Red_Wedding_Casualty
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So...... here I am again.
If you followed my last thread, I was given radio silence from a girl I liked that I'd developed a friendship with for almost a year. Recently, we began talking. And our conversations had touched on more intimate topics than they had previously. This week, she'd apparently gone out to tea with two old friends and some guy she'd met online. I asked where she met the guy from. She hasn't responded. This more or less sums up my chances of ever having my feelings reciprocated. Not only that, but merely asking that question most likely destroyed the friendship right there. I now have few people to turn to. My friends have heard all this before from me. So I dare not test their patience again. And even here, the general response to people like me is 'nut the fresia up or shut the fresia up' (in more polite words obviously).
So, I accepted defeat, and trawled the internet for articles and columns on why I am the way I am. Then I came across a comment to an article that I'd never considered before(or atleast didn't want to consider until now). I am not the only one going through this. Far from it. There are hundreds of millions of single men and women around the world. Most of them want to find romantic partners. Very few actually can. Why is this? Too often we look at ourselves when it comes to our love lives, or lack thereof, all the while ignoring the bigger picture. What if it's not me? What if I, and others like me are merely victims of ever changing social and economic trends?
I mean, think about it. Back my parent's day, when there was a high demand for unskilled labour, every aspect of society was geared towards the family unit, as it was essential for a continued supply of able-bodied workers. Fast forward to today. Thanks to advances in technology, what once took many to do can now be done by only a few. Meanwhile, awareness of climate change sees that the need for major construction is met with fierce resistance from environmental issues. All of this equates to the economy no longer needing such a large workforce anymore, resulting in the family unit losing the social support it once had. While it no longer has need for a large workforce, it does still need alot of consumers, perhaps more so than ever. And that's where my situation suddenly becomes useful to the global economy.
I never saw much my mum and stepdad's finances, but I do know that even with me paying board and half an electricity bill, they were barely banking a fraction of their earnings. My mother works full time admin, while my stepdad is trying to run two businesses. I've been renting out of home for three months now, and after monthly expenses are taken into account, I'll easily bank half of my earnings. I merely collect trolleys for 20 hours a week. I can't speak for anyone else, but moving out of home was my 'endgame' as far as life's goals are concerned. From there, it's merely a case of maintaining a nice little rainy day fund incase I need to relocate in a hurry. I have no outstanding loans or mortgages tied to me, which means there's alot of loose change lying around for petty purchases.
You can even see the progression (or regression) in culture over the years. In the 60's and 70's when shows like Happy Days and The Brady Bunch reigned. All of those shows focused on a family unit. Fast forward to the 90's, where we had Seinfeld, Friends, etc. Most of those shows focused on friendships, and whenever a family member did show, that person was portrayed as a dysfunctional mess. Everybody Love Raymond was probably the only notable exception, although it served to exist as a parody of the more wholesome family shows of the decades before it.
...Then we come to today. The TV shows that currently air seem to be almost intentionally repulsive. Meanwhile we're seeing comic book movies gain much more exposure than they have in the past. We've also seen the popularity of video games skyrocket in the mid 00's. Once upon a time ago, these things were considered to be the domain of children and social outcasts. Why now are we seeing these things breaking into mainstream and becoming 'kewl'?
...This could all be the insane ramblings of a chronically lonely guy attempting to deal with a silent rejection through words. If I've gone wrong somewhere with my train of thought, by all means. Call me up on my bullshit. I am here partially, to expose myself to new things and ideas. If I wasn't I'd spend my days being a nuisance on video game sites. [/i]
If you followed my last thread, I was given radio silence from a girl I liked that I'd developed a friendship with for almost a year. Recently, we began talking. And our conversations had touched on more intimate topics than they had previously. This week, she'd apparently gone out to tea with two old friends and some guy she'd met online. I asked where she met the guy from. She hasn't responded. This more or less sums up my chances of ever having my feelings reciprocated. Not only that, but merely asking that question most likely destroyed the friendship right there. I now have few people to turn to. My friends have heard all this before from me. So I dare not test their patience again. And even here, the general response to people like me is 'nut the fresia up or shut the fresia up' (in more polite words obviously).
So, I accepted defeat, and trawled the internet for articles and columns on why I am the way I am. Then I came across a comment to an article that I'd never considered before(or atleast didn't want to consider until now). I am not the only one going through this. Far from it. There are hundreds of millions of single men and women around the world. Most of them want to find romantic partners. Very few actually can. Why is this? Too often we look at ourselves when it comes to our love lives, or lack thereof, all the while ignoring the bigger picture. What if it's not me? What if I, and others like me are merely victims of ever changing social and economic trends?
I mean, think about it. Back my parent's day, when there was a high demand for unskilled labour, every aspect of society was geared towards the family unit, as it was essential for a continued supply of able-bodied workers. Fast forward to today. Thanks to advances in technology, what once took many to do can now be done by only a few. Meanwhile, awareness of climate change sees that the need for major construction is met with fierce resistance from environmental issues. All of this equates to the economy no longer needing such a large workforce anymore, resulting in the family unit losing the social support it once had. While it no longer has need for a large workforce, it does still need alot of consumers, perhaps more so than ever. And that's where my situation suddenly becomes useful to the global economy.
I never saw much my mum and stepdad's finances, but I do know that even with me paying board and half an electricity bill, they were barely banking a fraction of their earnings. My mother works full time admin, while my stepdad is trying to run two businesses. I've been renting out of home for three months now, and after monthly expenses are taken into account, I'll easily bank half of my earnings. I merely collect trolleys for 20 hours a week. I can't speak for anyone else, but moving out of home was my 'endgame' as far as life's goals are concerned. From there, it's merely a case of maintaining a nice little rainy day fund incase I need to relocate in a hurry. I have no outstanding loans or mortgages tied to me, which means there's alot of loose change lying around for petty purchases.
You can even see the progression (or regression) in culture over the years. In the 60's and 70's when shows like Happy Days and The Brady Bunch reigned. All of those shows focused on a family unit. Fast forward to the 90's, where we had Seinfeld, Friends, etc. Most of those shows focused on friendships, and whenever a family member did show, that person was portrayed as a dysfunctional mess. Everybody Love Raymond was probably the only notable exception, although it served to exist as a parody of the more wholesome family shows of the decades before it.
...Then we come to today. The TV shows that currently air seem to be almost intentionally repulsive. Meanwhile we're seeing comic book movies gain much more exposure than they have in the past. We've also seen the popularity of video games skyrocket in the mid 00's. Once upon a time ago, these things were considered to be the domain of children and social outcasts. Why now are we seeing these things breaking into mainstream and becoming 'kewl'?
...This could all be the insane ramblings of a chronically lonely guy attempting to deal with a silent rejection through words. If I've gone wrong somewhere with my train of thought, by all means. Call me up on my bullshit. I am here partially, to expose myself to new things and ideas. If I wasn't I'd spend my days being a nuisance on video game sites. [/i]