when I met this girl she seemed ok, we didn't have a lot in common but she was funny, and I just had this little shiver when at the end of the evening she mentioned that "we will meet A LOT".
Then she was calling almost every day, I thought maybe it's the cultural gap, where I was living before you would have to take an appointment 2 weeks in advance to meet your own mother, and I also found a bit too much that she would think that meeting twice a week wasn't enough (I wasn't meeting my best friend in high school more than twice a week!).
Then I was feeling guilty because I was feeling a bit bored as she called me to talk about a) how she has no job (but doesn't want to look for one b) imaginary illnesses c) how men are honeysuckle and women are worse (I am supposed to be a woman, thank you very much), d) life is honeysuckle, especially hers e) holidays suck, the city sucks, the country sucks, you get my drift.
And also that time that I had to stay until 3 am because she came with a guy who usually dumps her five minutes after arriving in a venue to pick up girls, and she knows that but she goes anyway, and she got drunk and cried and was going to spend the night on a sofa in this venue if I hadn't found her a lift (she is 41 by the way), and I felt guilty because she apologized so much, and I thought : I will just hang out with her from time to time, she always complains that she is so alone, I feel bad just dumping her.
The problem is that each time she writes: "let's go out" but then she changes her mind, well, she doesn't really changes her mind but she wants to be "convinced", and in the end she always wanted to go, and I don't have time for that and she gets disappointed because I just say: ok, let me know what you want to do.
And changing plans like that for me is terrible, because I can go out only thanks to a lot of organization as I don't have much energy, and now it's three, four times that she cancels on the last minute (to then call again in half hour to "re-install" the appointment, and get annoyed because I am in my pajamas or made other plans).
And she keeps calling every single day, three times a day, now I just don't answer - is there anyway in the world that I can turn down this person, gently or otherwise? I feel bad because she is so lonely, although I think there is a reason for that, and there is that nagging voice in my head repeating "no wonder you are lonely, you are never content with anyone!"
Then she was calling almost every day, I thought maybe it's the cultural gap, where I was living before you would have to take an appointment 2 weeks in advance to meet your own mother, and I also found a bit too much that she would think that meeting twice a week wasn't enough (I wasn't meeting my best friend in high school more than twice a week!).
Then I was feeling guilty because I was feeling a bit bored as she called me to talk about a) how she has no job (but doesn't want to look for one b) imaginary illnesses c) how men are honeysuckle and women are worse (I am supposed to be a woman, thank you very much), d) life is honeysuckle, especially hers e) holidays suck, the city sucks, the country sucks, you get my drift.
And also that time that I had to stay until 3 am because she came with a guy who usually dumps her five minutes after arriving in a venue to pick up girls, and she knows that but she goes anyway, and she got drunk and cried and was going to spend the night on a sofa in this venue if I hadn't found her a lift (she is 41 by the way), and I felt guilty because she apologized so much, and I thought : I will just hang out with her from time to time, she always complains that she is so alone, I feel bad just dumping her.
The problem is that each time she writes: "let's go out" but then she changes her mind, well, she doesn't really changes her mind but she wants to be "convinced", and in the end she always wanted to go, and I don't have time for that and she gets disappointed because I just say: ok, let me know what you want to do.
And changing plans like that for me is terrible, because I can go out only thanks to a lot of organization as I don't have much energy, and now it's three, four times that she cancels on the last minute (to then call again in half hour to "re-install" the appointment, and get annoyed because I am in my pajamas or made other plans).
And she keeps calling every single day, three times a day, now I just don't answer - is there anyway in the world that I can turn down this person, gently or otherwise? I feel bad because she is so lonely, although I think there is a reason for that, and there is that nagging voice in my head repeating "no wonder you are lonely, you are never content with anyone!"