Don't know how many people can relate on this point, how many people have some things in their life or from their past that are not easily shared with others, such as, I don't know, child abuse, bullying, rape, mental issues, chronic illness, or just a special sensitivity, something that makes one feels always different and somewhat despicable.
I find it terribly hard when someone I don't know well wants to start a personal conversation, because I just don't know what to say that wouldn't put the other person in a position of major discomfort (yes, all of my ex boyfriends were jerks, criminals and mental patients, and I am not being negative; oh, therapy, yes, I went on and off for 8 years; by the way, I spent five years in a wheelchair, and I am still not ok, so that is why I cannot come rock climbing next week - so, what time is your party on saturday?), and now I understand why last year I ended up only hanging out with people who were really distant, so at least I didn't have the embarrassment of these kinds of moments.
If you have some dark past, or dark aspects of yourself, how do you manage to still connect with others, without having to disclose everything or sounding too vague, especially when they share something about themselves and they expect you to share back? And do you also feel like a freak with three heads by doing this?
I find it terribly hard when someone I don't know well wants to start a personal conversation, because I just don't know what to say that wouldn't put the other person in a position of major discomfort (yes, all of my ex boyfriends were jerks, criminals and mental patients, and I am not being negative; oh, therapy, yes, I went on and off for 8 years; by the way, I spent five years in a wheelchair, and I am still not ok, so that is why I cannot come rock climbing next week - so, what time is your party on saturday?), and now I understand why last year I ended up only hanging out with people who were really distant, so at least I didn't have the embarrassment of these kinds of moments.
If you have some dark past, or dark aspects of yourself, how do you manage to still connect with others, without having to disclose everything or sounding too vague, especially when they share something about themselves and they expect you to share back? And do you also feel like a freak with three heads by doing this?