MIA
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Hi guys,
I did not know that so many people feel lonely as I do. I think it is good that we can support each other.
I am 39 years old. Single, live in Toronto for 4 years.
My mom passed away in a car accident in 2000 when I was 19. I keep recalling the horrible moment she had and try to imagine how scary and painful she felt. I guess I blame myself for not taking her side when she was suffering from the marriage struggling with my dad. The truth was my dad was cheating on her since I was 10 and I could not believe that. I trusted my father so much so I was not believing my mom. For those years, I was like a spoiled kid who always fights with mom for nonsense. Maybe subconsciously, I blamed her for not being happy which was so stupid and selfish. I discovered the truth in 1999 which was one year before the accident. I regretted and tried to fix my mistake. I had a few sincere and close conversations with my mom. I still remember she was touched and cried when I showed her my regret and trust. It was so hard for her to keep our family. She had no one to tell only me but I made her so miserable in so many years. She was an extremely diligent and kind-hearted person. She was just not smart enough to marry the right person. But she never gave up on loving my dad and me until the last moment of her life. We were just so selfish.
I guess I had some issue after that. If you can not believe the person who was supposed to love you the most, who you can believe? If you had no chance to fix your mistakes, how could you dare to make mistakes?
It was not bad enough. In 2004, my dad got cancer. I just transferred all of my attention to him. I could not imagine how would I live without any family. Unfortunately, things happened anyway. I lost my dad in 2006. I hold his hand until it became cold and stiff. He spent the last a few years of his life with the lady who he loved. I think he lived with the guilty feeling to my mom as well. I knew that my mom would not blame him because she loved him more than anything. I hope both of them have made their peace.
I had only one serious relationship in my whole life. It lasted for 4 years. I told myself I would not make the same mistake as my mom and my dad. It seems that I could not help losing myself in the relationship either. I thought we would get married in 2009 but it turned out the relationship ended in 2010.
After that, I tried to open my heart but I could not. I hope life will not end up like this.
I did not know that so many people feel lonely as I do. I think it is good that we can support each other.
I am 39 years old. Single, live in Toronto for 4 years.
My mom passed away in a car accident in 2000 when I was 19. I keep recalling the horrible moment she had and try to imagine how scary and painful she felt. I guess I blame myself for not taking her side when she was suffering from the marriage struggling with my dad. The truth was my dad was cheating on her since I was 10 and I could not believe that. I trusted my father so much so I was not believing my mom. For those years, I was like a spoiled kid who always fights with mom for nonsense. Maybe subconsciously, I blamed her for not being happy which was so stupid and selfish. I discovered the truth in 1999 which was one year before the accident. I regretted and tried to fix my mistake. I had a few sincere and close conversations with my mom. I still remember she was touched and cried when I showed her my regret and trust. It was so hard for her to keep our family. She had no one to tell only me but I made her so miserable in so many years. She was an extremely diligent and kind-hearted person. She was just not smart enough to marry the right person. But she never gave up on loving my dad and me until the last moment of her life. We were just so selfish.
I guess I had some issue after that. If you can not believe the person who was supposed to love you the most, who you can believe? If you had no chance to fix your mistakes, how could you dare to make mistakes?
It was not bad enough. In 2004, my dad got cancer. I just transferred all of my attention to him. I could not imagine how would I live without any family. Unfortunately, things happened anyway. I lost my dad in 2006. I hold his hand until it became cold and stiff. He spent the last a few years of his life with the lady who he loved. I think he lived with the guilty feeling to my mom as well. I knew that my mom would not blame him because she loved him more than anything. I hope both of them have made their peace.
I had only one serious relationship in my whole life. It lasted for 4 years. I told myself I would not make the same mistake as my mom and my dad. It seems that I could not help losing myself in the relationship either. I thought we would get married in 2009 but it turned out the relationship ended in 2010.
After that, I tried to open my heart but I could not. I hope life will not end up like this.