I'm glad you understand. I know we aren't losers!dannyr22 said:That's how I feel. Funny how things work out.
I know people that treat women like that, they get long term relationships always, even though their gf knows what they are like!
We are not losers but it's hard to remind myself that :|
nerdygirl said:So... what you're saying is... that because you don't have the sort of woman who is okay with being cheated on, assaulted, abused, or degraded... you're a loser? Alllllrighty then.
Ak5 said:Not true. Girls eventually get tired of the honeysuckle they go through.
Sterling said:Have you ever considered that you're going for the wrong women?
I can promise you that women do NOT want to be cheated on, harmed, treating like honeysuckle or anything. Some of them PUT UP WITH IT, but it does not mean that they want it. Sure, when women are young they go for someone 'cool', 'mysterious', or a 'bad boy'....ust like guys. They go for some slutty girl. These are not the people you take home to mom to meet. These people are a learning experience and rarely the actual people the stay with for life. If you keep with that attitude, a girl is not going to want to date you because of your assumptions. After they're done having their fun, they'll want a nice guy not some deadbeat.
blackdot said:I haven't cheated on a woman which is why I can't find one to date.
Lonesome Crow said:hate to burst your bubble...
But do you actaully believe women arnt capiable
of being lying, cheating, manipulative, abusive, using, bitches????
I can fucken assure you...As a man. I dont wanna be cheated on
or be a fucken ponching bag either.
WTF??? you're saying I should look for a woman that's ready to settle down
after she's been around the mother fucken blocks a couple of times???
Geeze talk about settling for less...
Virginity works for chicks...man. Not dudes
How about slapping her ass and pulling her hair. Be in the front of the gravy train ?
Darkness said:Ummm yeah I know they can be all those things you just said, but I don't go for those ones. Most of them are easy to spot. As of being in front of the gravy train... I will never go that low!
Darkness said:Never cheated on a woman, physically assaulted a woman, abused or degraded a woman. So therefore I must be a loser! Since all the guys around me do those things, and still go home to someone. While I go home to nothing.
Callie said:Okay, this may come off as a little harsh, but um....that is the STUPIDEST thing I have ever heard in my entire life. And this is coming from someone who HAS been cheated on and abused.
It's not as simple as you make it out to be. We don't go LOOKING for those types of guys, but more often than not, they present qualities that we like, the abuse and cheating comes later (or they lie about cheating and we don't find out until later.
Honestly, after the relationships I've been in, I don't know what I'd do with a genuine nice guy. lol
Callie said:Darkness said:Never cheated on a woman, physically assaulted a woman, abused or degraded a woman. So therefore I must be a loser! Since all the guys around me do those things, and still go home to someone. While I go home to nothing.
Okay, this may come off as a little harsh, but um....that is the STUPIDEST thing I have ever heard in my entire life. And this is coming from someone who HAS been cheated on and abused.
It's not as simple as you make it out to be. We don't go LOOKING for those types of guys, but more often than not, they present qualities that we like, the abuse and cheating comes later (or they lie about cheating and we don't find out until later.
As far as the whole "I've never cheated, abused, degraded and I never will" saying goes...I know you didn't say that exactly....I've heard that before, wasn't true. Not saying it isn't true in YOUR case, but well, people lie.
Just boost your confidence and try, it's all you can do. Honestly, after the relationships I've been in, I don't know what I'd do with a genuine nice guy. lol
Darkness said:Callie said:Darkness said:Never cheated on a woman, physically assaulted a woman, abused or degraded a woman. So therefore I must be a loser! Since all the guys around me do those things, and still go home to someone. While I go home to nothing.
Okay, this may come off as a little harsh, but um....that is the STUPIDEST thing I have ever heard in my entire life. And this is coming from someone who HAS been cheated on and abused.
It's not as simple as you make it out to be. We don't go LOOKING for those types of guys, but more often than not, they present qualities that we like, the abuse and cheating comes later (or they lie about cheating and we don't find out until later.
As far as the whole "I've never cheated, abused, degraded and I never will" saying goes...I know you didn't say that exactly....I've heard that before, wasn't true. Not saying it isn't true in YOUR case, but well, people lie.
Just boost your confidence and try, it's all you can do. Honestly, after the relationships I've been in, I don't know what I'd do with a genuine nice guy. lol
Callie I know woman don't go out and look for those types of relationships! The part that makes me mad is that they go out with these guys who have done these things and they are like... all he has changed. He isn't like that anymore. blah blah blah. Then later down the road. He is a ***** all he wanted is sex, he beat me and cheated on me! A lot of us just shake our heads.
Now I'm not sitting either acting like I'm the perfect guy in the world. That is not the case. Know buddy is perfect and we all make mistakes in the world. I'm just simply applying that I will never do those things.
Callie I'm sorry you had to experience that type of relationship! I applaud you for getting out of it and not staying in it like so many others do!
Callie said:Darkness said:Callie said:Darkness said:Never cheated on a woman, physically assaulted a woman, abused or degraded a woman. So therefore I must be a loser! Since all the guys around me do those things, and still go home to someone. While I go home to nothing.
Okay, this may come off as a little harsh, but um....that is the STUPIDEST thing I have ever heard in my entire life. And this is coming from someone who HAS been cheated on and abused.
It's not as simple as you make it out to be. We don't go LOOKING for those types of guys, but more often than not, they present qualities that we like, the abuse and cheating comes later (or they lie about cheating and we don't find out until later.
As far as the whole "I've never cheated, abused, degraded and I never will" saying goes...I know you didn't say that exactly....I've heard that before, wasn't true. Not saying it isn't true in YOUR case, but well, people lie.
Just boost your confidence and try, it's all you can do. Honestly, after the relationships I've been in, I don't know what I'd do with a genuine nice guy. lol
Callie I know woman don't go out and look for those types of relationships! The part that makes me mad is that they go out with these guys who have done these things and they are like... all he has changed. He isn't like that anymore. blah blah blah. Then later down the road. He is a ***** all he wanted is sex, he beat me and cheated on me! A lot of us just shake our heads.
Now I'm not sitting either acting like I'm the perfect guy in the world. That is not the case. Know buddy is perfect and we all make mistakes in the world. I'm just simply applying that I will never do those things.
Callie I'm sorry you had to experience that type of relationship! I applaud you for getting out of it and not staying in it like so many others do!
Without having been in a relationship like that, you can't really understand what goes on in our heads. It's still not as simple as you think it is.
As far as ME getting out...He left me, not the other way around...and for the first year, I wanted him back. Because he screwed with my head and I didn't think I would be able to find anyone else, no one would want me, he was IT for me, etc etc etc. But I suppose the whole point is that I don't want him NOW, regardless of how long it took. Will I wind up in another abusive relationship? Maybe, maybe not. Perhaps I'll just skip it entirely and be alone. Time will tell.
Ak5 said:Nice guys finish last and these abusive men you describe end up alone. You don't want to be either of them. Find the qualities girls like in a "bad boy" and blend it with your "nice guy" personality.
That's my current strategy, lol.
Darkness said:Ak5 said:Nice guys finish last and these abusive men you describe end up alone. You don't want to be either of them. Find the qualities girls like in a "bad boy" and blend it with your "nice guy" personality.
That's my current strategy, lol.
Sounds like a good strategy to me!
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