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do you think maybe you have a sex addiction?
I've never considered it an addiction.
I usually see escorts 3 times a week.
I think that's just an outlet.
But I suppose could be wrong.
Some people have told me that they consider me a "high functioning alcoholic", so I guess it is possible I am a "high functioning sex addict" as well. It's just that seeing girls 3 times a week does not seem like a lot to me, although I do waste more time than I should watching porn.

It's not like I'm going broke or anything. I still work every day, save money, invest in my retirement funds, and always pay my bills at the end of the month. I've always associated addiction with going broke.
 

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You know what! I agree! You dont fit in, because you wasnt made to ✨ Some people cant help but to shine, everyone will exclude you and try to tear you down because they know they cannot being to enter your league. Thats my honest opinion about you, the nerds didnt want you because you fry their brains like you fry mine sweets ✨ im humble enough to admit it 😇

:oops: Thanks Ceno! 😅🤗
 

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I've never considered it an addiction.
I usually see escorts 3 times a week.
I think that's just an outlet.
But I suppose could be wrong.
Some people have told me that they consider me a "high functioning alcoholic", so I guess it is possible I am a "high functioning sex addict" as well. It's just that seeing girls 3 times a week does not seem like a lot to me, although I do waste more time than I should watching porn.

It's not like I'm going broke or anything. I still work every day, save money, invest in my retirement funds, and always pay my bills at the end of the month. I've always associated addiction with going broke.
Addiction is not about going broke, its about unhealthy dependencies ✨
I dont think 3 times a week is that bad though 😇


:oops: Thanks Ceno! 😅🤗
Awh nooo dont thank meee this is the kinda stuff I shout at the mirror 😅 its important to know you are too good for no goods 😇✨
 

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I heard on a forum around loneliness, that it is not a feeling it is an experience.

Really made me think and I thought, I wonder what you guys think of that statement, do you feel lonely or do you experience it ? ✨

I think it can be both.

I think loneliness as a feeling, is more temporary - like feeling happy, sad, angry, nervous, or anything else.

Loneliness becomes more of an experience, once it becomes a prolonged, chronic condition.
 
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Lonelyness is a feeling. It just shows up sometimes. But, you can choose to experience or not IF you are able to control yourself. When you get the feeling quickly start thinking about something else or watch a funny show and start laughing. I can get my mind to shift focus before I really start pondering about being lonely.
 

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Good q! I think it can be both at least for me but I experience loneliness more than I feel it. Basically, I just try to choose to not feel alone even while experiencing it. I learned that if I can think I feel lonely even while in the presence of someone else, then I don't have to feel that way alone, too. I have my thoughts, I can dream, I can talk out loud, and connect with energy, etc.
 

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Both, I think. Like the feeling when you’re surrounded by people - at a busy mall or a concert or wherever - yet you feel lonely inside. Or coming home to an empty house and experiencing the absolute quiet and stillness of nobody else being there.
Yes,definitely
 

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Loneliness is a curse. Despite all my best efforts it's my way of life. Every now and then a brief bit of happiness does show up and distracts me, but it's always short lived and then it's right back to the norm, that force in the universe that refuses to let me be always comes right back and wipes the smile off my face, as if the distraction was just a joke or cruel tease.
 

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I’ve been racking my brain over this and I can’t discern a difference. It sounds like “experience” is made out to be an action and “feeling” a reaction, but I’m conflicted with that as well. How does it assist to define it one way or another?
 
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Alone being that of choice and the experience of loneliness can be either from the result of that choice, desiring to be alone, or from an inwardly feeling of loneliness even when being in the presence of a crowd of people.

When I was younger the feeling of loneliness did get to me often. As I got older and people changed over time that feeling didn't bother me anymore. Plus after a while a person can get so used to something that it ends up not being a big deal anymore.

I like being alone and loneliness doesn't bother me at all. I know where I stand and boundaries are much easier to establish. There is a feeling of self control and clearer perspective that I find can be a positive thing with being alone.
 

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