Jenncats said:
I know I'm going to be alone forever and I'm happy about it. It takes a really strong mind and someone who knows themselves enough to know they are secure about not having anyone to depend on. So what if your alone, happiness comes from within not from someone else.
Awesome response. Jen. But I do recognize that men have "urges" (trying to be funny not judgey) which might make it more miserable for them. But for me, I am truly happy with no one in my life. Yeh sure if someone great walked in the door and wanted me as I am, sure, I wouldn't kick him out of bed for eating crackers but that isn't going to happen.
What I don't understand is why. I'm responsible, have a great job, my own house, nice car, dress well, take care of my health, never been in trouble, well educated, etc. and yet women don't even notice that I exist. I honestly don't understand it.
What Jen said about not everyone needing someone. I am exactly the same way. All of the above but also, guys don't notice I exist. I am not a babe but also not ugly. I really feel that people who have relationships and a lot of them... have a lure (sexy; needy; strange look to them that people notice; very gregarious and make everyone feel they are wanted) I think my lure, to the extent I have one, seems to attract the seriously wrong type of guy. Abusers; crazys; rapey, married ones. So I kind of hide. Every time I come out of my shell... EVERY SINGLE TIME... I attract the problems first sending me back the other way. If that has to be the way it is... is has to be the way it is. I have made peace with that.
Some people think they will "die alone" if they don't get married. I am sorry to point this out to you but you will die alone. My parents were married for 40 years but both died alone. Even with their devoted kids. My dad died of a heart attack and we weren't there and my mom died of cancer and at the moment of her passing she was so doped up on morphine she wouldn't have known if we were there or not.. but we weren't. Most people don't die with their family around.
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about the kind you attract, I am the same way. I'd rather be alone if that's what I'm attracting, ya know?