- Sep 15, 2008
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- BC, Canada
Yes, I suppose it’s reasonable to assume that someone in their 40’s has exes, but again, not necessarily. I know a few people in my own (very small) circles who are in their late 30’s/40’s and have never been in a relationship - some of them just haven’t met the right person, some don’t care to, some struggle with various issues. Seems to me that reaching middle-age, having never experienced a committed relationship, isn’t all that uncommon these days.It is conjecture but it’s reasonable to assume someone in their 40s has had exes, if not having been married before. I ended up in a few conversations they mostly initiated, or in a group, and, just as expected, we were at different phases of life. One woman became obnoxious once it was clear I wasn’t interested that way. It’s not as if these woman were unattractive exactly, but there wasn’t any of the “ butterflies” type attraction going on either. It felt more awkward than anything, I left feeling worse than before.
Anyway, gotta give you kudos for at least giving the whole singles meet-up thing a go. Like you, I imagine I’d find the experience awkward as heck, but at least it’s a start. As to the attraction and ‘butterflies’ feeling - yeah, I get it. . . an instant attraction to someone is appealing, but don’t let that lack of feeling dissaude you from trying to get to know someone. Personality, little quirks, a great sense of humour, shared interests, a quick wit, etc, etc - it’s all the little individual traits that make up a person that can quickly change a ho-hum first impression to “Holy fuck! This woman is a goddess!”