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Hey everyone, I have a bit of an issue here, mainly because it’s a dilemma.  Yeah, despite me asking for your opinions, this is not an easy decision for me to make.
 
I’ll be honest with you all… I LOVE porn, it is the thing I mostly dedicate my time to (aside from playing video games): downloading stuff that I like.  I have accumulated 400 GB of videos, mostly featuring amateur, but I also have professional, 3d animations, solos, Hentai, etc.  Hell, I even have a list in my bookmarks of various couples that are still going to this day and them monthly.  It’s not only videos, I also like images and they fall under two categories: singles and comics.  The comics are the stuff I like the most; it ranges from Hentai, furry, cartoon, 3d, etc.  Like the videos, I also have a list of artists that are still drawing stuff and see what’s new with them every month.
 
My obvious issue here is that I don’t have the time, nor stamina, to go through everything, so I was thinking of easing things down and choose the things I like the most, like my favorite couples, series, artists, etc.  However, I also thought about this list I had made a good amount of months ago:
https://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=38304
The things I listed are mostly the stuff that I need to do to improve my life, so there isn’t anything related to hobbies that I also want to do, things like writing stories I’ve wanted to make for the longest time, watch TV series, listen to new music, play old video games, etc.  I came to the realization that if I want to do all these plans, I have to quit porn altogether and that’s something I DON’T want to do.
 
I have dedicated far too much of my time to delete everything that I downloaded.  I like the stuff I see, I like many of the girls that get nailed, all of them have something that’s charmingly unique, that makes me want to see them whenever I can, the same goes with the images, specially the comics, many of them have very loving storylines (By the way, I don’t like stuff like rape, bdsm, hardcore, etc.).  Not to mention, porn and masturbation are, and probably will be, my only sex life, I’m also someone that’s more likely to get a sex doll as a girlfriend than an actual human girlfriend, so cut me a break here everyone; a virgin man can always dream of situations he wishes he could be in, that includes non-sexual stuff people.
 
So, what do you all recommend?  Should I ease my habit and stick with my favorite couples (comics will still stay the same though) or should I delete everything (that would leave me curious about many unfinished comics)?
 

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I think you answered your own question! But you don't like the answer! If you want to do all of those things you will probably need to cut down on your porn... but do you actually want to? I mean for me there's absolutely nothing wrong with being passionate about porn. The problem you have is when you say things like "Not to mention, porn and masturbation are, and probably will be, my only sex life" as you already have a defeatist attitude! Right now changing that attitude is more important than anything on your list.

It's a shame you don't like bdsm, not for my sake! lmao I wasn't going to share this, but I'm pretty well known on certain s&M sites and the relationships you can make are incredible. You learn to interact with women, and also have a sexual connection with someone. Even if you never meet them in person. Anyway changing the subject, back to you!

My advice? Don't give up the porn! It makes you happy! Anything that makes you happy can't be that bad! I don't see why you'd need to cut down your porn use that much... write stories or play an old video game while a new porn video downloads! You're proving women right and not multi-tasking! Whatever you do, make sure you're happy. As long as you're happy you'll have more energy to do things!

Feel free to message me if you want to chat... or share porn links lmao! Have a good day mate!
 

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How much time are you investing in this Hobby? If it's getting in the way of other things you want to do, then yeah you should probably cut back a little. I may be underestimating how much you're collecting... But I don't see why you'd have to give it up... Just save it for later, when you're done with the writing, music, games, or TV shows.
 

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kaetic said:
How much time are you investing in this Hobby? If it's getting in the way of other things you want to do, then yeah you should probably cut back a little. I may be underestimating how much you're collecting... But I don't see why you'd have to give it up... Just save it for later, when you're done with the writing, music, games, or TV shows.

Well, it varies everyday, depending on my mood, sometimes I advance on most of the other things I want to do, sometimes it's a mix of both, sometimes it's porn all day and sometimes I don't do anything.  :p
 

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There's nothing wrong with watching porn, but if you're really dedicating as much time and effort to it as you say you are, and you're making a post asking for suggestions, then that sound more like a habit. Also be sure that it doesn't warp what you think is normal...
 

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If you really want to quit it, do so... it is not heroine, you will not be sick or possibly die from withdrawl, you just need to replace the imagery presented to you in abundance online with fantasy and imagination.
 

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If you think it's a problem you should do something about it.

How is it affecting other areas of your life like:
work
sleep
chores
relationships?
 

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Azariah said:
How is it affecting other areas of your life like:
work
sleep
chores
relationships?

1. I don't have a job, but I am going to school, my habit doesn't intervene in any way.
2. I sleep 6-7 hours, usually go to bed between 11pm and 12am, only watch porn when I can't sleep, which doesn't happen often.
3. I don't have any, I get easily tempted to watch it when I'm alone and/or bored, especially when the majority of the stuff I like is sexual in nature.  Don't watch any on gym days though.  =D
4. I don't have any, so... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

EDIT: I know I'm not obsessed with it, otherwise I wouldn't be dedicated in improving myself and checking things off that list. I just want to read some suggestions of whether I should ease my habit and complete that list slowly or forget about it and complete that list faster. Oh, and don't forget the fact that I'm not dating material, not in a million years.
 

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realationships dont just have to be with girlfriend/boyfriend. They can be your family/friends too.
 

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Azariah said:
realationships dont just have to be with girlfriend/boyfriend. They can be your family/friends too.

Ah, if that's the case, then it doesn't affect my relationship with my family, I don't think they even know that I watch many sorts of porn, except my little brother, he caught me once watching a pic of Mufasa raping a zebra.  XP
 

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All I can say on porn is my favourite quote on the subject, from when "Fifty Shades of Grey" (apparently one of the worst books ever written) came out several years ago:

"Women say they don't watch porn, but they'll sure READ the fresia out of it!"

I'm not trying to make any point here particularly. I just thought it was funny.
 

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TheLoadedDog said:
All I can say on porn is my favourite quote on the subject, from when "Fifty Shades of Grey" (apparently one of the worst books ever written) came out several years ago:

"Women say they don't watch porn, but they'll sure READ the fresia out of it!"

I'm not trying to make any point here particularly.  I just thought it was funny.

LOl They watch porn same as us. They just kid themselves into thinking it's for different reasons ;-)

My ex used to have me go buy porn dvds for her at the video store. She was too shy to enter the "xxx" section lol.
There is no fundamental difference between the sexes when it comes to sex. It depends what you were raised to believe.
 

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