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Valentine's Day is starting to bring the monster out....

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CenotaphGirl

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And again, no one said either of those things and no one expects you to be perfect (though I get accused of being perfect often enough here :rolleyes: ) You claim we missed your point, but you missed every single one of ours....either that or you're looking for pity by making us the bad guys. Anything is possible and it has happened here before, so I rule nothing out. lol
Callie im not trying to make you a bad guy, im not here to argue with ya, I can promise you that. I did say it probably has a lot to do with the way I word things. I really have no hard feelings towards you or anyone else I cant say it more clear than that. We disagree on this one, we haven't disagreed on everything. I may never understand the point to what others were saying, im happy to leave it like that, hence why im not really trying to delve back into it.

I didn't even say you demanded perfection or you said that I couldn't say I like valentines day, I said I think its sad that its felt that perfection is demanded. A lot of people didn't reply here and I feel that is worth mentioning. Also, the tone of this seemed to be that Valentines day was a commercialised holiday and stupid, thats why Finished and others have said things like I like Valentines day because im young and la la la.

Edit: So resolution, can we let bygones be bygones?
 

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I'm mostly okay with being single these days.
In the past before I got to this point though, either I'd drink or smoke after work and put my mind on other things.
This year, like last year, I volunteered to help with inventory at work--so that I can make the joking, cynical justification that on Valentine's Day every other man is spending money, but I'll be making money.
 

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Valentines day is a day on the calendar to remind guys to take care of their significant others. I would tell my girl friends that the one day a year you are guaranteed to not get flowers is Valentines Day. Then make sure to send them 3 or 4 times a year. Sent to work so her friends and co-workers could see them. And make them big!
Remember folks, everybody uses someone. Whether it for good or for ill intent is up to you. The human animal isn't so altruistic,
 

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My wife and I don't really celebrate Valentine's Day. We were never really that into it to begin with. We don't buy each other presents any more, either. It became pointless over the years. We spend time together, make food, see a show, watch a movie, or take walks instead. It's much more valuable than buying more "stuff." Stuff becomes more and more meaningless over time, especially as you run out of room in your house.
 

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Valentine's Day is a construct, like time 😛
Only asked for chocolate as a kid from family. If I want chocolate or flowers, I can buy them myself. Anytime. I do.
I've asked anyone over and over, over the years, specifically not to fall into the trap. It doesn't hold any weight for me, this commercial "holiday," and it puts an unnecessary guilt trip on guys. Flowers, chocolate, even jewelry.

If a significant other needs a token material thing to feel love, do you even want that kind of love/relationship?
Tokens of love and affection are most genuine when they come naturally and don't feel forced.

I boycott the whole fake bs of it.
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Unless my dog comes up with something, then ok I'll go with it.


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I cant speak for the rest of the women but I don't want anything too flashy, I just want a little romance. Teddies, chocolates, flowers, is not enough to bankrupt a man, I dont want his whole life savings lol I just want a special night. It's valentines day, most people want a date, dont they? Who really wants to spend it alone? Why would spending it with me make someone unhappy? Truth is, right now I am not in the right headspace to be with a man, however, doesn't mean I deserve to be ignored whilst every other woman is being spoilt. Idk, thats just how I think, but I am changing, slowly, I have to be sure Im not a user anymore, as thats my New Years resolution.
You're happy to use some hapless guy you have no genuine feelings for, but other people aren't utilities to be discarded. Men paying is one thing (since it remains a cultural norm and whoever asks should probably pay) but there's no excuse for the shameless manipulation of another's feelings.
 
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I am a lonely person, im very lonely actually, doesn't mean I haven't got a queue of men lining up to take advantage of that...
Think how this sounds on a forum full of rejected people, many of whom haven't had a night out in their lives and probably wouldn't mind a queue ready to "take advantage" of their desperation, as even that is preferable to nothing.

EDIT: seems like the discussion already ended. Never mind.
 
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