Recent content by edamame721

Update. I made one attempt at contact last month and am back in touch with my friend. We saw a movie together, chatted about meaningless stuff. Now he's suddenly wanting to meet a lot and texting me at night about how lonely and lost he is (he's single). He never apologized for his behavior and...

I've temporarily deactivated Facebook a few times, but keep it to sometimes check on people who I've grown apart with (mostly it's because they moved) but have fond memories of. I usually wish them happy birthday or like some of their posts but otherwise, I do find it lonely and alienating. The...

My opinion is you are remaining strong for your family. When one of my relatives passed away, I cried all night and after that had to get up in the morning and make funeral arrangements. I was somewhat cold and numb but finally broke down when one of my sisters said I was talking with an...

I've definitely wanted to go back and have a simple life. But now more so because the people I love and who took care of me are either elderly and/or ill. I want them to be happy and strong, and then to be the support that I either took for granted or never asked for when I should have. Stronger...

Did a pile of dishes I let sit for too long, did laundry, and swept. I'm always reluctant to do house chores but the time flies when I do and my mind gets clear by focusing on immediate simple tasks.

@Case If you feel you can be honest, I would ask M's mother about her surgery and apologize that you did not inquire sooner as you were going through a rough patch in your life and suffering from depression. If you are taking medicine and therapy, I would mention these things to show you are...

I'm an introvert with a low need for social interaction, but like it for short durations, especially when I'm feeling good. At certain times, I actually crave interaction and can feel depressed and lonely when I don't get it. So, most people who have interacted with me and seen me shut down a...

The death of a loved one is like your relationship breakup. The grieving person needs to move on even though the death happened a few days (make that ONE day) ago.

Yes. Do you tell someone struggling with cancer that they don't deserve to be in a relationship? Just like cancer, depression is never cured. You get remission, you get relapses. It'll take someone special and strong to be with someone who struggles. Even if you marry someone completely "normal"...

I think there's a difference between blind trust and caution. You don't know a stranger. And a woman is usually smaller and has less strength to fend off a possible attacker. Once, I was invited to get into a stranger's car to drive me from the end of a hiking trail to the train station and I...

My condolences, although I don't think suicide is random and not understandable. People commit suicide when they hurt so much they need to escape from bad circumstances they feel are hopeless or to escape mental illnesses like depression. At one point I didn't understand it either and thought it...

I agree with this. I already know no person or relationship is ideal, just as I already try to make myself fulfilled and happy on my own. I think it depends on how you describe settling as: something less than your ideal, or something less than your standard. I use the term settling to describe...

Two more of my cousins just got married. Being older and perpetually single, I'm starting again to wonder if I should just settle for anyone who treats me well. I know I'm not in a good frame of mind to be thinking this. How do you stop yourself from getting out of the mindset of settling? Do...

Someone sent me a return holiday card! I thought they had forgotten, but it turns out the mail just actually took that long. =)

I think it's more loner than lonely lately. I've had a few friendships turn sour and people who seemed to be concerned about me and tried to cheer me up, only to want something from me five minutes later. I can't say I'm happy being a hermit, but I sometimes need to be away from people before...