VanillaCreme said:
You can't make someone be with you. You can't make anyone like you. All you can do is put yourself out there, present yourself in a true light so that people who do notice you will have a chance to get to know you, and have that opportunity to like you. It's not something that can be forced. If someone doesn't want to continue something, be it a friendship or a relationship of some sort, then be thankful that they're not being fake about it. I'd rather not be with someone than for them to have a sense of falsified happiness.
This, exactly. The more I delve into dating sites, the more I see this (what Nilla is talking about).
Just last week I went out with a guy from eharmony. We'd already been talking on line and then on the phone a couple of times over about a two week period.
The dinner and the convo were good, as was the company. He was very kind and courteous. He took me home and walked me to my door, where he hugged me and told me he enjoyed the evening.
But...for some reason, I entered my mind at that very moment, that I'd never hear from him again. Well, it's been a full week and not so much as a text (he was texting me a couple of times a day, every day before we went out).
I doubt I'll ever see him again unless I just happen to run into him some place.
It sort of bothered me that he didn't bother to at least call me and say that he didnt think we'd suit or something, instead of ignoring me.
I think he's the kind of guy who would just ignore you rather than possibly saying something to hurt your feelings.
So...my point for sharing this bit of personal info is explain that a lot of times you aren't going to know why the girl you went out with last week didn't want a second date. Just as I easily accepted that he didn't feel I was right for him, moved on, you should try to do the same. I have no doubt that the guy I've mentioned her likely thinks I'm a good person - I just think there was something about me that made him decide not to call me back. I'm ok with that. Somehow, I think it will become easier when it happens again (and I'm sure it will) for me to just keep moving right along.
When you think about it, it's really not wrong for someone to decide that you aren't who they are looking for. Take it at face value and move forward. Sometimes you just aren't going to know why the person rejected you as a partner. Note I said as a partner, not a person.
look over any typos - I'm using my phone.