I want to stop looking at pornography.

[DarkSelene]

Oh, I'm not judging that or that type of consumption!
I don't think anyone should censor themselves and I'm pretty sure that even if they're desensitized to porn, those people could still be able to enjoy sexual intercourse and any long term monogamous relationship, if that's their thing.

Also do not believe porn should be censored anywhere if all the participants are adult consenting humans.

 

[Xpendable]

Every addiction is terrible for you and it can trigger other addictions too, so it's important to check yourself for your own health and well being.


I don't have any moral issues with pornography or with overly sexualized people... But I do wonder about the desensitization. I saw someone talking about how people who are addicted to porn can't get off to the simpler things anymore and they get kinkier and kinkier until they're like deranged or whatever -- I don't think that's true. Those people were probably already kinda on the kinkier side and porn just opened the doors for them to express it.
But I do think that people will rely on certain visuals more often, and that maybe it'd be hard for other things to make them as excited.

What do you guys think about this? I'm actually curious to know.

In my case it's kinda true, but also is worth mention how available it has become. In the 80' you only had a magazine and it was the same for the rest of the population. It's a consumption problem and the wide variety only makes to demand more kinkier stuff. It also a part sexual development and how seeing a boob at 10 on Tv was a big deal but at adulthood is meaningless. I would like to think at the end one can become desensitized until you come full circle and discard porn altogether, but I feel is not very likely.

 

[DarkSelene]

Yes, that's mostly what I had in mind. But do you believe people develop kinks because they get desensitized? Because tbh I think when something is just not very exciting, it'll never be.

Do you think it'd be more likely to discard porn completely if you were having sexual intercourse regularly?

 

[user 139760]

Yes, that's mostly what I had in mind. But do you believe people develop kinks because they get desensitized? Because tbh I think when something is just not very exciting, it'll never be.

Do you think it'd be more likely to discard porn completely if you were having sexual intercourse regularly?

I used to watch some with one of my girlfriends, it would help "piment" our relationships. Either we'd try what was on tape or just enjoy looking at them. Sometimes they were just **** funny (the porn-xxx series of parodies of famous movies is often hilarious lol).

I think the way you use it matters more than the frequency. It's a tool. Like a hammer or a screwdriver.
Of course you can due without, but sometimes, it's fun to have around.
People develop kinks for a wide variety of reasons, I do not believe pornography always has an influence in that. One of the more morbid and deranged kinks is having sex with a dead person; pretty sure no porn videos have that (that I've heard of).

 

[Xpendable]

Yes, that's mostly what I had in mind. But do you believe people develop kinks because they get desensitized? Because tbh I think when something is just not very exciting, it'll never be.

I don't know where do kinks comes from. What was exciting at one point is not a few years later but I don't know if it has to do with desensitization or not.

Do you think it'd be more likely to discard porn completely if you were having sexual intercourse regularly?

I hope so but I've heard many times that people in relationships keep consuming porn on regular basis. I'm inclined to believe the consumption goes down as time goes by and sexual intercourse becomes more common, but I'm just wishing it is.

 

[DarkSelene]

One of the more morbid and deranged kinks is having sex with a dead person; pretty sure no porn videos have that (that I've heard of).

I'm pretty sure that's illegal, but generally just because it's morally wrong/illegal to abuse a cadaver not because of the sexual act itself. But I've seen that before... the internet is a messed up place. Hell, I literally just saw a guy putting his dick in a skull that he stole in the catacombs of Paris, if that counts as necrophilia.

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I hope so but I've heard many times that people in relationships keep consuming porn on regular basis. I'm inclined to believe the consumption goes down as time goes by and sexual intercourse becomes more common, but I'm just wishing it is.

This is interesting too because some people would also categorize porn as cheating.

 

[user 139760]

One of the more morbid and deranged kinks is having sex with a dead person; pretty sure no porn videos have that (that I've heard of).

I'm pretty sure that's illegal, but generally just because it's morally wrong/illegal to abuse a cadaver not because of the sexual act itself. But I've seen that before... the internet is a messed up place. Hell, I literally just saw a guy putting his dick in a skull that he stole in the catacombs of Paris, if that counts as necrophilia.

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I hope so but I've heard many times that people in relationships keep consuming porn on regular basis. I'm inclined to believe the consumption goes down as time goes by and sexual intercourse becomes more common, but I'm just wishing it is.

