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:| well, I just thought the beach was a better setting than alone at home with the internet. But yeah, I get what you're saying.
 
soresoul said:
TheRealCallie said:
So I guess a nightclub is out of the question too?  Oh and...well anywhere, what with the low cut tops and short shorts/shorts being everywhere.  Can't watch TV either.  Or read magazines.  Sorry, you can only listen to the radio, I guess.

In all fairness, he never once mention a nightclub as an option to escape the porn world. And hell Jen where are  magazines at nowadays? It's a dying format. When i go to the doctors office it's nothing but tvs or plug in outlets for phones. :p

I see magazines everywhere, so it's not a dying format.  Maybe the places you go just don't have them anymore, most places I go to still do, in addition to the TVs. 

He also never mentioned walking on the street, but I notice you didn't say anything about that.  Boobs are hanging out wherever you go, it's not really something you are going to get away from and if he lives in a year round warm climate, you're going to have other things hanging out too all the time, regardless of where you go.
 
Jennifer both you and I know that it's everywhere reguardless. I live in a nudist colony 9 months out of the year and seeing boobs in the open is nothing new to me. But for me I can control my urge when I see them on others and not automatically think porn or sex for that matter.

If your on the street then yes you will come across it from time to time seeing women wearing low cut shorts either for attention or it's that ******* hot outside but that's a few in between. If your on the beach all bets are off and when someone has a rather porn addiction they want to kick, the beach is the worst place because triggers are set higher than normal. It's like if someone has a bad gambling problem and yes temptation is still anywhere from a gas station to the casino. Are you going to say to said person "just go to the casino for the buffet, the casino is just a casino?"

My whole point I made to the poster that porn should be the least of his worries for addiction problems. If he said I need to stop smoking crack, won't we have a bigger problem than just a cheap quick thrill?
 
I was surrounded by porn as a kid and became an addict at a very tender age . It ruined my life and i've been fighting it ever since . The way i've been dealing with it is to reset my computer to factory settings . Then i lose everything on the computer and have to start all over again. I lose all of my apps , social media, everything. Slowly i am learning its not worth it. I find its the only way to be rid of it and i'm happier for it.
 
Isn't this like the same panic from video games?
"Kids won't be able to differentiate the game from reality"
"People (men, obviously) won't be able to have realistic views about sex"
 
I don't think it's that... I think watching porn gives us a weird power trip, watching people doing some intimate things and they have no idea you or I are watching. I think it does something strange to our minds.. At least it did for me, so I don't watch it anymore.
 
I'm pretty sure they are fully aware that they are going to be watched. In fact, they hope so, to get paid more.
 
There's fan mail. Write to them and ask them if they can sleep at night thinking in all those people watching them.
 
Ok, well first off its nothing to do with how the actors feel, it's the little power complex that comes from watching them.. It's just weird. Yeah it makes it easier for your mind not to wonder while you're pulling one off when watching it, buy I think it does something to our brains/personality. It's just an idea and I don't know if there's been academic research on it, but psychology is barely understood even now.
 
My porn has to be romantic or I hate it. Never like the whole rough stuff (xcept when it's this kind of romantic passion rough stuff).
Guess that says something about me.
 
Women masterbate, men masterbate. Who cares?? Animals are fighting over their sexual territories all the time. Locking heads killing each other. Lions, tigers, bears......it's Mother Nature. it's been going on since the beginning of time. 

It's either...... looking for sex, or food. Take your pick.  So you like to jack off! Oh really??? Never heard of it. 

Look, I'm not the smartest guy on earth, but I will tell you one thing. It's better to sit at home and jack off than to go around with a group of religious ******* idiotic fanatics cutting people heads off because they are Christian!!!..or Sunnie, Siek....whatever..... ...yeah for ******* Mohamed....who was a pedophile!!!! 

Jacking off is better than KILLING FOR GOD!!! You can go to a movie and watch Clint Eastwood kill like a ******* 200 people in a movie, BUT..... If you watch 2 consenting adults having sex....oh no....you are a pervert and you will go to hell. Religions have taken the one thing we enjoy the most......and made us feel guilty about it. Why??? BECAUSE THEY WANT YOUR MONEY. It's brainwashing. 

