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I also know people who don't like working from home. Most of my friends prefer not to work remotely.

But I'm quite opposite to it, I hate being in office, there is too much communication for me there, it takes too much energy. I don't need to separate space and I've be in remote work long before COVID, I think since 2011. But I have a comfortable working place.
Most of my co-workers(from a department) also decided not to go back to office(they had to work from work during COVID last year).

I like it when work is where my laptop is. Sometimes I work from a cafe or from a car(not so comfortable though), and I feel it all as a freedom. Probably the fact that I don't feel it as a prison means that my work is quite good for me.
I love working from home! I never, ever want to go back to working in an office. Thankfully, my whole editorial work team (and boss) are all introverts, so they're all quite happy to work from home as well. I'm so much more productive, can work at whatever time suits me, free from annoyingly loud co-workers, in my own comfortable environment. The only real drawback is getting 'too' comfortable alone, so when I actually venture out into the real world, interacting with flesh-and-blood people seems a little odd and uncomfortable.
 

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Happy Thanksgiving to all of you that observe it.

To any that don't observe it, just Happy. :)
Thank you and happy to you, too! We've always celebrated Thanksgiving, but the holidays are something I'm dreading this year. A lot of the real reason for holidays has disappeared for some, but the kindnesses shown to me today and yesterday were pretty awesome.

Honestly though. I've always had a bit of guilt once I was old enough to learn about the first Thanksgiving and what we did afterwards.
 

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I love working from home! I never, ever want to go back to working in an office. Thankfully, my whole editorial work team (and boss) are all introverts, so they're all quite happy to work from home as well. I'm so much more productive, can work at whatever time suits me, free from annoyingly loud co-workers, in my own comfortable environment. The only real drawback is getting 'too' comfortable alone, so when I actually venture out into the real world, interacting with flesh-and-blood people seems a little odd and uncomfortable.
I'm now thinking this on a loop;
 

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Is it that we are having bad lives, or is it we just aren't having the lives we want?

I live in a nice house. It's in a wooded neighborhood. Deer visit often. There is a lake across the street. The bills are paid. I have family near. Three cars, and a brand new Subaru Crosstrek on order. Finances are manageable. Plenty of warm fuzzies to amuse and cuddle. I stay busy with the projects my family requests of me. These things are what many people hunger for.

But it's not what I want. I want a rustic cabin in the woods without neighbors. Screw the lake, it breeds mosquitoes, I like a flowing stream. I don't want the constant arguments with family. I'm tired of pet care, I didn't ask for them. I hate new cars, I want to drive something from my youth. Why does she ALWAYS need a brand new car? So what if the bills are paid this month. There are no savings, no nest egg, no safety net. I live wondering if the income will dry up. Money is on a razor's edge. I don't want to do their projects all the god damned time. I have projects of my own I've put off for years for the sake theirs.

I want to be comfortable and secure. I want to pursue my goals. I want to be left alone. At 67 I'm seeing my end around a bend ahead. I don't have TIME to give what little energy I have away.

I know why I'm miserable. I don't know why I can't be happy with what I've got.
 

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Is it that we are having bad lives, or is it we just aren't having the lives we want?

I live in a nice house. It's in a wooded neighborhood. Deer visit often. There is a lake across the street. The bills are paid. I have family near. Three cars, and a brand new Subaru Crosstrek on order. Finances are manageable. Plenty of warm fuzzies to amuse and cuddle. I stay busy with the projects my family requests of me. These things are what many people hunger for.

But it's not what I want. I want a rustic cabin in the woods without neighbors. Screw the lake, it breeds mosquitoes, I like a flowing stream. I don't want the constant arguments with family. I'm tired of pet care, I didn't ask for them. I hate new cars, I want to drive something from my youth. Why does she ALWAYS need a brand new car? So what if the bills are paid this month. There are no savings, no nest egg, no safety net. I live wondering if the income will dry up. Money is on a razor's edge. I don't want to do their projects all the god damned time. I have projects of my own I've put off for years for the sake theirs.

I want to be comfortable and secure. I want to pursue my goals. I want to be left alone. At 67 I'm seeing my end around a bend ahead. I don't have TIME to give what little energy I have away.

I know why I'm miserable. I don't know why I can't be happy with what I've got.
Any chance of some heart-felt, serious conversations with your family about possibly downsizing/changing things up in your life? After the whole COVID pandemic and lockdown, I think a LOT of people are rethinking priorities and what's important in their lives. I completely understand where you're coming from.
 

