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It depends... Sometimes I don't find any words to say even if I think a lot about it again and again. But then sometimes I can express myself almost too much. >_<
Lippy_Kid said:I'm better expressing myself through written means rather than spoken, I'm calmer and less reactive to what's said in response. I think people sometimes should sort issues out over email rather than face to face.
I'm a typical man, very laid back, rarely get annoyed and can forget things easy... unless I feel I'm being criticised. I'm quite poor at taking criticism.
silversurfer said:ForGrantedWife said:A quick response to someone looking hurt or angry to settle it would do just fine A "Hey don't take it that way, I didn't mean what you think I meant. I'm just not good at getting my point across clearly." would suffice. And a gentle smile helps soothe feelings too when you say something.
Yes that can be done rather than wait and let the time do the healing.
WallflowerGirl83 said:I'm a very expressive person, but when I first meet someone I'm a very shy person and it takes awhile for me to warm up to them. Once I get to know them better, I'm very very expressive. =)
I don't open up to people even after I spend a lot of time with them.
StarvingZombie said:They believe they have empathy but in reality are far from empathetic , they see life through only set set of glasses
This is the reason why sometimes I think that problem is not with me but with people. People just fail to see the world with someone elses view point.
@Badjedidude
I agree with your signature, People are quick to judge without understanding what others must have gone thru in life.
Triple Bogey said:No I can talk about anything to anybody when I feel like it.
I prefer my own company most of the time though.
If I can talk about anything to anybody I would never stay in my own company.
-Sai- said:I always have difficulity expressing myself with words. Knowing two languages helps, but most people here are pathetic at english. (here as in real life). I tend to talk faster than i can think of what i'm wanting to say, causing me to stutter, as well. People seem patient with me though.
Like you i can say things that come across as offensive while not meaning that at all. I have a very sarcastic sense of humour, and often people don't realise i am actually making a joke, which gets me in trouble every now and then.
Skid Row 89 said:I'm as inarticulate as you can get and to make matters worse I get embarrassed very easily.
Senamian said:I have been used to "I don't want to hear it" and "I don't care" phrases... So I stopped expressing myself. Ironically, the turn around was "Why don't you tell me anything?!" Gee, I wonder why? ><
So yes, I have difficulty expressing myself, due to never being "allowed". I've been working on counteracting that, which is painfully hard... Especially since, like you said, people tend to take things wrong or "assume" or twist the words... But when your words aught to matter the most (relationships for example) you need to be able to communicate... To express how you feel, and why you feel that way.
I also have a stutter. I have been working on it (slowing my speech), for a year and a half.
Embarrassed at how I come across to others. When I'm anxious around someone (or some number of people) I really can't hide it and I get the feeling most people think I'm an oddity.silversurfer said:Embarrassed about what?Skid Row 89 said:I'm as inarticulate as you can get and to make matters worse I get embarrassed very easily.
Skid Row 89 said:Embarrassed at how I come across to others. When I'm anxious around someone (or some number of people) I really can't hide it and I get the feeling most people think I'm an oddity.
Ignis said:I'm fortunate that for the most part I've never had a problem in expressing myself.
I've grown up doing Public Speaking and Debating, so I've had to learn to express my thoughts to groups of people. I've had to learn how to get my point across without being condescending and I've had to learn to muster the courage up to not be afraid to speak my mind.
I've had to talk about some pretty rough stuff. Racism, poverty, sexism. They can all be pretty scary subjects, especially when you know a single word can determine how every single person in a room thinks of you.
Outside of that... I've had a lot of problems in the past with expressing how I feel to my friends, mostly because I've had to swallow all my feelings when being around my family out of fear of being judged as weak, or inappropriate.
I've had to work on that a lot over the years, and I'm at a point where most of the time - even if it takes a little bit of effort; I'm able to tell someone exactly how I feel one on one.
Then there's women. Oh god. Let's not go there. Me, communication, and women do not go along together at all. I stumble over words, I say what I don't mean and I can never seem to convey a point clearly.
It's frustrating.
Oh well, room for improvement. Things to work on.
Ignis said:I've had a lot of problems in the past with expressing how I feel to my friends, mostly because I've had to swallow all my feelings when being around my family out of fear of being judged as weak, or inappropriate.
I stumble over words, I say what I don't mean and I can never seem to convey a point clearly.
It's frustrating.
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