I had to move around alot as a child, so I kind of got used to making friends
or meeting people. Even the people I met weren't too healhty for me.
A friendship as in any type of relationship requires maintenance.
I've been attending support groups and I've making friends throught that
at the moment. I have common bonds with certain people.
I'm not as close to as I used to be with anyone at the moment.
Never the less these types of relationships is helping me learn how to trust again.
It also helps me keep in contacts with people...
I isolated myself for a while and got used to just being alone.
In other words...I'm a bit lazy when it comes to relationships building or keeping a relationship.
I have 4-5 people that will visit me or call me on a regular basis.
It's almost like a chore to me to call my sponsor or call my friends.
It's not so much that I lack friendship building skills...I'm basiscally too lazy.
On a certain level. I have a lot of trusts issues..mental and emotional blocks.
Bascailly my best friends messed my fiance when I was in college.
It took me a long time to get over that.
In my last long term relationship...my ex-gf fresia bascailly my best friends again.
It was like reliving a freaken nightmair again.
I want to be able to connect with people again or have sometype of values
for relationships. The people that I reach out to in my support groups knows that.
It's little wierd to explain.. In the back of my mind I still don't trust people.
I don't value relationships as much as I used too...even though I want to.
On a good day I feel i can trust again. On a bad day, I think it's retarded.
So for me it's has to do with me getting WELL...the more well I get..
The better my life gets.
I still run into HS buddies or long time friends every now and then.
They're still my friends even though we don't hang out as much anymore.
I made a couple of good friends through an r/c model club..
We had common interest and could hang out and talk about aviation or the
in and out of R/C flying.
Well..in my 20's i was party animal and had all kinds of people in and out of
my life. Most of it was becuase i had a carefree personality.
Yeah...I sort of ran around with a click of people..bascailly my band members.
Plus i was also in the usaf..I had a click of guys I'd used to hang out with
and bascailly went out and party all the time. Get drunk and go to night clubs
and meet different women all the time. So bascailly it was sort of routine
for me to get rejected or accepted by women. We bascailly went out drinking
almost everynight except for sunday. (Sunday is to catch up on sleeping).
In other words there were plenty of women to go around. Plus being in the
military there was self disciplin, courage, and facing fears getting
drilled into ya all the time...
All the women I've had long relationships with asked me out.
Bascailly becuase I was active and hardly stayed home.
Plus I was easy going and didn't have alot of hang ups.
I'm a bit of an air head...that's why all my gfs were blondes.
I don't meet people all the time...but over a period of time I collected peaple in my life.
I'd call or stay in contact with them or go out of my way to call them or visit them.
Invite them to go do something all the time. I didn't have to work at it.
It came natrual or there were enough people in my life, I seldom had to do anyhting alone.
Oe somtimes I'll get invited to go do something. It dosn't have to be anything major
or formal. Fortunately where I got stationed at was a big enough city with plenty of
activities or hang out places for young people aside from the bars or night clubs.
Such as hanging out a park on a saturday afternoon...there's probably thousands of people there.
Or a quick drive to a nearby lake.
So when it comes to having a gf..most women thought it was fun being around me
becuase we were always doing sometype of activities.
Which is like a double edge sword..becuase once she gets me or when the relationship
gose past the courting or honeymoon stage. I'll still wanna go hang out and party.
I basically worked hard and I party hard.
Bascailly women were chasing me...becuase I didn't chase them.
I had a bit of a chip on my shoulders and I had a bussied sechdule.
So i wasn't sitting and wondering about people all the time.
Time flies when you're having fun sort of speak
My ex-wf and a couple of other gf's used to stalk me or chased me all the time..lmao
Plus I was making good money and drove a sports car..Pretty shallow some people would say,
but that just the way it is. GFs arn't cheap. Doing activities,partying or taking a weekend get away aren't cheap.
Plus back in the days...peaple were out and about more becuase
there wasn't an internet.