I am NOT a rapist. I'm not attracted to children, I am not gay.....and I like beautiful women.
I've never done anything to a woman that they didn't want me to do to them. Like what's the point???
If they don't want it....then fresia it. 

So if the Pope doesn't like it...... Tuff honeysuckle, you don't like it??? Then cram it. 
It's like going to the bathroom and not only that, it keeps the body healthy. 

Just remember, you are NOT cutting people heads off for ******* "Allah".....Mohamed, Jesus....whatever.
After the orgasm, it's pretty much lose interest. (for like 5 more minutes).....ha ha
 
I agree with the above. To a point. Yes, sex is natural and nice. But porn is... I dunno a bit dubious. I wouldn't dream of outlawing it, and I know it'a a bit weird when you can't see depiction of a couple making love but you can see people blowing each others' brains out with Colt 45s.

But I do like modesty. A woman in a full length dress is inherently more beautiful to me than one in a mini skirt. I like things left to the imagination. And I am not Mr Nice Guy here... I suspect many men feel the same. Maybe most men. Have you seen a Vietnamese girl wearing an Ao Dai? Clasped collar, full lenth dress, long sleeves. You see NOTHING. But boy is it pretty. Too many people, male and female, are meat on display, and I don't like it.
 
I'm more into the classics. You know, the mysterious nurse coming to take care of his patient, the college girl staying after class, kinky outfits and the like lol.
The weird stuff is weird. Ironically, I don't like most of the website there is today. I do like the ones where the actors are like, husband and wife, or boyfriend and girlfriend, because what you see on the screen is real and not fake. Porn as an industry is very methodical and mechanical, like any other job. But I'm a fan of real passion. Some erotic movies are much better than the porn you see and in those erotic movies, besides some buttcheeks and a nipple or two, you don't really see anything.
I mean, not that much into Asian myself, but give me women like Chloe Vevrier anyday (yes, I have a favorite actress who's into that whole tantric sex thing, sue me lol. My ultimate fantasy is also Drew Barrymore dressed like in Batman Forever) ;-)
 
Every addiction is terrible for you and it can trigger other addictions too, so it's important to check yourself for your own health and well being.


I don't have any moral issues with pornography or with overly sexualized people... But I do wonder about the desensitization. I saw someone talking about how people who are addicted to porn can't get off to the simpler things anymore and they get kinkier and kinkier until they're like deranged or whatever -- I don't think that's true. Those people were probably already kinda on the kinkier side and porn just opened the doors for them to express it.
But I do think that people will rely on certain visuals more often, and that maybe it'd be hard for other things to make them as excited.

What do you guys think about this? I'm actually curious to know.
 
DarkSelene said:
Every addiction is terrible for you and it can trigger other addictions too, so it's important to check yourself for your own health and well being.


I don't have any moral issues with pornography or with overly sexualized people... But I do wonder about the desensitization. I saw someone talking about how people who are addicted to porn can't get off to the simpler things anymore and they get kinkier and kinkier until they're like deranged or whatever -- I don't think that's true. Those people were probably already kinda on the kinkier side and porn just opened the doors for them to express it.
But I do think that people will rely on certain visuals more often, and that maybe it'd be hard for other things to make them as excited.

What do you guys think about this? I'm actually curious to know.

Remember the Spice Girls?

"Too much of something is bad enough".
Maybe it's possible to become desensitized over porn. If you consume some everyday or several times a day and keep looking for something you've never seen before. Much in the same way that if you eat french fries every day for  1 year, you'll probably not want to see french fries for 4 and if you do, it won't taste all that good. You'll want something else.

I reckon it's the same for porn. I personally don't see it, I tend to stick with the same people. Because for me, it's not different acts that matter, it's the person I enjoy seeing. If I could wake up next to the same woman for the next 40 years I'd be more than happy, as such, even though there's no chance of that happening, my porn tends to be with people with whom I'd enjoy that very thing happening. For others, though, it's like ordering pizza in as many pizza places as possible. I like to order from the same place lol.
I do think it can happen. But I do think it's the person's responsibility not to let that happen.
 

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