It's been a long time since I last came to these forums, and I never thought I'd come back again, but... well... here I am.
My girlfriend just broke up with me. It's been really tough. We'd lived together for pretty much the entire year at college, and just a few nights ago, almost out of nowhere, things happened between us that really shook her up and she decided she didn't want to continue.
I guess there are a few things I want to ask and mention.
First, without her in the room all the time, things have felt really empty and just not like home. It's been bothering me a lot, and I don't know how to deal with it. What can I do to just... live again?
Second, I realize now that by living with her all this time, I haven't been going out to do things, meeting friends, hanging out, getting to know people. I'm not the type that makes friends very easily, or at all (I'm not that socially amazing). By now it's definitely more difficult to do so since it's been a year since everyone's arrived at college (I'm a freshman). I feel the need to get out and see some faces OTHER than hers for once, but I have no idea where to start... And I have no idea if it's even worth it so late in the school year. Where do I start? Any suggestions?
Third, well this is the tricky part... she did come back a few nights ago to spend a small amount of time before leaving again, then asked if I wanted to have lunch with her the next day. She said it didn't feel like home anywhere else, with anyone other than me, which is why she came back... but she insisted that she didn't want to continue, at least for the time being, especially since she's with someone else right now (too sudden? Not really. Her "messing" with someone else had been a big point of friction between us in the last couple of weeks, and I guess she just followed up on that). She told me that we could try again after a few months, if she feels like we can.
I'm just really confused about that. Whether she really means it, or if she's just trying to ease things before she leaves, or if she only felt that way in the moment. Is it worth even having the hope that she might come back, even if it's far into the future or something? I really don't know what to think.
I just don't know what to think or what might help. It's been an awful week for me. I was extremely lonely once, but I somehow eventually crawled myself out of it over the years... now though, it's all coming back to me in a new environment and it's just... scary.
My girlfriend just broke up with me. It's been really tough. We'd lived together for pretty much the entire year at college, and just a few nights ago, almost out of nowhere, things happened between us that really shook her up and she decided she didn't want to continue.
I guess there are a few things I want to ask and mention.
First, without her in the room all the time, things have felt really empty and just not like home. It's been bothering me a lot, and I don't know how to deal with it. What can I do to just... live again?
Second, I realize now that by living with her all this time, I haven't been going out to do things, meeting friends, hanging out, getting to know people. I'm not the type that makes friends very easily, or at all (I'm not that socially amazing). By now it's definitely more difficult to do so since it's been a year since everyone's arrived at college (I'm a freshman). I feel the need to get out and see some faces OTHER than hers for once, but I have no idea where to start... And I have no idea if it's even worth it so late in the school year. Where do I start? Any suggestions?
Third, well this is the tricky part... she did come back a few nights ago to spend a small amount of time before leaving again, then asked if I wanted to have lunch with her the next day. She said it didn't feel like home anywhere else, with anyone other than me, which is why she came back... but she insisted that she didn't want to continue, at least for the time being, especially since she's with someone else right now (too sudden? Not really. Her "messing" with someone else had been a big point of friction between us in the last couple of weeks, and I guess she just followed up on that). She told me that we could try again after a few months, if she feels like we can.
I'm just really confused about that. Whether she really means it, or if she's just trying to ease things before she leaves, or if she only felt that way in the moment. Is it worth even having the hope that she might come back, even if it's far into the future or something? I really don't know what to think.
I just don't know what to think or what might help. It's been an awful week for me. I was extremely lonely once, but I somehow eventually crawled myself out of it over the years... now though, it's all coming back to me in a new environment and it's just... scary.