Away making peace with god...
- Jun 19, 2021
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Oh Claudia and RandomGuy and Apex! I just dont know, I've complained many times on here that I grew up watching a man run his household the way I was taught a man should. Never crying, never talking about feelings, never asking my mother to pay a bill, completely protected her... died happily married to her, I have come to accept that this is the man of yesterday and I am stuck with the "man" or whatever of today... it's depressing. I want a man to make me feel safe, maybe it's unreasonable but if he cant I just dont know what the point is, cant be more honest than that. It's like finding out Santa isn't real finding out men aren't happy the way I need them to be.So, I can only speak from my experiences and the things I teach my son. First, you always hold the door, open the door, walk beside not in front or behind, in a crowd grab a hand or put hand on the back. I was not taught this but this is how I have always been treated at all ages. Yes, I can do those things for myself but for me its a show of respect and support. Do I expect all men to do this, hell no. Why would they unless they are taught that or believe they should. Then there's the crazy women like Ashley Judd who gets her panties in a bunch because a man did what?... I don't know, it was something silly though.
Ok, feelings. Of course men have feelings. Ive been tied up and locked in an apartment daily for months because of a mans feelings, granted not healthy feelings but feelings nonetheless. I can say that in my experience the more artistic and creative the man the better he is at expressing his feelings. I have always encouraged my son to express his feelings no matter what. However, Ive also stressed the importance of not being mistaken for a push over or a sucker.
As far as strength, no person man or woman should ever depend on another person for strength...channel it, use it as support when needed but never depend on another person. That is every individual's personal responsibilty. A man can't save you from yourself.
Oh and making a man or anyone cry never feels good unless that was the objective. In that case tick yourself a point for achieving a goal.