How to feel sexy

Loneliness, Depression & Relationship Forum

Help Support Loneliness, Depression & Relationship Forum:

CenotaphGirl

I only walk with the lord, I await my home ⚰️
Joined
Jun 19, 2021
Messages
4,968
Reaction score
3,148
Location
Guess.
I hate every inch of my body, but it has nothing to do with who I am as a person. As long as it remains a healthy body - at least for a long time - that's all that matters to me.
Why do you hate it ? You hate its appearance ?
 

hewhowalksalone

Well-known member
Joined
Nov 15, 2018
Messages
1,079
Reaction score
79
Location
UK
All of it? How sad 😔should try only saying the good things about it and add a new thing daily 😇✨
I've been told my smile makes me look like a 'gentleman'.

(If there are any fans of 'Buffy the Vampire slayer' on here, they're going to find this funny...)
 

user 139760

Well-known member
Joined
Jun 13, 2017
Messages
5,581
Reaction score
2,241
It's 2023. Women are smashing the patriarchy, or something like that.
...while there was never a greater number if them than right now, either ******* themselves with dildos on onlyfans for money, or posing in "artsy" pictures on instagram or whatever other platform.
It's all bs. They just haven't smelled their own honeysuckle yet. They still use their bodies to get what they want. 60+ years of Feminism and it's probably worse than it was before. Or at least we are more aware of it.
It's pathetic.
 

TheSkaFish

Jedi Guardian
Joined
Feb 3, 2014
Messages
8,605
Reaction score
3,752
Location
USA
...while there was never a greater number if them than right now, either ******* themselves with dildos on onlyfans for money, or posing in "artsy" pictures on instagram or whatever other platform.
It's all bs. They just haven't smelled their own honeysuckle yet. They still use their bodies to get what they want. 60+ years of Feminism and it's probably worse than it was before. Or at least we are more aware of it.
It's pathetic.

I know you're gone, but yeah, I agree.

I always thought that feminism/female empowerment, was having women go into any career they want to do, that currently only men did, like having female pilots and scientists or something like that - not stuff like OnlyFans. That only seems to play back into gender stereotypes. It's going backwards if you ask me, devolving into the Darwin-verse.

I think we can blame Kim Kardashian for at least some of this. Like so many things, it probably isn't just her and her alone, it's probably attitudes in general changing, and if she hadn't done it someone else would have eventually, and probably sooner than later, but didn't people say that her sex tape was the thing that got people starting to talk about her? Stuff like that used to be scandalous, used to be a career-ender. It used to relegate you to that niche, and then you weren't really taken seriously outside of that ever again.

Nowadays, scandal is just publicity. In the new world, it's like almost any press is good press, because it gets people talking about you. Because of that, shame and modesty are all but gone, and trashy is mainstream now, because it gets attention, but at the same time, it's no longer shocking.

I joke about GWB, but at the rate we're going, one day, we may actually have a president who previously did do porn.
And I don't think that's a good thing.
 
Last edited:

TheSkaFish

Jedi Guardian
Joined
Feb 3, 2014
Messages
8,605
Reaction score
3,752
Location
USA
It's so confusing to me.

Growing up, I was taught "it's what's on the inside that counts".
I was taught to value personality over looks. That was the message I got at home and from society. Or at least that's what I thought.

I thought we were supposed to value someone's character, and the way they made us feel, over superficial things like what they look like, how much money and popularity/status they have (social status is to adults, what "popularity" was to kids/teens), what they are good at, what they can do for us, and things like that.

I also thought confidence was just, something you could decide. Just feeling good about yourself and who you are. Now it turns out, it's the result of knowing that you're strong at something. And no strength = no confidence.

Now I feel like I was psych'ed out. Now it's like, I feel like I was supposed to have worked on all that stuff I thought was taught was superficial/shallow, external, and immature, this whole time. There are a few things I like, and I'm friendly, but I have never really been impressive. And it turns out being impressive is what it's all about.

I just don't know if I can, because I don't know if I can do it if I'm not even a little bit good at it naturally in the first place, and also, I have a VERY late start.

The thing is I'm only interested in life, if I can have a good one. I'm not interested in accepting a sh*tty life. I'm not interested in giving up on relationships and resigning myself to singledom. I'm not interested in diverting my desire for a romantic relationship, towards something like TV/movies/music/video games, alcohol, weed, or even heroin. But I need to catch up on DECADES of self-development. And that's if I'm even genetically capable of it at all.

And I just don't know. I never felt like it before. But all I want to do is escape, or stop existing. I don't want to go on like this.
 
Last edited:

Latest posts

Top