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<blockquote data-quote="Tiina63" data-source="post: 954540" data-attributes="member: 10126"><p>I became friends with a man some months ago via a mutual friend, but am starting to doubt whether I want him as a friend any longer. Maybe I am being too sensitive, I don't know. Anyway, a few months ago he started calling to see me about two evenings a week without checking first if it was ok for him to come round. I have Asperger's and find unexpected visitors stressful. Last summer sometimes I would be in the back yard talking to a neighbour in the evening and I would not hear him at the front door, so he would get his lodger to phone me after he got home to say he had been round and I hadn't answered the door. When he comes he always wants fruit juice to drink and usually I give it to him, but two weeks ago I had a bad cold and as I have noone to get shopping for me and because I needed the vitamins in the juice for my cold, I said I needed to keep the juice I had so it didn't run out and asked him if he could have tea or coffee instead and he muttered that he had been drinking tea and coffee all day. He refused to accept a drink. I have been feeling very anxious and stressed about a certain issue which I won't go into here, but it is connected to my physical health and is a major worry, so I am not happy at all at present. Having no family to support me makes this issue far harder but when I said to him </p><p>If God had to give me AS and this other problem, why couldn't he have given me a family to help me with it?' he turned round and said 'God owes us nothing' in an angry and critical manner. Over the decades I have tried so hard to build a life for myself and have really fought to overcome my obstacle but sometimes things get way too much for me and I can't handle it. At such times it takes me all my time to get out of bed in the morning and the last thing I need is someone coming round and behaving like this. Am I being too sensitive?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiina63, post: 954540, member: 10126"] I became friends with a man some months ago via a mutual friend, but am starting to doubt whether I want him as a friend any longer. Maybe I am being too sensitive, I don't know. Anyway, a few months ago he started calling to see me about two evenings a week without checking first if it was ok for him to come round. I have Asperger's and find unexpected visitors stressful. Last summer sometimes I would be in the back yard talking to a neighbour in the evening and I would not hear him at the front door, so he would get his lodger to phone me after he got home to say he had been round and I hadn't answered the door. When he comes he always wants fruit juice to drink and usually I give it to him, but two weeks ago I had a bad cold and as I have noone to get shopping for me and because I needed the vitamins in the juice for my cold, I said I needed to keep the juice I had so it didn't run out and asked him if he could have tea or coffee instead and he muttered that he had been drinking tea and coffee all day. He refused to accept a drink. I have been feeling very anxious and stressed about a certain issue which I won't go into here, but it is connected to my physical health and is a major worry, so I am not happy at all at present. Having no family to support me makes this issue far harder but when I said to him If God had to give me AS and this other problem, why couldn't he have given me a family to help me with it?' he turned round and said 'God owes us nothing' in an angry and critical manner. Over the decades I have tried so hard to build a life for myself and have really fought to overcome my obstacle but sometimes things get way too much for me and I can't handle it. At such times it takes me all my time to get out of bed in the morning and the last thing I need is someone coming round and behaving like this. Am I being too sensitive? [/QUOTE]
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