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Why are you lonely???

Azariah

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I used to be lonely but ever since I ditched self hatred things have gotten better. I still get existential crisis now and then especially when I'm bored. But listening to music helps me a lot especially soothing music. Rn I'm sitting at the front of my house, it's about 7 pm writing this. What does bother me now is when my mind questions what's reality because recently I was on drugs and saw all kinds of weird stuff. But remembering that people out there feel pain helps me know what's real.

So, why are you lonely and how can I help????
 

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We are social creatures. That loneliness makes us search out others, relationships. The premise is we are stronger in groups. Evolution developed the group mentality long ago. It was those people that survived to pass that need onto their offspring. Those that lacked the need of a group were at greater risk and likely didn't survive.

Lonely is what we feel when our group is too small or missing. Or perhaps our group isn't giving us what it is we need. Just because you are with a group of people doesn't mean that they are not destructive to you.

Lonely tells us we need something more.
 

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I'm lonely because I'm sad. I'm sad because I'm unhappy. Etc.
 

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We are social creatures. That loneliness makes us search out others, relationships. The premise is we are stronger in groups. Evolution developed the group mentality long ago. It was those people that survived to pass that need onto their offspring. Those that lacked the need of a group were at greater risk and likely didn't survive.

Lonely is what we feel when our group is too small or missing. Or perhaps our group isn't giving us what it is we need. Just because you are with a group of people doesn't mean that they are not destructive to you.

Lonely tells us we need something more.
Sadly my entire group...closest friends and husband all passed very young...that's why I am alone...sometimes I am lonely and sometimes I like my alone time....have had no luck meeting a companion/partner or female friends that don't want , want , want ....
 

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I often feel unknown, despite being around people all of the time.
 

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The premise is we are stronger in groups.
Meh, fuck groups. I've always preferred one on one. Because it's those situations in which you can be the most real, and not be judged for it. Sides, I think the desire to have another in your life is a purely selfish desire.

In a sense I thing Freud was onto something with the concept of us seeking partners that resemble our parents. But just not in the weird sexual way.. what we do seek is for someone to look upon us as our parents once did when we were babies or young children.

In growing up, we progressively lose that sense of being unconditionally loved by someone. And so we spend much of our adult lives trying to regain that feeling.

As a baby, anyone walking past may look upon you in a manner that makes you feel loved. But even in the latter stages of being a baby/toddler, you may notice fewer people looking upon you in that manner.

For me that was the first step (in clear memory) towards realizing that this world is flawed.

From there it's all about 'growing up', 'becoming an individual' and progressively losing anything that made me truly happy. Not that my childhood was all that happy to begin with, what with all the abuse, neglect, abandonment .etc.

I too used to be able to shrug off lonliness for even decades at a time, but now that I'm 40, on disability, and stuck in a tiny town during a pandemic; it's staring me right in the face on a daily basis.
 

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Lonely in a physical sense. Because, I have to be able to trust that someone won't freak out about my physical health. If it suddenly goes haywire. Avoiding social contact because of potential exposure to Covid-19 is a major reason.
 

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I used to be lonely but ever since I ditched self hatred things have gotten better. I still get existential crisis now and then especially when I'm bored. But listening to music helps me a lot especially soothing music. Rn I'm sitting at the front of my house, it's about 7 pm writing this. What does bother me now is when my mind questions what's reality because recently I was on drugs and saw all kinds of weird stuff. But remembering that people out there feel pain helps me know what's real.

So, why are you lonely and how can I help????
I'm not lonely so you can't help, but thanks just the same.
 

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Because of my weigth but may be it's just an excuse, if so I don't know the answer. Maybe I'm just lost here, in the wrong place at the wrong time. Maybe it's a wrong Planet/Galaxy/Universe? Most likely it's just a wrong me)
 

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My mom used to say I was born sad and lonely inside and maybe it's true because I don't remember a time when I didn't feel it creeping in around the edges.
~C
 

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i am lonely because women wont have anything to do with me, i am quiet natured so no one is interested , if i was a big ugly foul mouthed thug i would be popular with women but as i am not like that women wont have anything to do with me so i find pleasure in looking for ways to make women who reject me suffer and if i can i feel so happy. So to women who dont like me, you can all get stuffed.
 

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