My first pregnancy was with one of my best friends from childhood, all his family lived in the same neighborhood they were known for $ but tight knit holding family secrets close, I remember going to his six year birthday party with a pool, he gave me $10 that day. The party ended for me when I was on the diving board and fell off hitting my crotch on the diving board as I fell into the water. I immediately went home, to find he came after me to see if I was ok.
Years later, we were teenagers and us group of close friends in the neighborhood would go to his parents property 120 acres and stay the weekend. Well we hooked up and guess what, I got pregnant. We had all been on drugs and once I found out I cleaned up, he didn’t.
Baby girl was born we stayed with my parents, he began to get possessive controlling and violent. I could not talk to a guy or stand close or I would get it. It went on while our baby was so young , I used to ask friends to stay with me so he would abuse me when we were alone. He would put a pillow over my head and hit me and said it wouldn’t leave a mark.
We went to visit his family property his dad was gone but mom and sisters where there, he trapped me there would not let me leave, the abuse was scary his family would not get involved as I believe they were also afraid. He gone to store and I had to do something, I had an old att phone that hooks up to telephone wires like company uses, I called my bff and her and my dad came and took me and my baby girl home. After that he was in and out of jail and only got out and made something of himself about six years ago.
I never received any child support as he would quit working once I filed. So I stopped tryin.
He wrote from jail and one thing I NEVER down talked him to my daughter out of respect for her, I lived in fear that his family would pay for him to get my baby away. However it was always about me in his head and never her. I didn’t want her to go tru trams like I have with him, he would do all he could to turn her on me.
Well at that point my will was made and I made sure if something happens to me she would not go to him.
We made it safe tru the years up until right after high school … she was rebelling and he just got out and was clean and had his own apartment I thought he could help (what was I thinking) dreaming I guess.
That back fired they ended up getting together, she saw him for money
She told him whatever it took to get money out of him and she knew that was one thing that I feared was them together and she played on it.
Since the first time she found it so easy to get money from him it went on like that till this day.
I felt hurt but thought he owed her the money and if I didn’t get it at least she is now.
Their relationship was on and off for years
she did always keep her guard up as I finally told her lil bits of what he is capable of for her own knowledge.(once she became 18 )
It was always on when she needed something or was upset with me.
Only on her terms