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ardour said:
The problem with life is that we learn everything too late.

not true for everyone-some men are fortunate enough to never have to face the harsh reality of being alone & unwanted. rather than having to learn anything, they are taught their high value by everyone around them.  i am extremely envious of the genetic lottery winners for having a life that i never will.
 
A smile from her.
Having someone to tell her that I love her.
Having someone to listen to her saying "I love you".
 
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ardour said:
The problem with life is that we learn everything too late.

This has really been weighing heavily on me lately.  The feeling that I ruined my life, that I caused a lot of pain both to others and myself that could have been avoided and would have just by thinking like a normal person instead of being caught up in nonsense like I was.  Basically, if I'd just listened to my Mom about several key things.  I don't know why I thought my ideas were right, they weren't at all, and she was literally giving me the answers.  I should have just taken them, and we all would have been happier for it.
 
Everything that makes you feel happy.
I know, it's a short reply, but this something everyone has to figure out for themselves, right?
 
RandomFella said:
Everything that makes you feel happy.
I know, it's a short reply, but this something everyone has to figure out for themselves, right?


correct-the problem comes in when one knows exactly what will make them happy but is utterly unable to experience it due to factors entirely beyond their control. it is the fallacious belief that everyone is able to attain what will make them happy which is the source of great frustration, suffering and confusion.  becasue there are winners in life there also must be losers and it is beyond devastating to be forced into the latter category from birth based on pure, random chance.
 
"Meaningful work, someone to love, a great sex life, a good dog."

i recently found this question & the answers (which i strongly agree with) in an online article. however, being 0-4 myself since my 14.5 year old pitbull passed away a few months ago makes for a life not really worth living at all-especially when there is little to no hope of these area's ever getting any better except perhaps possibly adopting another dog sometime in the future.
WRONG on 3/4 of those. 'get a job' is just the mainstream idea fed to you by society down on from the gov/corporations. The entire mentality that if you don't have a job, you're a piece of honeysuckle welfare trash; is just pure ignorance. I left work and got on disability because I couldn't stand it any longer. Working 40 hrs a week for next to nothing after rent and bills are paid, barely enough to cover my video game/snacks/junk food addiction, which I need in order to make it through every other aspect of life without killing myself.

That's the problem with society these days, piss poor education system, mainstream addiction, which people need in order to make it through their mediocre lives, and all of it backed up, and made worse by anti-socialism, and underlying anger issues. The men are angry and don't know what they're angry at, the women are angry at the men, and the education system is so broken that it fails to teach us to think intellectually enough to get to the bottom of any of it.

Dog, not everyone likes dogs. I like German shepherds, but they're too big for an apartment, and too loud for anything (I have sensitive hearing, so most dogs are).

'a great sex life' ? Really? Way to break the male stereotype of being sex-driven pigs. Sex doesn't matter. I could be a damned eunuch and still be happy if I had real love with an intellectual partner of whom shares (at least some of) my interests and ideals. Seriously though, I've been alone for nearly my entire life, trust me, with the correct tools, you can pleasure yourself just as well without a woman. But I am FAR from happy.

That's just another dumb societal mentality..
Like, sex means everything, we just believe that because of how much it's pushed by the mainstream media, and then by our friends that feed into that honeysuckle. Same thing with alcohol. The world would hardly die without it, but damned near every show made past 2k10ish is a perpetual commercial for alcohol. It really should be seen as a bad thing that the people on these shows seem to drink alcohol more than milk.. If they were doing the same in real life, they'd be alcoholics.

But, love, That I agree with, hard to live without it. I've spent a lot of my life in my head, and I've thought of hypotheticals in which I'm a rich billionaire with a home in the penthouse of the tallest building in Toronto, and my own yacht, along with anything else I could want or need. But without someone to share it with, it really would all be meaningless. Obviously it's better to have money than to not, but it's not a replacement for love, and neither is sex. Sex is 30-60 minutes in a day of not feeling like complete honeysuckle, before you return to reality, that is all.
 
The moments of non-suffering. Sometimes I catch myself not suffering and I suppose those moments have to be enough. Often I ask myself 'What can I do to make this at least 1% better?' and every now and then I think 'Nothing, it's okay as it is.'
I know of people who stay alive this way, if they catch themselves not suffering they cancel their suicide plans. Almost nobody suffers all of the time, according to hospice nurses.
 
For me it's mostly that I'm more afraid of death than I am of life. I don't believe in fantasy afterlife scenarios, so I've got science. When I die, I'll break down into atoms and become many other things over time. But my consciousness in it's current state will never exist again. While I've often said that 'death is easy, life is the curse', I have this bit of control for the time being, I may as well live it out..

Life isn't hard once you shed the shackles of societal subjugation, but it can certainly be painful when reality decides to smack you in the face, remind you that real love is an actual thing, then rips it away from you, only to remind you yet again that whether it's an actual thing or not, it was never meant for you..
 
Take yourself away from everyone. Be alone, completely alone. No contact with anyone. You are in an abandoned town and there isn't another soul to be seen. It will take you only a matter of days to realize what makes life worth living. Community. Relationships. Being able to grow with others. We like to be appreciated. We like to be entertained. We like to feel... we have to feel.

It's not just people. They need to be the right people. So I'd say in the simplest terms, life is worth living if you are among people you cherish that in turn cherish you. You can possess everything, but it means little if there aren't others to share it with.
 

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