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I'm thinking that our memories are like a new car. As soon as a new car leaves the showroom floor it starts losing value, and starts to wear and tear. As soon as an experience is over and becomes a memory it starts fading. That's why we can never have enough sunsets or kisses. The memory just makes us miss the subject of the memory (if it was good), because it can never compare to the actual experience.

I'm thinking, to be happy, one should appreciate the moment, not dwell on memories and its equally disappointing cousin: hope; which is anyway mostly based on materialistic things that inevitably perish.

I'm thinking we are constantly depressed by feeble attempts to relive memories and chase hopes or dreams, while the small things pass us by.

I saw a homeless (definitely) man and woman on the grass next to the convenience store today. They were holding hands and laughing. And I think to myself: Why am I so stupid?
 
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....But it's not what I want......
....I want to be comfortable and secure. I want to pursue my goals. I want to be left alone. At 67 I'm seeing my end around a bend ahead. I don't have TIME to give what little energy I have away.

I know why I'm miserable. I don't know why I can't be happy with what I've got.
IMO, it's a combination of things. I fall into this trap as well. I've purposely setup myself up from early on in my life. I made a long term plan and I successfully did it.

Financially I'm set. I have / will have several sources of income. I live in a nice neighborhood that is highly desirable. I've set up my house just like I want it. I have easy access to everything I need.

But, yet, I want to get the HELL out of here because so many of my neighbors are loud ********. I've been training them, which has taken much effort. But, they are only so trainable and fall back to old habits. So, I'm not happy. Actually, I'm ANGRY. If it were not for my neighbors and some other minor things I would be content.

So, I'm almost done building a trailer to hold all of my stuff. I will work on fixing up my house to sell. Then I will sell it WHEN the market comes back around. Then I will be homeless and living in my truck. HOWEVER, I will have the complete freedom that I'm currently lacking. If I don't like an area I'll just start up my truck and drive somewhere else.

BUT, I've done a lot of travelling and the amount of nice quite scenic areas with nobody in them has been really declining.

So, I sometimes sit around and think maybe I should just be happy and thankful for all that I do have. It really is a good setup. But, then I realize most of my neighbors will be retiring in the next 10 - 12 years. Then they be noisy ******** all the time.

My life clock is ticking away as well. I figure I only have about 20 good years remaining where I will enjoy travelling, hiking, exploring, etc, etc, etc. So, I better not wait much longer or I'll have to stay put.
 

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My life clock is ticking away as well. I figure I only have about 20 good years remaining where I will enjoy travelling, hiking, exploring, etc, etc, etc. So, I better not wait much longer or I'll have to stay put.
we don't have any good 20 years remaining. Second coming of Christ is somewhere in 2030-2033 and judgement day. Vaccinated have even less with their now new cancers and myocarditis they won’t even make it till then.
 
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we don't have any good 20 years remaining. Second coming of Christ is somewhere in 2030-2033 and judgement day. Vaccinated have even less with their now new cancers and myocarditis they won’t even make it till then.
Well, I never got vaccinated so maybe I'll be one of the later ones to die. I'd like to be high up on top of a mountain watching things unfold while all the evil is swept away below me. Perhaps I'll be chosen to live and share the peace and understanding that I'm very capable of having. :)
 
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Well, I never got vaccinated so maybe I'll be one of the later ones to die. I'd like to be high up on top of a mountain watching things unfold while all the evil is swept away below me. Perhaps I'll be chosen to live and share the peace and understand that I'm very capable of having. :)
Ya, you will probably make it here to the Judgment day on earth around 2032 some time. That’s the longest out of most people on earth. Very few will make it
 

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Work is an absolute whirlwind of bullshit right now.
Side by side I'm also adjusting to physical life adjustments with dietary and exercise.
Compounded with extended hours, and nearly twice the work as normal.
Organization is chaotic.
How do you deal with life as a wave?
You surf. It's all you can do.
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Then I will be homeless and living in my truck. HOWEVER, I will have the complete freedom that I'm currently lacking. If I don't like an area I'll just start up my truck and drive somewhere else.
I dream of selling my flat and getting a yacht and sail here and there.
But first of all I have to save some money for skipper license(not so easy in my situation).
 

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