Sexual frustration is coming to a breaking point

[Restless soul]

I know. I know. At least I am aware, right?

 

[Xpendable]

First you want a companion. They call you entitled.
You try all different methods. They call you desperate.
So you watch porn. They say you objectify women and can't grasp reality.
Then you decide to be single. They call you selfish for not forming a family.

What a game.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

^You're listening to the wrong people.

 

[Xpendable]

^You're listening to the wrong people.

The entire world is listening to the wrong people.

 

[ardour]

Sure if  "they" = Tumblr, Salon and various feminist blog sites.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Oh boy oh boy.. this is beyond normal at this point. I am very concerned this tension is going to get me in a world of hurt.
Sexual frustration +big mouth = well do I have to tell you?
Not good outcome..

I would suggest a glass of wine, but then, everyone on this forum would pounce on me and say it's a bad idea.

There have been studies that show having a glass of wine is good for you. Plus many people here aren't against drinking so I don't know where you get that idea from.

"They" = Tumblr, Salon and various feminist blog sites.

Let's be careful about treading towards those waters. Thanks.

 

[Somnambulist]

Oh boy oh boy.. this is beyond normal at this point. I am very concerned this tension is going to get me in a world of hurt.
Sexual frustration +big mouth = well do I have to tell you?
Not good outcome..

I would suggest a glass of wine, but then, everyone on this forum would pounce on me and say it's a bad idea.

There have been studies that show having a glass of wine is good for you.  Plus many people here aren't against drinking so I don't know where you get that idea from.

I got that idea from one thread where I was pounced upon by someone (I know who, but won't say) for just suggesting "a drink". She immediately said that it was not a good idea. It got blown out of proportion.

One other person mentioned the same privately to me.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Oh boy oh boy.. this is beyond normal at this point. I am very concerned this tension is going to get me in a world of hurt.
Sexual frustration +big mouth = well do I have to tell you?
Not good outcome..

I would suggest a glass of wine, but then, everyone on this forum would pounce on me and say it's a bad idea.

There have been studies that show having a glass of wine is good for you.  Plus many people here aren't against drinking so I don't know where you get that idea from.

I got that idea from one thread where I was pounced upon by someone (I know who, but won't say) for just suggesting "a drink". She immediately said that it was not a good idea. It got blown out of proportion.

One other person mentioned the same privately to me.

It's really kind of pointless to not say who, when they are just going to say something. 

A glass of wine or two is fine, but you are suggesting using alcohol to escape from problems, THAT is where a problem could be created.  It's not about suggesting it, it's about WHY you are suggesting it.

 

[Restless soul]

Today is really bad. I can't help but notice women in form fitting atire. What is a guy to do??

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Shaking from it

 

[Sci-Fi]

Go home and masturbate or take a cold shower.

 

[Restless soul]

Go home and masturbate or take a cold shower.

I am trying to refrain from masterbation. Too cold out for cold shower

 

[morgandollar]

I think the real question is, Can anyone truly love someone WITHOUT sex? Restless Soul, if you met the woman of your dreams but she asked you to wait on sexual intimacy and it is mutually agreed upon, wouldn't you appreciate her more and wouldn't your love for her grow deeper than just a superficial sexual experience?

 

[Restless soul]

I think the real question is, Can anyone truly love someone WITHOUT sex? Restless Soul, if you met the woman of your dreams but she asked you to wait on sexual intimacy and it is mutually agreed upon, wouldn't you appreciate her more and wouldn't your love for her grow deeper than just a superficial sexual experience?

It's funny you should ask such a question. I was just contemplating that just today. You see if a guy has been I hate to use deprived. Or not been active for a very long time sexually. Which is me. And when that man has super high sex drive,  poor impulse control. ( all me ) when he does meet a great woman when he is still in such a unstable state sex drive wise. That makes it very very difficult and good sabotage that relationship.  What is the solution to that?

 

[TheRealCallie]

I think the real question is, Can anyone truly love someone WITHOUT sex? Restless Soul, if you met the woman of your dreams but she asked you to wait on sexual intimacy and it is mutually agreed upon, wouldn't you appreciate her more and wouldn't your love for her grow deeper than just a superficial sexual experience?

I would imagine asexual people would have no issues loving someone without having sex. So yeah, people can truly love someone without it.

And aside from that, some people (like me) wouldn't have sex with someone without some kind of  high level emotional bond in place first.

 

[Restless soul]

I can see myself in that predicament. That is why i posted what I said above

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Lack of sex. Easly stimulated. = very very bad

 

[Xpendable]

http://www.livestrong.com/article/69757-lower-mans-sex-drive/

http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/antidepressants

 

[Restless soul]

I can see myself in that predicament.  That is why i posted what I said above

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Lack of sex. Easly stimulated. = very very bad

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Right. I don't even have to read that article. Familair with that.
The risk of killing your sex drive with antidepressants is a bad path to go. That with various other sode affects. 

There is no happy medium. As bad and frustrating a wild sex drive is, who in thier right mind would want to kill it??

 

[Restless soul]

So what?? I have more exuses not to take anti-depressants.

My brother will love to hear that. That's right, i already ran that by him

 

[morgandollar]

I think the real question is, Can anyone truly love someone WITHOUT sex? Restless Soul, if you met the woman of your dreams but she asked you to wait on sexual intimacy and it is mutually agreed upon, wouldn't you appreciate her more and wouldn't your love for her grow deeper than just a superficial sexual experience?

I would imagine asexual people would have no issues loving someone without having sex. So yeah, people can truly love someone without it.

And aside from that, some people (like me) wouldn't have sex with someone without some kind of  high level emotional bond in place first.

It seems that movies, TV, and even the internet (especially pornography) promote the idea that sex without any real connection is fine. As long as the adults are consenting, that's their choice. But, in general, if we feed our minds with the idea all men want is sex or all women want romance, then we may never appreciate there is something in the middle. While some men may have a high sex drive, a man can learn to control such sexual impulses, doing his best to put others needs ahead of his. And while some women want an amazing romance, she can learn not to get lost in a fantasy that might never come true, doing her best to be reasonable in her expectations. I know that this may be oversimplifying it but my point is, a person, either male or female, can learn self-control, to be romantic, to be honest, to be respectful, to be caring, etc. We are not all doomed to a life of void of romance and/or sexual frustration.

 

[Restless soul]

Yes. Maybe. But like the title says. I am at a breaking point