Aardra
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I don't know how other people are so well-adjusted. How do they get along? How can they make friends, have impactful interactions, maintain lasting friendships? I feel so incompatible with others, like who and what I am is just... naturally upsetting to people.
I'm a 6'4'' tall woman with a dick. I can fortify myself with all the progressive rhetoric in the world but when it all comes down to it, what most people see when they look at me is a freak. An aberration. I can't even go to the supermarket without being side-eyed by every Keith and Karen in the store. So is it really any wonder why I struggle with relationships? Why I'm always the one having to reach out to others, to jiggle the mouse a bit so my friendships don't slip into sleep mode? I've had many best friends, but I've never been anyone's best friend. Know what I mean? I feel tolerated more than anything else. People find other people, and move on from me. Or they get slighted by something I say, or more than likely, upset when I stand up for myself, or correct a perceived slight, and decide that I'm just not worth the trouble.
When I try to date people, I end up hurt and humiliated. Men are either disgusted by me or they really want to get with me (on the DL of course, can't let his friends or family know he slept with a trans woman). Oh and of course if I don't wear a flashing neon sign over my head "warning" them I'm trans, they will, in a predictable display of cis privilege, invariably accuse me of trying to trick/deceive them.
Women are a whole other issue. Lesbians terrify me, because I know a healthy percentage of them see me as an impostor, an invader of their traditionally feminine spaces, which only leads me to believe that I am an impostor and to exist in this strange limbo-state of unwomanhood.
It's hard knowing that 95% of humans find you viscerally repulsive.
I've always been alone. I've always hated being alone. I just want a friend, but it seems my existence is inherently upsetting to people. What's more, because I'm so desperate, I've made a habit of letting people walk all over me, fully aware of the uneven power dynamic that exists between myself and a person who, at the end of the day, could just as well do without me.
I feel incomplete. I want to have a connection with someone. A real connection. I want someone to want to be around me, to want to be with me. I don't know what the word is. A partner, maybe. Companion? fresia me, I don't know.
Sorry.
I'm a 6'4'' tall woman with a dick. I can fortify myself with all the progressive rhetoric in the world but when it all comes down to it, what most people see when they look at me is a freak. An aberration. I can't even go to the supermarket without being side-eyed by every Keith and Karen in the store. So is it really any wonder why I struggle with relationships? Why I'm always the one having to reach out to others, to jiggle the mouse a bit so my friendships don't slip into sleep mode? I've had many best friends, but I've never been anyone's best friend. Know what I mean? I feel tolerated more than anything else. People find other people, and move on from me. Or they get slighted by something I say, or more than likely, upset when I stand up for myself, or correct a perceived slight, and decide that I'm just not worth the trouble.
When I try to date people, I end up hurt and humiliated. Men are either disgusted by me or they really want to get with me (on the DL of course, can't let his friends or family know he slept with a trans woman). Oh and of course if I don't wear a flashing neon sign over my head "warning" them I'm trans, they will, in a predictable display of cis privilege, invariably accuse me of trying to trick/deceive them.
Women are a whole other issue. Lesbians terrify me, because I know a healthy percentage of them see me as an impostor, an invader of their traditionally feminine spaces, which only leads me to believe that I am an impostor and to exist in this strange limbo-state of unwomanhood.
It's hard knowing that 95% of humans find you viscerally repulsive.
I've always been alone. I've always hated being alone. I just want a friend, but it seems my existence is inherently upsetting to people. What's more, because I'm so desperate, I've made a habit of letting people walk all over me, fully aware of the uneven power dynamic that exists between myself and a person who, at the end of the day, could just as well do without me.
I feel incomplete. I want to have a connection with someone. A real connection. I want someone to want to be around me, to want to be with me. I don't know what the word is. A partner, maybe. Companion? fresia me, I don't know.
Sorry.