can permanently ruin your life.
Dealing with people that have lots of partners - such as sex workers - while not wearing protection, is not only foolish, it's dangerous.

Being with sex workers is also not an achievement. It's still not actually attracting anyone.
It's better to learn how to do it the right way.

I really think you should slow your roll, drop all this drugs/sex stuff, hit the reset button and try to figure out your life, before you wind up doing stuff you'll regret.
 
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yeah, i vow never to do any illegal drugs. marijuana, i might, even if my doctor says to stay away from it. To be honest i prefer hanging out at the strip clubs and just getting private dances from strippers instead of sex at the local massage parlors.
 

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yeah, i vow never to do any illegal drugs. marijuana, i might, even if my doctor says to stay away from it. To be honest i prefer hanging out at the strip clubs and just getting private dances from strippers instead of sex at the local massage parlors.

I don't think marijuana is that much of a problem, so that one is probably OK in moderation.

But the rest, yeah, I think it's best to avoid.

Even hanging out at the strip club...I don't know, I feel like it's kind of a con to get men to separate from their money. Like it's kind of like getting men to beg for scraps of sex. But that's just my opinion.

Whatever you do, just be safe, and be smart about it.
 

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I think buying strippers drinks and talking with them is a great way for men to brush up on their social skills with the opposite sex.

Getting a private dance gives you the chance to make love, passionate love to a woman. a 100 bucks for ten minutes to make love i think it was worth it.
 

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I think buying strippers drinks and talking with them is a great way for men to brush up on their social skills with the opposite sex.
I don;t think that's quite the same thing as talking to a regular woman who isn't interested in that 20$ in your back pocket..

And I'm not trying to insult you with that either..

The reaction/feedback you're getting from strippers , I wouldn't exactly say is as genuine as the conversation you may have with Sally who works at Piggly Wiggly.

If you really want to work on your social skills with women, try making friendly small-talk with the ones you encounter on a daily basis.

At least you'll know that the reactions are sincere.
 
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I think buying strippers drinks and talking with them is a great way for men to brush up on their social skills with the opposite sex.

Getting a private dance gives you the chance to make love, passionate love to a woman. a 100 bucks for ten minutes to make love i think it was worth it.

Is it though? I guess, if you think it's fun.
I think it's better to just chat up the women you actually know, or even talking to some on here.

I'm not trying to insult you either - I just strongly feel like anything that isn't the path to the real experience, isn't a good use of your time on this planet.

If you actually attract a girlfriend though, then you can make passionate love to a woman as a normal part of your real life. No money, no time limits, no awkwardness, no feeling like you're not worthy...it's just life then.

I think that's the best way.
 

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I don;t think that's quite the same thing as talking to a regular woman who isn't interested in that 20$ in your back pocket..

And I'm not trying to insult you with that either..

The reaction/feedback you're getting from strippers , I wouldn't exactly say is as genuine as the conversation you may have with Sally who works at Piggly Wiggly.

If you really want to work on your social skills with women, try making friendly small-talk with the ones you encounter on a daily basis.

Atleast you'll know that the reactions are genuine.
ya but am shy 😁. and im not looking for a relationship because i've already reserved my heart for someone special. it's hard to make small talk with women who get easily intimidated by you. believe me i've tried.

that's why i think the club is better setting for me. there at least they HAVE to talk to me when i pay them. it's their job. i don't care if it's genuine. we can pretend it's genuine.

it's all good.
 

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Is it though? I guess, if you think it's fun.
I think it's better to just chat up the women you actually know, or even talking to some on here.

I'm not trying to insult you either - I just strongly feel like anything that isn't the path to the real experience, isn't a good use of your time on this planet.

If you actually attract a girlfriend though, then you can make passionate love to a woman as a normal part of your real life. No money, no time limits, no awkwardness, no feeling like you're not worthy...it's just life then.

I think that's the best way.
im still working on the attracting a girlfriend part 🤫
 

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i'm starting to think if you get a lot of sex then you are not normal anymore 😂😂😂😂
 

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actually i have tried making small talk with a woman. she approached me. I think she wanted me to get her number but i was like, nuh uh, i just want to be friends. she even asked me for my phone. then she dialed her number so that her contact info will remain in my phone. when the conversation ended and i didn't offer her to go get food with me or give her a ride home as she was suggesting (i met her at the probation office before i went to jail), she said something like "i hope you have a good time meeting all three of my exes who are in jail) she smiled as she was saying that of course. and i smiled back 😂😂😂😂😂
 

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Just curious, to see how I "measure up." but you're right. it doesn't matter.
 
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I think normal people in the beginning of relationships have sex 5-8 times per week. Then is steadily drops off unless they can bring some kind of excitement or newness into the relationship.

I don't think many women enjoy boring sex like guys can. I've never let that stop me though. While in a relationship I always had sex about 3 - 6 times per week always with a happy ending, atleast for me.

Married people have far less sex then the average single person IMO, well unless they are seeing someone else outside the relationship.
 

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I'm 34 and I've only been with 7 women.
There's a dualistic reason for that:
The first is that I've mostly been in long-term committed relationships. My longest relationship was from 16 - 24, or 8 years.
My next relationship after that was 3 years.
And by that time and given my age, I stayed singled for 4 years, haven't had sex in...2 or 3 years.

The second reason for that is that I value the direction that I want my life to go more than I value my own relationship ideologies. And to be frank, sex isn't making me money, and it scrambles my thought process with hormonal surge for the next X amount of time until I can clear my head out about it (no innuendo intended, but I mean, that one too, I guess).

Hookup culture I think is mostly the fantasy of younger or less experienced people.
Theory-applied it's really not all it's cracked up to be.
Thankfully, I'm intelligent enough to learn from other peoples experiences and able to weigh their credibility against probability accurately enough for me to be able to draw my own conclusions.

It isn't that I don't like sex, I love sex, it's that I don't like the idea of sex controlling my life anymore than I like the idea of money, drugs and alcohol controlling my life.

I could absolutely just go out and get laid, but the problem with doing so is that it starts a conundrum. You almost never see NSA FWB that lasts and is a legitimate friendship, because people typically can't deduce that their hormones are effecting their judgment and almost one person or the other fucks it up. Just like an alcoholic cannot deduce that the reason they are depressed is because alcohol itself is chemically a depressant, and so the cycle continues. So I see the whole mess of that and I'm like: Yeah no, I'm good. That costs me more time than sex is worth to me.

Sex workers don't interest me purely for the fact that it's counterintuitive to the fact that I'm already poor. Plus I've had a small handful of friends that were women who got into that world and eventually realized that while it does make them money, it doesn't make them genuinely happy. One of which very sadly was abducted and never found. That's the other part of the reason I know so much about the inside of that world without really getting into it myself. I'm from a small town, when you're from a small town you've gotta see small town problems. Naturally, the internet can inflate that too.

It starts with: How come the internet cant just inflate the structural stability of our lives instead? 🤔
And it can end with: "Holy **** I haven't worked a regular job in 10+ years and my money is running out and I over-invested, please help me" as it so often does for pretty much everyone trying to become internet famous on basically all platforms everywhere.

Except Jeff Bezos. And you're not fooling anybody by telling me that dude doesn't have everything rigged without knowing he's got everything rigged.
 

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I heard recently about a survey that found about 27% of men between ages 18-30 in the US hadn't had sex at all since they were 18.

For people outside of relationships, I think a lot are having sex very rarely.
 

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