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Have you ever had a female friend, and thought nothing of her in *that way* - everything remained on the strictly platonic level between the two of you - never transpiring into any sort of romance at all?
I have plenty of girl friends like that, whom I make the dirtiest jokes to.
If they actually start taking it seriously and manifest intent, that usually turns me right off.
 

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I am from a very poor and very dysfunctional family.
So it's shaped my development accordingly.
I've always done dangerous, hard labor types of jobs.
Which helped me develop critical thinking skills further than I'd thought possible.
The result is that I have mostly cognitive and logical thoughts, or emotionlessly weightless thoughts.

There are pros and cons to that.
The massive benefit is that it makes me highly functionally fluid and efficient.
I can move incredibly fast and accurately through both decisions and actions and even organize them in time management.

But also I struggle socializing and connecting, because I'm no longer used to having something that I value to care about losing on an emotional level beyond that of platonic friendships who often come and go throughout life.

The other con to that is that it's very easy to become untethered that way, and spiral out into clinical depression, or the lack of feeling anything at all for potentially up to several months. It's not the same as being sad, being sad is a feeling, I mean absolutely nothing, no emotional connectivity to the world around me. With no known certainty as to when that will lift and I'll feel something, anything, again. That can get bad, very bad, quickly, because the human mind isn't really supposed to be able to maintain that kind of a state for a long time. Like I start hallucinating and shit.

Conclusively that's why I stopped dating.
I'm not mentally stable enough for the challenges of it.
Definitely understand having family dysfunction. I was surprised that not every household had parents that had loud, daily arguments

And the numbness. Like sometimes when counselors ask, "How do you feel?" And I respond, "Nothing."
 
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Question 3:

Have you ever had a female friend, and thought nothing of her in *that way* - everything remained on the strictly platonic level between the two of you - never transpiring into any sort of romance at all?
I have had several female friends. Normally I think only friend's thing about them. I understand, appreciate, and follow boundaries. But.......... sometimes little Finished gets involved and starts thinking about taking them and . ... d.f.. and then dd...sdff.d.fs.s over the back of the couch, etc, etc, etc. However, I control my actions and my mind so I put little Finished in the penalty box until he calms back down. Ha! ha!

But, it's also fun to flirt back and forth with them KNOWING it will NOT go any further then that.
 

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Alright men..

A shallow question just because I am curious and there's a fair few men here who will answer.

Would you rather your partner be a touch underweight or veering more on the thicker side?

sound off
 

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Alright men..

A shallow question just because I am curious and there's a fair few men here who will answer.

Would you rather your partner be a touch underweight or veering more on the thicker side?

sound off

I've dated both, and been equally sexually attracted to both. 🤷‍♂️
I honestly don't overthink it. A person's body type is their body type.
While there's a spectrum of too much or too little at either end, I keep it in a more practical scope.
Plus I've no room to be judgmental myself, I'm never going to have a 6-pack of abs.
I'm actually on the lower to middle side of average body type and weight for a man.
So long as she's not at a potential health risk in either direction, I don't care.
 
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Alright men..

A shallow question just because I am curious and there's a fair few men here who will answer.

Would you rather your partner be a touch underweight or veering more on the thicker side?

sound off
I'd rather my partner be about five touches underweight. I think mops pointed up are hot. Ha! Ha!
 

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Never say never..
If you wanted to work out to achieve them as long as you are of able-body - you could. anything is possible.

I mean so long as you aren't 85 atm.

I've never had them in my entire life, not even when I was athletic as a kid.
And in truth, too much attention makes me anxious. I'm introverted so I'm not used to that.

I AM however, freakishly stronger than I look given the fact that my muscles grow in more lean than bulky.
I have high physical endurance, partially due to the heart condition that I have.
I've been in weird situations where I've outworked guys in college weight lifting teams at the job, purely because they puttered out.
I miss 'Mondo actually. Dude was a riot, awesome guy. Hah.
 

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Alright men..

A shallow question just because I am curious and there's a fair few men here who will answer.

Would you rather your partner be a touch underweight or veering more on the thicker side?

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The most attractive body type for me is slim/lean and athletic, although being slightly overweight isn't really a big deal (just not clinically obese).

Sedentary lifestyle however, is. I don't want to deal with someone's self-inflicted health issues in the near future.
 

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Alright men..

A shallow question just because I am curious and there's a fair few men here who will answer.

Would you rather your partner be a touch underweight or veering more on the thicker side?

sound off
That's a good question. A good answer is I couldn't care less, it's a whole. The real answer is, though, it does matter somewhst. One of my ex gfs was around 80 pounds heavier than I was, but she arranged herself so well, it didn't really show, she was sexy AF. Not everyone can pull of overweight and make it look good. The reverse is also true. Gf I had before her was about 95 pounds, when wet. But she didn't look sickly or like a bag of bones.

It depends on a number of factors, but not everyone can pull off a certain look. Overall, actual weight doesn't matter, as long as she looks good.
 

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I think there are laws of aesthetics that apply to each gender ... speaking for my taste, weight by itself says too little ... it's more about the body configuration, like how the fat is distributed, in which areas of the body ... also she can be thin but with bad limbs and torso proportions

anyway I have an aphorism I made myself ... all women are absolutely gorgeous between their legs
 
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