ardour
Well known loser
ladyforsaken said:*sighs*
Not sure I understand, you find my opinion tiresome or you're a teacher and I've offended you ?
ladyforsaken said:*sighs*
ardour said:ladyforsaken said:*sighs*
Not sure I understand, you find my opinion tiresome or you're a teacher and I've offended you ?
ladyforsaken said:ardour said:ladyforsaken said:*sighs*
Not sure I understand, you find my opinion tiresome or you're a teacher and I've offended you ?
Aww sorry if I confused you. I just wrote that to say something but then I was just too meh to really explain properly.
I am a teacher, yes. No I wasn't offended by what you said. It's just that I do agree with what you said, and I do find that some teachers do the whole favouritism thing and that totally sucks, but there are also teachers who try to find the "easy way" because they are just not well-supported by the school in terms of manpower, resources or even just general support, and the kids are seriously challenging in some places that sometimes the only way to just even survive the "battle" each time you see the kids is to "ignore" some of them - because halfway through the teachers give up, or they just can't do it. It's seriously not easy, you'll know what I mean if you've spent your days working with youth today.
I think the problem that I'm seeing in my area here (and I can only speak for myself here cos I'm not really sure how it is elsewhere) is that teachers are trained to teach, well enough, but aren't trained enough to handle these situations e.g. challenging kids, bullying etc.
I think for such schools with a lot of very challenging students (where bullying will tend to take place a lot more), they need to train more teachers in those areas of discipline to be able to handle these situations. Unfortunately, though.
In every lesson I go to, every single day, there is always a form of bullying going on and most commonly I see are personal verbal insults and I am always dealing with disciplinary issues like this that at times, I truly feel that I barely taught any content knowledge at all, but all I did was to talk to these kids about bullying. It never seems to work though, no matter what I do. Because when I am not around, something else always happens. It's really tiring though to keep talking to these kids about this, and they know it's wrong, they know it affects the victims badly.. but I feel that in some of them, they are wired in such a way where they don't feel anything for others. So how do you make someone feel for others?
Senamian said:Yes things like this aught to be let go... But no, it doesn't always work that way. My first bully was when I was 6, and he used to swear, push, hit, kick, etc... I must've had a lot of patience, but one day I had enough and gave him one good boxer punch to the mouth (I don't remember, all I remember was him being an ******* one day and the next being an ideal best friend who bent over backwards for me!).
But then we moved to the city, when I was 8, and from then on I was bullied for no reason or stupid reasons. "oh, you are friends with HER?" was one bullying reason, referring to my friend. Maybe I was socially awkward? I don't know. But that was another reason.
I was also bullied by teachers. One mocked me profusely, one always assumed I was at fault for things... But the worst one was the one who drew a chalk circle outside, big enough to stand in... And forced me to stand there recess and lunch. Why? I don't even remember. Maybe I talked back? Maybe I got into a verbal argument, or a fight... Whatever it was, it didn't justify that. Having students jab, laugh, mock, hit... With him standing there, and he only stepped in to stop me from leaving the circle or defending myself. That really did set in a lack of trust and respect in teachers after that. Took a long time for me to rebuild trust, respect, and confidence...
But I don't hold grudges against any of them. I don't hold it against anyone who bullied me (and trust me there is LONG list of bullies I encountered). But the situations, like the one with that teacher linger pretty vividly in my memories... All that ridicule, that hurt... It won't go away. But I don't let it become me.
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