So, I found this forum by chance. 60 something, married with a couple of generations below me. Not being married would distress them so wouldn't want that. My wife leads her own life generally. We holiday together as a family but she takes short breaks with her friends. She has no interest in me but is quite friendly. I'm not morbid but it's definitely Autumn in my life and I don't want to just wither. I need more but how to do it? It's not about sex but that's always a feature in the backyard. It's about close affection, a real hug, a kiss on the lips (not for many many years) and someone to unload on or listen to. As a man the instant reaction from women is... married? Just after a bit on the side?...want your cake and eat it?...It's lonely. I would be ok with a email type relationship but when I tried it on a pen pal website which seemed quite innocuous, I got the same knock back from women my own age. You are married, we shouldn't be talking.