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Aardra

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I don't know why people think it's okay to casually ask/talk about trans people's genitals. Like, you wouldn't talk about anyone else's like that. It's almost like we're not seen as people. Also tranny is a slur, please don't use that word.
 

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It's okay. I was maybe a bit overreactive, just bc of all the shit I get online. I understand you were trying to be nice.

Thank you for the compliment, though.

There are plenty of trans people out there, but it's hard to find another person within the trans community that I have anything in common with. Also the few trans people I've dated have not been interested in being monogamous, because they want to make up for lost time or whatever.
 
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That I'm solely responsible for my current situation. That I can't blame any of the people that wronged me in the past for where I am in life and that I'm the only person that can drag myself out of this pit.
 

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I'm drawn to people who are not good for me and then wonder why my relationships fail.
 

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Deeper relationships feel awkward or even foreign. This leads me to retreat to what I know, the safety of a more distant relationship.
 

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The most painful truth I've had to swallow ( no choice really ) is that any mother can point a finger at me saying I did something sexual to her child ( whether I know them or not ) and I find myself locked up even before the sun goes down, then I'd have to spend a year trying to prove a negative ( my innocence...) Same for rape of a woman or anything bad involving children or women, oftentimes that includes marriage.
It was very hard to see myself as the one who could be stalked by any random crazy ( feminist or not ) woman who happens to have decided that every man or boy is undesirable for her utopia and that if one man pays for another, well, she "could live with that" ( all pages from that feminist woman's quote have gone from Goggle... can anyone say "how bizarre"? )
Needless to say, after having gone through such an ordeal, I decided that my personal life ( at least the years I have left on this planet ) is more important than falling into the same scenario so I'm doing what my instincts tell me to do: Stay away from children and women unless professionally necessary. Do NOT participate in anything involving women and/or children and plan my days in regards to MYSELF. Anyone else is superfluous in my existence.
Thank you feminism for that lesson, one I shall never forget. What do they say? Practice makes perfect.
 

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Could list many. One is I'm a failure.
Two is I grew up thinking if God exists he gave a shit about me and people. I've learnt if he exists then he certainly does not.
 

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I don't know why people think it's okay to casually ask/talk about trans people's genitals. Like, you wouldn't talk about anyone else's like that. It's almost like we're not seen as people. Also tranny is a slur, please don't use that word.
If my sexual parts can be called "junk" then I can call whoever else's genitals the way I want to. I wouldn't, of course, because I rarely get into that sort of thing and the subject of Male-to-female/female-to-male is seldomly if ever, raised in my presence, but as long as I hear "junk" to describe what I have between my legs I will feel entitled to call other genders' genitals how I want to... Anyone upset about that can send the cops to my house. I'll give those men in uniform a cup of hot coffee for their service.
 
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If my sexual parts can be called "junk" then I can call whoever else's genitals the way I want to. I wouldn't, of course, because I rarely get into that sort of thing and the subject of Male-to-female/female-to-male is seldomly if ever, raised in my presence, but as long as I hear "junk" to describe what I have between my legs I will feel entitled to call other genders' genitals how I want to... Anyone upset about that can send the cops to my house. I'll give those men in uniform a cup of hot coffee for their service.
What are you talking about? I'm sorry but whatever trauma you've had doesn't excuse treating trans people with disrespect. Don't ask trans people about their genitals. Don't bring it up unless they invite you to. It's that simple.
 

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What are you talking about? I'm sorry but whatever trauma you've had doesn't excuse treating trans people with disrespect. Don't ask trans people about their genitals. Don't bring it up unless they invite you to. It's that simple.
What are you talking about?? I'm sorry but whatever trauma you've had doesn't excuse treating my post as an insult or disrespect to anyone.
Don't ask me about my genitals by calling them "junk". Don't bring it up unless I invite you to. It's that simple.
 

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What are you talking about?? I'm sorry but whatever trauma you've had doesn't excuse treating my post as an insult or disrespect to anyone.
Don't ask me about my genitals by calling them "junk". Don't bring it up unless I invite you to. It's that simple.
My concern isn't what you call them. My concern is that people feel that it's okay to ask trans people about theirs, or casually bring them up in conversation unprompted, like Azariah did. It feels very dehumanizing.
 

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My concern isn't what you call them. My concern is that people feel that it's okay to ask trans people about theirs, or casually bring them up in conversation unprompted, like Azariah did. It feels very dehumanizing.
I sympathize. No one should feel like it's open season on their gender and have strangers ask about something that is supposed to be no one else's business but theirs and their partner. It IS dehumanizing indeed, but I've noticed in the past 30 years a certain trend to try and dehumanize whole swaths of population based on gender, color, and wealth. Really, that process has done its round. First, it was blacks then women, then gays then Christians, Muslims and now it's men and transgenders. What group will next be dehumanized is up for grabs, maybe pangenders or comedians
I guess what I'm trying to say is that just because you don't like something done to or said about you doesn't mean someone somewhere won't do it, even innocently or accidentally, and denying that sort of thing is likely to happen again is to deny that human beings, all of us, are imperfect.
I think what we all could use these days is a bit of benefit of the doubt and a whole lot of forgiveness, but that's just what I think, it has no consequences whatsoever.
 

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