Sk1n1m1n
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Here is some advice I have learned the hard way so you don't make the same mistake
1. Avoid at all costs going to groups specifically for depression in your locality.
I know this sounds counterproductive, why would I want to not go to my local mental health cafe or recovery group. It's common sense right, we are lonely we need things to do! The reason being is that these groups are often run by people who have been in the same situation for over 10 years, they are bored following the same cycle and conversations can a bit boring, also some people in these groups often don't show up, so you spend an hour waiting for them to turn up and they don't show. You will find yourself bored out of your ass in 5 minutes from a lack of real connections.
For example a lass, I know used to spend the time the whole time talking about the weather, nothing else, she wouldn't say anything else and after while I got bored of her.
The other horrible lass I know of in community was an ex-service user of mine in social services and at first, it was great but then she appeared and she turned the group into a negative spiral so she would pick on someone who was self-harming, had severe depression, panic attacks and take the piss of them or say things that were inappropriate for they were feeling "Pull yourself together, read a good book when your crisis, just x your life, your life worthless anyway, go and drink x y z and take load of x while you're there.," she convinced anorexic that she was too fat and "she needed to carry on with her lifestyle choice" or she would convince someone to and eat themselves out "it's not that hard, you could just one pint of beer and it leads to the next," "I wish I could be an alcoholic, I could wine all day every day and never go to the dole office, drink up"
so best advice join clubs and groups on specific interests, so you are meeting people outside of your illness, join groups and clubs online, forums, chat rooms, etc.
2. Avoid mindfulness
You will come across a new craze called mindfulness and idea is very simple but this can simplify your problems and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be in distress because of work and some idiot says "look at the pretty window, concentrate your surroundings, focus on your breathing" so the easiest reaction is to say "I know you mean well, but this isn't the time, place or situation to be looking at the window, i have this report that needs to be done by 5 pm"
3. Hoping that anxiety pills during a situation will work when often they help once the situation is dealt with
At first, you may think about taking anti-anxiety pill during a bout of anxiety, it's common sense, a quick fix, a way to solve problem but these pills are great but often come with rather an awful side effect and you don't want to half-sleep while giving a presentation, so it's best given try once the anxiety situation is finished and you've gone home for the day and the use the drug to help chill you and forget about situation...a good movie, crap on telly,
1. Avoid at all costs going to groups specifically for depression in your locality.
I know this sounds counterproductive, why would I want to not go to my local mental health cafe or recovery group. It's common sense right, we are lonely we need things to do! The reason being is that these groups are often run by people who have been in the same situation for over 10 years, they are bored following the same cycle and conversations can a bit boring, also some people in these groups often don't show up, so you spend an hour waiting for them to turn up and they don't show. You will find yourself bored out of your ass in 5 minutes from a lack of real connections.
For example a lass, I know used to spend the time the whole time talking about the weather, nothing else, she wouldn't say anything else and after while I got bored of her.
The other horrible lass I know of in community was an ex-service user of mine in social services and at first, it was great but then she appeared and she turned the group into a negative spiral so she would pick on someone who was self-harming, had severe depression, panic attacks and take the piss of them or say things that were inappropriate for they were feeling "Pull yourself together, read a good book when your crisis, just x your life, your life worthless anyway, go and drink x y z and take load of x while you're there.," she convinced anorexic that she was too fat and "she needed to carry on with her lifestyle choice" or she would convince someone to and eat themselves out "it's not that hard, you could just one pint of beer and it leads to the next," "I wish I could be an alcoholic, I could wine all day every day and never go to the dole office, drink up"
so best advice join clubs and groups on specific interests, so you are meeting people outside of your illness, join groups and clubs online, forums, chat rooms, etc.
2. Avoid mindfulness
You will come across a new craze called mindfulness and idea is very simple but this can simplify your problems and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be in distress because of work and some idiot says "look at the pretty window, concentrate your surroundings, focus on your breathing" so the easiest reaction is to say "I know you mean well, but this isn't the time, place or situation to be looking at the window, i have this report that needs to be done by 5 pm"
3. Hoping that anxiety pills during a situation will work when often they help once the situation is dealt with
At first, you may think about taking anti-anxiety pill during a bout of anxiety, it's common sense, a quick fix, a way to solve problem but these pills are great but often come with rather an awful side effect and you don't want to half-sleep while giving a presentation, so it's best given try once the anxiety situation is finished and you've gone home for the day and the use the drug to help chill you and forget about situation...a good movie, crap on telly,