One of them comes by my families place so often and pisses off not just me but also my sister and mother and long story short we've had to have the police remove her from the property and relocate her.
That requires more energy than I prefer to exert, but I can do that. It's just, it's super draining, you know? It's different if I'm spending that same amount of energy on an enjoyable or exciting subject, but when I'm forced to deal with an emotional entanglement, it kinda feels like trying to walk with too much weight attached to your legs, and I hate that sluggish, weighted feeling of emotional entanglement. I can do it without the entanglement but like, you gotta give me a minute.
It's tricky but I can do it. The trouble I've got is that I have no middle ground if I'm emotionally engaged in an argument. I'm more likely to say the most messed up and brutal thing possible that they'll probably need therapy for thereafter, than I am to actually shoo them off my front porch with a broom that says fresia Off on it. That's why I don't like having to be more abrasive, I have rage issues and can't totally control it once that container is opened, so I usually just don't open it. That's my problem: I don't know how to be a dick without absolutely destroying someone, I kind of just go from start to finish with a clean cut.
I don't either. They kind of stalk me. I'm surprised they haven't ran into each other yet. They know of each other, but they never met. I have high-functioning social anxiety though, so them following me all over kind of makes me irrationally anxious. In part because of the unpredictable factor that I never know if they're showing up sober or not. If they're drugged out, than yeah, that's gotta be handled carefully.
I try to, but that's pretty much the only type of women that approach me. That's, actually I don't know what NOT having that happen is like, now that I really think about it.