Veilside05 said:
I think it helps if you get friends that have similiar interests as you. In that way, there will be much more to talk about. Sometimes its good to have quiet moments but friends are also important. They can give you support in your life major events.
+1
I agree, sometimes it's just a matter of finding the right match for you.
just like any relationship, not everyone fits, and sometimes people can aggrevate each others sensativities by being mismatched friends.
infact, this is partly why i came to this forum lol.
I have a friend that I care for very much, and we've known each other a long time. but her issues and my issues collide at times. when she's down, she hides and withdraws, when i'm down.. i want to chat and have someone around. so we end up stoking each others vulnerabilities.
I came here because I saw that there seemed to be a population of other people that shared some of my issues and may understand where I come from a bit more, and hopefully that will take pressure off of our friendship during those periods.
even right now infact.. she has been awol for the past 4 days and barely talked to me in the days leading up to that.
I know it's her depression kicking in.. and that in itself pains me to think about, but it also triggers my own insecurities.
but instead of giving up on her or taking offense in any way.. I'm trying to channel myself in other directions to give her time to resurface... where i'll be waiting with open arms if she needs a friend.