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splendido
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Have any of you ever experienced this before?
People in your life, who would call themselves "friend", but really hold you back in what ever way they can. I experienced this from multiple people, especially when it came to me having relations with the opposite sex.
As soon as my so called "friends" caught wind of the fact that I may successfully court a girl, they feel compelled to throw a wrench in it all, thus sabotaging any chances I had.
This has happened on numerous occasions, with multiple "friends".
Currently, I have this room mate who I have known since I was 14 (I'm 26 now).
He gets noticeably agitated if I'm hanging around with people that he knows, and I make no effort to include him in the social scene. However, when the tables are turned, and I am the one who is outside of the social circle, he makes no effort to include me either. I should mention that I have many times invited him out when going out with friends, and he usually says no, most likely out of fear.
Now, whenever there is a girl on the scene, he pulls out all the stops to be the "leader" and make me look like a fool. Classic strategy I'm sure, but not one that I'll tolerate for any significant length of time.
I remember having a conversation with him about being single and lonely once, and he says "Well, whenever I've hooked up with a girl, it's always been through friend that I met them".
"Great! So stop being a ****** bag and introduce me to your lady friends!"
He won't, and I think that would be the last thing that he would ever do. It would mean handing over some sort of power, and forfeiting control over the situation.
Let me also mention that, I have been involuntarily celibate for over 6 years now. He is fully aware of this. In the time that I have lived in the same house as this guy, he has had 3 girlfriends.
Don't you think someone who calls them self a "friend" would make an effort to include someone in their social circle and help them meet people?
That's what I would think anyway. It's what I would do.
People in your life, who would call themselves "friend", but really hold you back in what ever way they can. I experienced this from multiple people, especially when it came to me having relations with the opposite sex.
As soon as my so called "friends" caught wind of the fact that I may successfully court a girl, they feel compelled to throw a wrench in it all, thus sabotaging any chances I had.
This has happened on numerous occasions, with multiple "friends".
Currently, I have this room mate who I have known since I was 14 (I'm 26 now).
He gets noticeably agitated if I'm hanging around with people that he knows, and I make no effort to include him in the social scene. However, when the tables are turned, and I am the one who is outside of the social circle, he makes no effort to include me either. I should mention that I have many times invited him out when going out with friends, and he usually says no, most likely out of fear.
Now, whenever there is a girl on the scene, he pulls out all the stops to be the "leader" and make me look like a fool. Classic strategy I'm sure, but not one that I'll tolerate for any significant length of time.
I remember having a conversation with him about being single and lonely once, and he says "Well, whenever I've hooked up with a girl, it's always been through friend that I met them".
"Great! So stop being a ****** bag and introduce me to your lady friends!"
He won't, and I think that would be the last thing that he would ever do. It would mean handing over some sort of power, and forfeiting control over the situation.
Let me also mention that, I have been involuntarily celibate for over 6 years now. He is fully aware of this. In the time that I have lived in the same house as this guy, he has had 3 girlfriends.
Don't you think someone who calls them self a "friend" would make an effort to include someone in their social circle and help them meet people?
That's what I would think anyway. It's what I would do.