This is interesting too because some people would also categorize porn as cheating.

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.....yuck.
Really not my cup of tea lol.

But, you know, I've consummed porn, more or less regularly, for over 20 years. Has it desensitized me? Don't think so. Like Expendable says, I don't know how exactly kinks are formed or if they have anything per say to do with pornographic entertainment, but I think personally it's in how you use it.
When someone makes a thread title like the above, I assume it's because in his personal case, pornography is a problem for him he can no longer handle and wants to discard entirely. He identifies it as something he no longer wants to see and it's to his credit to identify a problem and solve it as he sees fit. Does it apply to everyone? I do not believe so. I think some people will consume porn all their lives without it ever becoming a problem in their personal lives, simply because we're all wired differently.

Also, lots of people see porn in terms of "good" or "bad" as a habit. I don't believe pornography is inheriently, in and of itself, "bad" for people. What becomes the problem is in the way you use it and what needs exactly you're trying to fulfill. Which is why, when I was in a couple, me and my ex-girlfriend probably used to use more porn than I have ever since I been single these last 10 years lol (The sexual board game we tried once was honestly a lot more fun lol). It contributed to what I felt was a healthy relationship, since it didn't have anything to do with our ultimate seperation (I was a jerk). Just like if you use a hammer to lockpick, you'll end up breaking the door, you know? Anyway, food for thought. That's my view of the whole deal.

 

[DarkSelene]

What becomes the problem is in the way you use it and what needs exactly you're trying to fulfill.

This is very interesting.

 

[SolitudeAeturnus]

Put on a blindfold.

 

[TheLoadedDog]

think the way you use it matters more than the frequency. It's a tool.

I saw what you did there.

One of the more morbid and deranged kinks is having sex with a dead person; pretty sure no porn videos have that (that I've heard of).

There was a young fellow called Dave
Who kept a dead whore in a cave
He said, "I'll admit
I'm a bit of a honeysuckle
But look at the money I save!"

And no, that is not my worst one. I am sorry. Truly

 

[DarkSelene]

fresia that, share the worst.

 

[user 139760]

I second lol

 

[Rohini]

Then you go back home thinking if those cock tease women and next thing you know unzip the pants and there goes more sperm on your computer.

Heartwarming story...




sorry to resurrect an old thread, but this was "related'" to the new porn thread - and far more entertaining to read.

 

[user 188685]

Find a hobby,try to get into something that you would like to do or something that you like to do,to get your mind off of sex and pornograpy.

 

[Finished]

Instead of looking at porn maybe you could hold tracing paper up to the screen and trace it all out. You might even expand that into SexArt as your true calling.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I think as long as you're fighting yourself, you'll always lose. Willpower runs out, because willpower is trying to make yourself not do something you really still want to do.

You have to make it NOT about willpower. You have to get to the point where you really, honestly don't want it anymore.
You have to get to a point where you would rather put that time and energy towards something else.

I think you could do that by occupying your time with something else.

Or, alternatively, you could watch it until you get bored of it, until it becomes a chore to watch it. Until you realize just how boring, lame, empty, and nonsensical it really is. Then you won't be fighting yourself anymore, because you won't want something you are bored of. You'll want to do something else instead.

 

[REDEMPTION]

Just watch enough until you get fed up. It went naturally to me. I got bored of porn a long time ago. Let it run wild when I was 15-18, now I barely watch it. I don't think it has ever affected me in the long run as I still find regular real girls attractive and their personality certainly is still intact with their body.
Modern high budget cinema porn with all those known actors is unwatchable to me, I can't get a tent up with that one.
Real amateur passionate sex between two partners is where it's at for me. Even then, my jerk off rates have dipped drastically over the years to the point it's two times a week at most now.
It was only a way to release built up lust and feel at ease again without visiting an escort.

 

[Yolk]

One of the more morbid and deranged kinks is having sex with a dead person; pretty sure no porn videos have that (that I've heard of).

There is some videos about it but they are all fake, just actors. Or SFM porn.

 

[Azariah]

i keep switching my opinion from pro porn to anti porn. it's like a tug of war game. one day im downloading porn, then i watch a video on nofap and delete my porn on my pc.

 

[Finished]

i keep switching my opinion from pro porn to anti porn. it's like a tug of war game. one day im downloading porn, then i watch a video on nofap and delete my porn on my pc.

What are you tugging on? Ohhhhhhhh. Never mind. Ha! ha!