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Night89

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It struck me today how lonely i am. I tried to reach out to a friend about a subject. He was my confidant until he changed his job. Anyhow tried to call and ask about a subject, a pattern struck me, nobody seams to answer my phone calls except my aunts and my dad. It's so frustrating, what am i doing so wrong?

People say it's not personal, but it becomes personal. It feels like im a rock in the ocean who's surrounding is eroding leaving me in a vacuum. My strategy is to not engage and being an observer, in this case on Facebook. i find that this strategy of isolation is working for the most. I can bee with myself and not engaging. The only place i have felt a sense of belonging recently is the mental ward. I have been committed several times recently due to self-harm and suicidal thoughts and actions. Writing this in this very moment gives me a realisation that my strategy is not working.

Anyhow the incident today made me realisation how lonely i truly am.
 
It struck me today how lonely i am. I tried to reach out to a friend about a subject. He was my confidant until he changed his job. Anyhow tried to call and ask about a subject, a pattern struck me, nobody seams to answer my phone calls except my aunts and my dad. It's so frustrating, what am i doing so wrong?

People say it's not personal, but it becomes personal. It feels like im a rock in the ocean who's surrounding is eroding leaving me in a vacuum. My strategy is to not engage and being an observer, in this case on Facebook. i find that this strategy of isolation is working for the most. I can bee with myself and not engaging. The only place i have felt a sense of belonging recently is the mental ward. I have been committed several times recently due to self-harm and suicidal thoughts and actions. Writing this in this very moment gives me a realisation that my strategy is not working.

Anyhow the incident today made me realisation how lonely i truly am.
I feel for you bro, head up
 
I'm sorry for your situation and how you feel.
I hope everything will be better!

Do you go outside often?
 
If you're lucky enough to own a garden, try some gardening :)

after my mother's divorce, she would often talk to plants and flowers, it was her way of going to therapy ^^
 
It struck me today how lonely i am. I tried to reach out to a friend about a subject. He was my confidant until he changed his job. Anyhow tried to call and ask about a subject, a pattern struck me, nobody seams to answer my phone calls except my aunts and my dad. It's so frustrating, what am i doing so wrong?

People say it's not personal, but it becomes personal. It feels like im a rock in the ocean who's surrounding is eroding leaving me in a vacuum. My strategy is to not engage and being an observer, in this case on Facebook. i find that this strategy of isolation is working for the most. I can bee with myself and not engaging. The only place i have felt a sense of belonging recently is the mental ward. I have been committed several times recently due to self-harm and suicidal thoughts and actions. Writing this in this very moment gives me a realisation that my strategy is not working.

Anyhow the incident today made me realisation how lonely i truly am.
Let me give you my opinion. I think it’s not you. And I don’t think it’s me either. I think people in general are getting sucked into the vacuum of the online world and are caring less and less about personal, meaningful connections. And it sucks because I think it’s making humanity in general seriously depressed. I wish someone would nuke the internet so we could go back to having community pot lucks, running into friends on a walk at the park, going over for a sunday bbq. You’re missing the personal connections and so am I. But I don’t think it’s us. I think the world is changing and people like you and me don’t want to change with it, because we still value love, friendship and meaningful connections. Bet you don’t give two farts about how many likes you get on a post. I know I don’t. Online stuff isn’t really meaningful to me. It’s tough friend, I am feeling lonely too and wish there were people outside to do things with.
 
Let me give you my opinion. I think it’s not you. And I don’t think it’s me either. I think people in general are getting sucked into the vacuum of the online world and are caring less and less about personal, meaningful connections. And it sucks because I think it’s making humanity in general seriously depressed. I wish someone would nuke the internet so we could go back to having community pot lucks, running into friends on a walk at the park, going over for a sunday bbq. You’re missing the personal connections and so am I. But I don’t think it’s us. I think the world is changing and people like you and me don’t want to change with it, because we still value love, friendship and meaningful connections. Bet you don’t give two farts about how many likes you get on a post. I know I don’t. Online stuff isn’t really meaningful to me. It’s tough friend, I am feeling lonely too and wish there were people outside to do things with.

I have found many meaningful connections thanks to the internet. Several of them from this forum. Others from other forums and social media too.

Also, I also don't care how many likes I get. I don't post for the masses, I post for myself and the people who care about me.

The internet is what you make it. There are good people looking for the same thing. Just like in real life, you have to weed out the people who don't fit.
 
I have found many meaningful connections thanks to the internet. Several of them from this forum. Others from other forums and social media too.

Also, I also don't care how many likes I get. I don't post for the masses, I post for myself and the people who care about me.

The internet is what you make it. There are good people looking for the same thing. Just like in real life, you have to weed out the people who don't fit.
And I’m glad you’re able to fit into the new world and make meaningful connections. I’m old school and it don’t work for me. It’s like comparing making passionate love to your soul mate versus masterbating to porn hub. Sure, it‘ll do the job, but we owe ourselves much more. For some of us, the online world is a nightmare.
 
All I'm saying is that if you are open to finding connections, it's entirely possible. Is it exactly the same as having a friend in real life? No, it's not, but it can help tremendously. Hell there could be someone near you on a random lonely forum. Just because it starts online doesn't mean it has to stay online. Have you considered using meetup to find liked minded people?

The connections I made online when I was going through the darkest stage of my life helped save my life. And I have met several of them in real life.
 
The only place i have felt a sense of belonging recently is the mental ward. I have been committed several times recently due to self-harm and suicidal thoughts and actions.
Perhaps people are scared to engage with you, because they’re unsure how you will react in their presence, because they don’t know how to best engage with you, because they don’t want to cause you any difficult scenarios to negotiate.

It can be hard for both sides. I hope things get better for you.
 
Perhaps people are scared to engage with you, because they’re unsure how you will react in their presence, because they don’t know how to best engage with you, because they don’t want to cause you any difficult scenarios to negotiate.

It can be hard for both sides. I hope things get better for you.
this is what i heard. I have figured out that i should keep quiet..
 
I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling lonely. Loneliness can be a difficult emotion to experience, and it's understandable that it's frustrating when people don't respond to your phone calls. It's important to remember that people's availability and responsiveness can vary for a multitude of reasons, and it may not necessarily reflect on you or your worth as a person.

While it's natural to seek connection and support from others, it's also important to cultivate a sense of self-worth and find ways to cope with loneliness. Isolation can sometimes exacerbate feelings of loneliness, so finding a balance between spending time alone and reaching out to others can be beneficial.

If you're struggling with self-harm and suicidal thoughts, it's crucial to seek professional help. Consider reaching out to a mental health professional who can provide guidance and support. They can help you explore healthier coping mechanisms and develop strategies for managing loneliness and negative emotions.

Remember that you're not alone in this. Many people have experienced loneliness and have found ways to overcome it. It may take time and effort, but with the right support and tools, you can work towards improving your emotional well-being and finding a sense of belonging.
 

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